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Sep 30, 2008 2:51 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
rolltideroll
rolltiderollrolltiderollKillen, Alabama USA30 Threads 18 Polls 236 Posts
I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.
dunno
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Sep 30, 2008 2:52 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.


Unpack that a bit sweetheart....
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Sep 30, 2008 3:45 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
It's hard because we have been there and done that.....older and wiser now....going in with eyes wide open.....and plus we tend to analyise everything.....well at least I do.....wine
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Sep 30, 2008 3:45 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
kamelia
kameliakameliaNegotino, Macedonia16 Threads 2 Polls 704 Posts
It doesn't matter if you are a single parent or just single professor

It's a jungle out there, the survival of the toughest banana

But seriously, when you start thinking about meeting new people, then going through the good and not so good dating experiences, trying to find someone who thinks alike confused it's a long and heart-wearing process.
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Sep 30, 2008 4:16 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
lanabyte
lanabytelanabyteCharleston, West Virginia USA31 Threads 1 Polls 1,674 Posts
I think it's more difficult because you have to consider how this person will be around your children. It's not only you and your wants and needs, but the children's too. Children should always come first. I think parenthood matures you in some ways that nothing else does.
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Sep 30, 2008 4:24 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
DazzleYou
DazzleYouDazzleYouSeattle, WA, Washington USA60 Threads 2 Polls 1,343 Posts
hard to find time....

My last date was a hot pocket, a shoulder rub, 2 interruptions totally 15 minutes in the break room.
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Sep 30, 2008 4:28 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
Hawkgirl
HawkgirlHawkgirlorange, Massachusetts USA45 Posts
rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.


It's more difficult with children.I have a 6 yr old and he comes first but I need to make time for me too. It can be done away from the kids ,Grandmas are a great help!!!
Good Luck!comfort
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Nov 3, 2008 8:06 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
MysticalUnicorn
MysticalUnicornMysticalUnicornHamilton, Ontario Canada26 Threads 1 Polls 259 Posts
I have a 3 year old son, never had an issue getting guys. Most guys don't care.
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Nov 3, 2008 9:40 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA99 Threads 20,283 Posts
I don't think it's necessarily being a single parent that makes it harder...been there...I think it's being older and wiser, and not being willing to settle for less than what we want. We meet someone, in the first couple of dates it doesn't click, then we're looking again. I know I stayed longer when I was younger because I didn't care as much about the things that I do now.

comfort hug cheers
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Nov 10, 2008 10:43 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
rolltideroll
rolltiderollrolltiderollKillen, Alabama USA30 Threads 18 Polls 236 Posts
I have been a single mom for 5yrs. I can find men to date its just that they get tired of having the kids around after about 6mos.
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Nov 10, 2008 10:49 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA99 Threads 20,283 Posts
rolltideroll: I have been a single mom for 5yrs. I can find men to date its just that they get tired of having the kids around after about 6mos.


So many say they have kids or want kids...I don't know what to say. I wish you luck. It's hard on the kids, too. They get attached and then he leaves. And you have to make sure that a man you get seriously involved with is compatible with you as a co-parent because if he becomes permanent you'd have to agree on parenting.

It should get easier as the kids get older. I know that doesn't help now, but it will be easier then, hopefully.
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Nov 10, 2008 11:15 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
soulmateTWS
soulmateTWSsoulmateTWSHappy in, Alabama USA10 Threads 6,074 Posts
rolltideroll: I have been a single mom for 5yrs. I can find men to date its just that they get tired of having the kids around after about 6mos.


dunno Don't know...My children were never a problem during the times I was single and was dating...even after 6 months...dunno On the other hand...my dogs have been a problem...laugh
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Jan 6, 2009 5:20 PM CST Why is it so hard to date?
MysticalUnicorn
MysticalUnicornMysticalUnicornHamilton, Ontario Canada26 Threads 1 Polls 259 Posts
I had a 3 year old, i'm 22, and I haven't had a hard time dating? I found most guys were okay with me having a kid. And my boyfriend now is great with him. And I think if me and him stayed together long-term he'd be a good father figure(His real dad isn't in his life, by HIS choice.)
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Jan 7, 2009 4:35 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
babymilo
babymilobabymiloWollongong, New South Wales Australia2 Threads 2 Polls 98 Posts
rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.


