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They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true (15)

Oct 5, 2008 10:04 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada165 Threads 3 Polls 4,065 Posts
Sex: Men yearn but not earn
Survey says they want sex, but won't do much to get it

Ah, men. Can’t live with us, can’t make babies without us.

We’re lazy, self-absorbed, obsessed with sex (but not to the extent that we’ll pay attention to our partner’s needs) and the embodiment of every bad male cliche there is.

But we’re also sensitive, caring, interested in sex (and willing to try new things to satisfy our women) and the exception to every negative male stereotype out there.

Man! Who knew we were so contradictory and complex?

According to a new Sun Media-Leger Marketing Great Canadian Male Sex Survey that looked at the s*xual habits, attitudes and concerns of Canadian dudes, men defy some of the labels that our gender gets slapped with by Hollywood, the media and – yes – even the fairer sex.

Others, we live up to. Not proudly, maybe, but there it is.

And so begins Sun Media’s five-part look at sex and the Canadian man, from how much nookie we have (less than we’d like) to what we’ll do to get it (nothing that requires effort) to who we fantasize about in bed when we’re not thinking about our better halves (female friends handily beat out celebs – sorry, Angelina.)

Our poll surveyed 1,026 heterosexual Canadian men aged 18 and over, hitting them up on a variety of topics. Are you satisfied with your sex life? Who’s fault is it if your partner doesn’t have an o*gasm? Have you ever taken a camera into the bedroom? Do you trim the, erm, shrubbery around your deck?

We’ll tackle all that. And much more.

“We all have beliefs and stereotypes about men, and what their attitudes and behaviours will be,” said Dave Scholz, vice president of pollster firm Leger Marketing.

“What we found out is some of these are indeed true, but we were also surprised.”

For instance, guys are less self-absorbed and more open-minded about sex than you might think. Hey, quit laughing! The data doesn’t lie.

“We were surprised men were not as selfish when it comes to s*xual behaviour as we originally thought they might be,” Scholz said. “We were surprised by how experimental some men will be.”

On the other hand, we can be a bit predictable when it comes to sex. It should come as no shock that 79% of men think sex is an important part of a relationship – a quarter of those deeming that you can’t have a good relationship without it – or that 64% of gents surveyed feel that men and women in a relationship should get it on a few times every week.

Since we’re so obsessed with sex, we’ll probably do anything to get it, right? Actually, no. Especially if it smacks of work.

Fewer than one-quarter of men said they’d do more housework or sit through chick flicks even if it guaranteed a reward in the bedroom later on, and only 9% said they would buy an expensive gift.

“They really are lazy,” said Scholz. (Keep in mind he’s talking about the men we surveyed; surely you or the man in your life is the exception to the rule.)

“They really don’t want to work for it,” Scholz said. “How easy would it be to give a compliment, or bring gifts home? This isn’t something men feel they should or need to do.”
Oct 5, 2008 10:05 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada165 Threads 3 Polls 4,065 Posts
On the upside, only 8% of the men surveyed said they’d give an untrue compliment to guarantee some time on the horizontal mambo dance floor, and only 2% said they’d lie about their relationship status or pay for sex. A whopping 75% said they would never get their partner drunk or high for the express purpose of getting them into bed.

It seems much of the sex-related trouble in relationships is borne out of mismatched levels of desire. That is, many men want sex more than their female partners do. Go figure, hey?

More than half of the men surveyed said they wish their partners wanted sex more often or would try different things in bed, while only 31% reported that their woman is skilled in the sack.

“Women have to connect at an emotional, intellectual and spiritual basis in order to feel open and s*xual with their partners,” said David McKenzie, a Vancouver-based sexologist and sex therapist. “You’re not going to get women walking around with an ache in their groin thinking about sex every 20 seconds like men do.”

Please don’t blame us, ladies. The stirring in our jeans comes from the stuff in our genes. We’re designed to want to spread our seed as often as possible.

“Men can have sex with anyone at any time, anywhere,” said McKenzie. “That’s not saying that all men out there want to do that, but we’ve evolved to be able to do that.”

More importantly, we genuinely want sex to be good for everyone involved. (Although it seems we might be a little lacking in stamina – 56% of men said their average sex sessions lasts less than 30 minutes.)

“The men who come into my office, the men of my experience clinically, are very caring,” McKenzie said. “They care about their relationships, they want their wives to be satisfied, and they’re just having real problems with blockages of communication and expectations.

“I guess I’m one of those who are tired of men always being put in the pigeonhole that we’re the schmucks or potential rapists of the world. That’s not my clinical or my life experience of males.”

Amen, brother. Amen.
Oct 5, 2008 10:32 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada33 Threads 24,897 Posts
We have to earn it? Isn't that akin to prostitution?dunno
Oct 5, 2008 2:32 PM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
jimkabob
jimkabobjimkabobRegina, Saskatchewan Canada6 Threads 1,161 Posts
Sooo ya wanna date?grin
Oct 5, 2008 7:01 PM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada165 Threads 3 Polls 4,065 Posts
kidatheart: We have to earn it? Isn't that akin to prostitution?


