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Sep 27, 2008 10:27 PM CST Marriage - your views
cazzywazzy
cazzywazzycazzywazzyAlloa, Central, Scotland UK2 Threads 21 Posts
I've never been been married but I did read somewhere that alot of marriages fail because men get married thinking things will stay the same and women get married thinking it will change. this makes sense to me but I was wondering what others thought.
Sep 28, 2008 1:35 AM CST Marriage - your views
mike1937
mike1937mike1937Broadstairs, Kent, England UK22 Threads 2 Polls 1,184 Posts
cazzywazzy: I've never been been married but I did read somewhere that alot of marriages fail because men get married thinking things will stay the same and women get married thinking it will change. this makes sense to me but I was wondering what others thought.


Here is my take on the issue. Plese do not read if not serious as this is a complex issue

My wife Barbara and I were married for 41 years. 1966 -2007
Even though I am agnostic I firmly believe in the instution of marriage and will take anyone on to death if they take the piss out of it in front of me, in defence of those ENGLISH traditional values of love and respect, and I was brought up with, though we never had children regrettably, as it just never happened.

She died last year from a massive sudden stroke. She had it on May 25th at home here at 0940 hrs and was rushed into hospital and got there at 1020 hrs thanks to the efiiciency of the ambulance crew and A&E ICU Margate. She spent 11 days being cared for to the very highest standards of cleanliness, hygiene and persnnal care my family have seen in the NHS in the stroke unit. ALL the staff and consultants there were nothing short of magnificent to me and the family even after she died having had no response in anyway to any stimulation whatsoever on the 26th and we cremated her on June 8th. We were told and I saw the 4 cm blood clot on the left side of the brain and understood exactly what I was seeing from experience in X ray and Infra red detection equipment development that she would have NOT been able to conmmunicate and been totally paralysed down the Right side, had she survived due to massive Oxygen starvation to the brain so it was fortunate it ended so quickly.

After the destruction of my life and realisation of my dependence upon her dawned on me that so called *men* today need but are too gutless to admit, through arrogantyignorance I came to terms with it after about 4 weeks, hence I was looking for a new partner - NOT a replacement to help me overcome lonliness although I, unlike many have hobbies and my model and engineering interests workwise after retiremenet to assist me and they did.

I also value friends New and old - not *Heil fellow well mets* who disappear when you are in trouble. One gets selective with age and experiencee

SO Marriage - My advice - Yes its a two way thing though and needs self discipline - a word banned by woolly hat theorists and miscellaneous allgedly qualified do gooders !!

Both partners should get or have a peaceful or any non controversial hobby that does not involve going away too often and if possible both should like or respect and the chidren should be brought up similarly right from birth and through their teens.
Above all live within your financial means and teach the chidren the same values

But its really horses for courses and anyone who says its old hat should not complain if it goes belly up over beatings, money issues, drink or drug abuse etc and should get out of it as soon as they can !!

Will I do it again with the lady I met on CS ? - Hopefully

Mike Dennis - Broadstairs
Read my profile if interested cheers
Sep 28, 2008 2:10 AM CST Marriage - your views
lisalee1960
lisalee1960lisalee1960st pauls, Majjistral Malta9 Threads 260 Posts
i wouldnt do it again,but mine was a different set of circumstances to the man above me
Sep 28, 2008 7:01 AM CST Marriage - your views
tinaferrara
tinaferraratinaferraraedinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK17 Threads 278 Posts
tried it once and didnt like it
Sep 28, 2008 8:13 AM CST Marriage - your views
mike1937
mike1937mike1937Broadstairs, Kent, England UK22 Threads 2 Polls 1,184 Posts
lisalee1960: i wouldnt do it again,but mine was a different set of circumstances to the man above me


I respect yours and othe peoples views as I hopefully implied in the last part of my contribution.

BUT - Was it so bad that I do not deserve the normal courtesy of a name ?

wine

Mike Dennis
Broadstairs
Kent UK
Sep 28, 2008 12:46 PM CST Marriage - your views
Zellarrone1
Zellarrone1Zellarrone1Hull, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK37 Threads 5 Polls 10,047 Posts
cazzywazzy: I've never been been married but I did read somewhere that alot of marriages fail because men get married thinking things will stay the same and women get married thinking it will change. this makes sense to me but I was wondering what others thought.
<--Never been married professor

<--Never had the slightest bit of interest in marriage professor

<--No plans to get married in the future professor

<--Confirmed Spinster rollers
Sep 28, 2008 1:49 PM CST Marriage - your views
Beenabout
BeenaboutBeenaboutPreston, Lancashire, England UK6 Threads 209 Posts
Agree with Mike-Marriage is a very serious business-it DEMANDS total Commitment and Sacrifice by both parties-If you're not sure or got prefixed ideas-DON'T GO THERE-because the Reality will shatter any fantasy!.
Sep 30, 2008 12:14 PM CST Marriage - your views
lisalee1960
lisalee1960lisalee1960st pauls, Majjistral Malta9 Threads 260 Posts
i will go to bed without supper, didnt know that saying,the man above me,was offensive,slap my wrists mike broadstairs
Sep 30, 2008 3:09 PM CST Marriage - your views
ben002
ben002ben002town, England UK11 Threads 11 Polls 79 Posts
marriage
no real meaning
lots of ways and difficult to assume
pride
health
money
sex
job
house
country of birth,passport,faith,religion
drinks
food
interference in private lives
lucks
activities
society
perfer to stay alone and meet sincere friends
comments why there are divorse,single,widow,etc
views
why are we on this website and who really need it badly



my wedding colapse,i have endure some time of it
lots of time to heal myself
who to be blame
Sep 30, 2008 4:20 PM CST Marriage - your views
mike1937
mike1937mike1937Broadstairs, Kent, England UK22 Threads 2 Polls 1,184 Posts
lisalee1960: i will go to bed without supper, didnt know that saying,the man above me,was offensive,slap my wrists mike broadstairs