Most of us have had a myriad of reasons why we end up here. Majority of us have experienced varying degrees of hurt or pain in our lives. Therefore it is always going to be difficult for some of us to learn to trust another potential partner no matter the other person's intentions.

Most decent people will eventually accept you and your progeny given sufficient time and understanding by new aparty.

It takes time.
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Jan 7, 2009 4:54 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
ocean_1
ocean_1ocean_1london, Greater London, England UK54 Threads 1 Polls 569 Posts
rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.



I think just the people make it difficult a

bit. I explain; some people before they give the chance to know

the person they start with, they jump to the next one and by the

time they discover it wasn’t worth it, the first person will

loose interest because they think they were et down.

People being greedy and may be they feel good because they got

people interested in them and may be also give them something to

make them try to catch it by they want the chase to last as long

as possible. Something to keep looking for the next day

They keep jumping from one person to another and never be

patient and try to give a chance to relationship to fly.

I think people should be relax and have a faith in other people

and good will.
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Jan 7, 2009 5:03 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
babymilo
babymilobabymiloWollongong, New South Wales Australia2 Threads 2 Polls 98 Posts
ocean_1: I think just the people make it difficult a

bit. I explain; some people before they give the chance to know

the person they start with, they jump to the next one and by the

time they discover it wasn’t worth it, the first person will

loose interest because they think they were et down.

People being greedy and may be they feel good because they got

people interested in them and may be also give them something to

make them try to catch it by they want the chase to last as long

as possible. Something to keep looking for the next day

They keep jumping from one person to another and never be

patient and try to give a chance to relationship to fly.

I think people should be relax and have a faith in other people

and good will.


thumbs up here here.. Too many want to rush in instead of letting things slowly develop...
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Jan 7, 2009 6:10 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
ocean_1
ocean_1ocean_1london, Greater London, England UK54 Threads 1 Polls 569 Posts
Agree with yathumbs up thumbs up
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Jan 7, 2009 8:56 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
buzzy
buzzybuzzybiddeford, Maine USA40 Threads 1 Polls 2,440 Posts
druidess6308: I don't think it's necessarily being a single parent that makes it harder...been there...I think it's being older and wiser, and not being willing to settle for less than what we want. We meet someone, in the first couple of dates it doesn't click, then we're looking again. I know I stayed longer when I was younger because I didn't care as much about the things that I do now.


Sometimes our expectations are so high, 90% of people can't meet them. So you narrow the dating pool by a large margin. I was on one dating site where a lady had around 15 "you cannot not be..." Then she starts complaining she has trouble finding dates. I think if we choose 2 or 3 things we can't tolerate in a mate, and compromise on the rest you'll have more success. Remember, the person you date has to put up with idiosyncrasaties. The more don'ts you have, the less does you'll get.
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Jan 7, 2009 9:31 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
woody636
woody636woody636Elgin, Illinois USA4 Threads 1,810 Posts
Sometimes our expectations are so high, 90% of people can't meet them. So you narrow the dating pool by a large margin. I was on one dating site where a lady had around 15 "you cannot not be..." Then she starts complaining she has trouble finding dates. I think if we choose 2 or 3 things we can't tolerate in a mate, and compromise on the rest you'll have more success. Remember, the person you date has to put up with idiosyncrasaties. The more don'ts you have, the less does you'll get.[/quote

thumbs up Agree completely! I don't bother listing even 2 or 3 things I can't tolerate. Maybe because I've never really thought about it quite like that. Easier to write, phone, meet and see what happens. If nothing else, you've had a nite out with some companionship.
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Jan 7, 2009 11:24 AM CST Why is it so hard to date?
Konigsberg
KonigsbergKonigsbergJurassic Park (Site B), Nova Scotia Canada78 Threads 4 Polls 11,120 Posts
rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.


Yes it does ... have to have a babysitter all the time. Have been there ...done with it.
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