Not sure how to handle Holidays ( Archived) (17)

I am looking for advice from the CS Community.

This will be my first Holiday Season since my divorce. How do you all handle the Holidays with your ex's?

I get along with my ex-inlaws or a someone said earlier today my Out-Laws very well. I still think of my Out-Laws as my mom and dad, they have treated me very well and have supported me through the divorce of the youngest daughter.

They call once a week at least asking how i am doing and the last time i had spoken to my ex she said that she has not talked to her parents for a month.

I have wanted to take my kids to see grandma and grandpa but i still am not sure how the ex would take it. She has not wanted to take the kids to see her parents since the divorce and my boys have not seen their grandparents since March.

I planned on taking them before school started but the ex said she was going to take them but instead took the kids to meet her new boyfriend (which i could care less about) but i feel bad for her parents.

I asked my ex if she wanted the kids for Thanksgiving or X-Mas and she does not know. I am going to take a few weeks off from work during X-Mas to spend the Holidays with my kids while they are on break from school.

So i guess one of my questions is.....

Do i just spend time with my ex's folks and say heck with her feelings and not worry about it.

Do i wait and let her take the kids to see her parents?

I do not want my kids missing out on my Out-Laws and i know the Out-Laws really miss their grandkids. I have tried to make the entire divorce as easy on the kids as possible and I am very confident that I have did that thus far.

I think i have a good idea as to what i will do but I would like to get your input on this.

Thanks in advance for your comments.

DEAR BIGDADDY007,HOLIDAY DONT HAVE TO BE HOLLY.DONT THINK TO MUCH.WHAT ABOUT YOU,WHERE ARE YOU IN THAT STORY?YOU ARE ALSO CHILD OF YOUR MOTHER,RELAX...CME BETTER DAYS...

Thanks for the advice. Bluepoint

Treat you inlaws as you always did. Treat the ex like the mother of your children. Great way to think all the time!!

Yes take them to see their grandparents for the holidays, that is their family and thru your children they are your family also. Ignore what the ex says about it.
I took my children to see their grandmother for several years after the divorce especially around hollidays and all was great, until there dad remarried and that woman thru a fit about me coming there with the kids. Anyway my ex-mother-n-law and I talked about it and some hollidays I just dropped the kids off there.
Some hollidays later my kids just didn't want to go there if I couldn't go. So now that they have all grown up, their grandmother says she wishes she had just stood up to hers sons wife and said too bad that Lela is family and the mother of my grandkids.
So until there is a problem with the grandparents vs their daughter, and they will let you know but take your children to see their grandparents and some hollidays maybe the grandparents can let the kids stay over night and you pick them up the next day or something.

Dont worry about ur ex...

If the children miss the outlaws and the outlaws miss them..
then take them..

You do what you think is best for ur children...

Thats the way i was thinking but I just want to do all i can to try to keep the seas calm between the ex and I so the kids don't get sea sick.

Thanks for the advice

I am sure things will be just fine...

You and her just think about the well being of the children

all the best

Thanks for the advice and that is the way i was thinking but was trying to keep calm seas...