I would volunteer to be *on top* of or talk to a woman whose face is hidden grin
Oct 1, 2008 1:15 AM CST Marriage - your views
Angel_Diva
Angel_DivaAngel_Divawales, South Glamorgan, Wales UK71 Threads 2 Polls 1,329 Posts
Mike,

well said that man....see the "old" ( if i may be so bold to say) values are the best ones. I feel that too many babies having babies group think of marriage as in "what can they gain" from it or play at it. Like its a game. certainly isnt and yes im divorced, 25 years ago, had 2 rellies in that time neither worked out but would i do it again...damm right BUT and a very BIG BUT

they would have to prove to me they want what id like and visa verce ,,,no man/woman has the rite to change a person so if u want to change that some one speical in ur life u certainly have the wrong person to think about marrying. Simple really.

i wont change myself nor my family for anyone who is shallow enough to want me too. I dont suffer fools gladly trust me on that one.

So yes marriage is for me but by jolly they better stay faithful !!!!
Oct 1, 2008 1:41 AM CST Marriage - your views
mike1937
mike1937mike1937Broadstairs, Kent, England UK22 Threads 2 Polls 1,184 Posts
Angel_Diva: Mike, well said that man....see the "old" ( if i may be so bold to say) values are the best ones. I feel that too i wont change myself nor my family for anyone who is shallow enough to want me too. I dont suffer fools gladly trust me on that one. -- So yes marriage is for me but by jolly they better stay faithful !!!!


AaW - Gee - Thanks - There's lovely U are, isn't it - lips wine

Having worked for a few in my time I got used to Diva's in my part time profession and they were not suffered by others or this *fool* gladly when they threw dummies out of the pram - Ant that's just blokes devil

Butt A - Cattain Bertorrelli - He taka de looka ata your profilea ana mugshotsa - You Beeuutifulla Laideee thassa for sure wink
So reada mina baby anna U seea I only wanna one Laidee too.

Itza damna shaama we connecta butta you no wanna de olderbods who have enuffa backing to treata U witha lotsa Lova, plenty kissses n cuddles anna meen it, specially after de dinners ana de wine wine wine wine wine wine lips

Unlessa you messages a me a ina de private ann a we chat teddybear wave
grin
cheers

Mike angel @ Broadstairs
Oct 1, 2008 5:14 AM CST Marriage - your views
lisalee1960
lisalee1960lisalee1960st pauls, Majjistral Malta9 Threads 260 Posts
i dont really understand your comment,mike,you mention me not having the courtesy to use your name,i dont see you having the courtest to use my name???
Oct 1, 2008 5:15 AM CST Marriage - your views
lisalee1960
lisalee1960lisalee1960st pauls, Majjistral Malta9 Threads 260 Posts
courtesy,cant type
Oct 1, 2008 7:16 AM CST Marriage - your views
tinaferrara
tinaferraratinaferraraedinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK17 Threads 278 Posts
think mike is saying you havent put up a pic,neither have i, as im just here for the forums and no longer looking for a date, as i have found my better half,so dont need to advertise.pic or not you havent been rude and are entitled to your opinionthumbs up
Oct 1, 2008 8:15 AM CST Marriage - your views
Seabiscuit
SeabiscuitSeabiscuitPlymouth, Devon, England UK69 Threads 2,362 Posts
I'm not sure on the whole marriage situation to be honest.. Don't know whether it's really needed anymore. But in saying that I WANT to get married one day..
Oct 1, 2008 9:15 AM CST Marriage - your views
mike1937
mike1937mike1937Broadstairs, Kent, England UK22 Threads 2 Polls 1,184 Posts
lisalee1960: i dont really understand your comment,mike,you mention me not having the courtesy to use your name,i dont see you having the courtest to use my name???


Well - You never quoted the original mesdsage so if you actually read the quoted part it here your name appears and the word wrote so there was no need to mention it.

anyway have

teddybear and a stop whinging and then a wine on me as a 'pology if yo is pissed orf grin

cheers from HIM angel the shitehawk
Oct 1, 2008 11:12 AM CST Marriage - your views
lisalee1960
lisalee1960lisalee1960st pauls, Majjistral Malta9 Threads 260 Posts
apology acceptedthumbs up i look at things like this mike, when you give it out you have to take it too!
Oct 1, 2008 12:29 PM CST Marriage - your views
romy999
romy999romy999london, Greater London, England UK1 Threads 123 Posts
i have been married and also lived together, if you are married the law is on your side and you are treated more fairly by society!cheering
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