Why is it so hard to date? (69)
rolltiderollKillen, Alabama USA27 Threads 17 Polls 172 PostsI dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.
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rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.
Unpack that a bit sweetheart....
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It's hard because we have been there and done that.....older and wiser now....going in with eyes wide open.....and plus we tend to analyise everything.....well at least I do.....
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It doesn't matter if you are a single parent or just single 
It's a jungle out there, the survival of the toughest
But seriously, when you start thinking about meeting new people, then going through the good and not so good dating experiences, trying to find someone who thinks alike
it's a long and heart-wearing process.
It's a jungle out there, the survival of the toughest
But seriously, when you start thinking about meeting new people, then going through the good and not so good dating experiences, trying to find someone who thinks alike
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I think it's more difficult because you have to consider how this person will be around your children. It's not only you and your wants and needs, but the children's too. Children should always come first. I think parenthood matures you in some ways that nothing else does.
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hard to find time....
My last date was a hot pocket, a shoulder rub, 2 interruptions totally 15 minutes in the break room.
My last date was a hot pocket, a shoulder rub, 2 interruptions totally 15 minutes in the break room.
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rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.
It's more difficult with children.I have a 6 yr old and he comes first but I need to make time for me too. It can be done away from the kids ,Grandmas are a great help!!!
Good Luck!
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I have a 3 year old son, never had an issue getting guys. Most guys don't care.
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I don't think it's necessarily being a single parent that makes it harder...been there...I think it's being older and wiser, and not being willing to settle for less than what we want. We meet someone, in the first couple of dates it doesn't click, then we're looking again. I know I stayed longer when I was younger because I didn't care as much about the things that I do now.
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I have been a single mom for 5yrs. I can find men to date its just that they get tired of having the kids around after about 6mos.
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rolltideroll: I have been a single mom for 5yrs. I can find men to date its just that they get tired of having the kids around after about 6mos.
Don't know...My children were never a problem during the times I was single and was dating...even after 6 months... On the other hand...my dogs have been a problem...
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I had a 3 year old, i'm 22, and I haven't had a hard time dating? I found most guys were okay with me having a kid. And my boyfriend now is great with him. And I think if me and him stayed together long-term he'd be a good father figure(His real dad isn't in his life, by HIS choice.)
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rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.
Most of us have had a myriad of reasons why we end up here. Majority of us have experienced varying degrees of hurt or pain in our lives. Therefore it is always going to be difficult for some of us to learn to trust another potential partner no matter the other person's intentions.
Most decent people will eventually accept you and your progeny given sufficient time and understanding by new aparty.
It takes time.
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rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.
I think just the people make it difficult a
bit. I explain; some people before they give the chance to know
the person they start with, they jump to the next one and by the
time they discover it wasn’t worth it, the first person will
loose interest because they think they were et down.
People being greedy and may be they feel good because they got
people interested in them and may be also give them something to
make them try to catch it by they want the chase to last as long
as possible. Something to keep looking for the next day
They keep jumping from one person to another and never be
patient and try to give a chance to relationship to fly.
I think people should be relax and have a faith in other people
and good will.
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ocean_1: I think just the people make it difficult a
bit. I explain; some people before they give the chance to know
the person they start with, they jump to the next one and by the
time they discover it wasn’t worth it, the first person will
loose interest because they think they were et down.
People being greedy and may be they feel good because they got
people interested in them and may be also give them something to
make them try to catch it by they want the chase to last as long
as possible. Something to keep looking for the next day
They keep jumping from one person to another and never be
patient and try to give a chance to relationship to fly.
I think people should be relax and have a faith in other people
and good will.
bit. I explain; some people before they give the chance to know
the person they start with, they jump to the next one and by the
time they discover it wasn’t worth it, the first person will
loose interest because they think they were et down.
People being greedy and may be they feel good because they got
people interested in them and may be also give them something to
make them try to catch it by they want the chase to last as long
as possible. Something to keep looking for the next day
They keep jumping from one person to another and never be
patient and try to give a chance to relationship to fly.
I think people should be relax and have a faith in other people
and good will.
here here.. Too many want to rush in instead of letting things slowly develop...------ This thread is Archived ------
Agree with ya
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druidess6308: I don't think it's necessarily being a single parent that makes it harder...been there...I think it's being older and wiser, and not being willing to settle for less than what we want. We meet someone, in the first couple of dates it doesn't click, then we're looking again. I know I stayed longer when I was younger because I didn't care as much about the things that I do now.
Sometimes our expectations are so high, 90% of people can't meet them. So you narrow the dating pool by a large margin. I was on one dating site where a lady had around 15 "you cannot not be..." Then she starts complaining she has trouble finding dates. I think if we choose 2 or 3 things we can't tolerate in a mate, and compromise on the rest you'll have more success. Remember, the person you date has to put up with idiosyncrasaties. The more don'ts you have, the less does you'll get.
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Sometimes our expectations are so high, 90% of people can't meet them. So you narrow the dating pool by a large margin. I was on one dating site where a lady had around 15 "you cannot not be..." Then she starts complaining she has trouble finding dates. I think if we choose 2 or 3 things we can't tolerate in a mate, and compromise on the rest you'll have more success. Remember, the person you date has to put up with idiosyncrasaties. The more don'ts you have, the less does you'll get.[/quote
Agree completely! I don't bother listing even 2 or 3 things I can't tolerate. Maybe because I've never really thought about it quite like that. Easier to write, phone, meet and see what happens. If nothing else, you've had a nite out with some companionship.
Agree completely! I don't bother listing even 2 or 3 things I can't tolerate. Maybe because I've never really thought about it quite like that. Easier to write, phone, meet and see what happens. If nothing else, you've had a nite out with some companionship.------ This thread is Archived ------
rolltideroll: I dont know if any of you other single parents feel like it is so hard to date.
Yes it does ... have to have a babysitter all the time. Have been there ...done with it.
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