Earn it emotionally, and with how you treat the woman, and using little gestures. Connecting emotionally helps.

It's not about money...... if it was, it would be prostitution.

Kid....... you deserve the rolling pin~
Oct 5, 2008 11:07 PM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
walley
walleywalleygolden, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 223 Posts
lol i dont nead too ern it lol i can biy all the toys i want and not get the rolling pin lol im not in nead of erning sex as it has no intrest to me dont get me rong i like it but dont nead it my choyse i can doo waht ever i want and not get chewd on for my eferts all this from a giy hoo usetoo sing play getare bring rosess evry month and speshel dates like valintines day go for moon lite rides on my harly with a blanket and wine and i dont drink and carve sopestone ordements for my speshel sume one o well

i usta be mr romantick

no more mr romantic in order for mr romantick to cume out a gaine that speshel some one will have to ern it lol


pass the rolling pin please lol rolling on the floor laughing
Oct 6, 2008 2:13 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada33 Threads 24,897 Posts
KHD100: Earn it emotionally, and with how you treat the woman, and using little gestures. Connecting emotionally helps.

It's not about money...... if it was, it would be prostitution.

Kid....... you deserve the rolling pin~



Please be gentle, I've never tried that before.blushing

laugh

wave hug
Oct 7, 2008 11:58 PM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada165 Threads 3 Polls 4,065 Posts
Husband driving you crazy? Here's how to get over it

Admit it: sometimes your partner can be hard to take. He shrunk your cashmere sweater. He blew $200 at the casino. He made a golf date with his buddies instead of coordinating a weekday off with you.

So don't get mad — get even. We know you're too good of a person to play (too) dirty, so here are 10 revenge ideas to help you get over it without strangling your man.

1. Go get a mani-pedi. Use the household bills account to pay for it. Hey, at $50, it's a splurge, but it's cheaper than couples therapy. Bad-o-meter rating: Moderate

2. Using a cheerful voice, announce you're pooped and are going to the gym to re-energize with a workout and sauna. He can feed the kids, take them to the playground, wash 'em up and get them ready for bed. "I'll be back at 10. Thanks, Honey!" Bad-o-meter rating: Low

3. Facebook an old boyfriend. Hey, just because you're now Facebook friends, it doesn't mean you've done anything wrong (as long as you leave it at that). Bad-o-meter rating: Moderate to high, depending on whether or not you start messaging each other.

4. Secretly deprogram all the series he has set up to record on the PVR. And never, ever confess. Bad-o-meter rating: Moderate

5. Storm out and go watch The Hills at your gal pal's. Oh, and bring that bottle of wine you and he were saving for a special anniversary. Bad-o-meter rating: Moderate

6. Make sure to include his white boxers in your next load of laundry – the one with all the brights. Bad-o-meter rating: Low – at least you're doing a load.

7. Rent every Christian Bale movie that Blockbuster has and spend the week savouring each one — on the big screen TV he likes to watch sports on. Bad-o-meter rating: Low

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9. Visit MoanAboutMen.co.uk. With an online community of exasperated women who post on forum topics like "Men & Multitasking: Is your other half incapable of doing more than one thing at a time?" and "Has He Got Manesia?: Does your man have an amazing memory for some things but when it comes to you he forgets everything?" you're guaranteed a supportive environment where you can gripe – and discover you're not the only one being driven insane by their guy. Bad-o-meter rating: Low

10. Look serious, take a deep breath and then announce: "Honey, we need to talk." Bad-o-meter rating: Sky-high. You know he'd sooner go get his back waxed.
Oct 8, 2008 1:09 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
eyesthatknowwhy
eyesthatknowwhyeyesthatknowwhyWhitehorse, Yukon Territory Canada100 Threads 2,115 Posts
wave cheering rolling on the floor laughing

So you are basically saying that there are times when men get exactly what they deserve, ummmm, earn? Think these may be worth filing in the "just in case" memory file....angel
Oct 21, 2008 8:18 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
shelby
shelbyshelbyBrandon, Manitoba Canada3 Posts
This is just dumb
Oct 21, 2008 10:17 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
eyesthatknowwhy
eyesthatknowwhyeyesthatknowwhyWhitehorse, Yukon Territory Canada100 Threads 2,115 Posts
shelby: This is just dumb


doh Well of course it is dancing oops
Oct 21, 2008 7:48 PM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada165 Threads 3 Polls 4,065 Posts
shelby: This is just dumb


Of course it is, that is why it was posted. Need a sense of humor to read stuff about earning it....... too many different dating rules, and most of them are just useless.
Oct 21, 2008 9:25 PM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
blueriver30
blueriver30blueriver30amherst, Nova Scotia Canada13 Threads 750 Posts
Please be gentle, I've never tried that before.


rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Jan 22, 2010 1:01 PM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
DAMIENEVIL
DAMIENEVILDAMIENEVILCalgary, Alberta Canada17 Posts
so men are the only people who have to earn sex hmm figures lol

why maybe men are fed up with having to put all the work into something that most women are horrid at

most women if there was a scale rate about 1 on a scale out of 10 on how good they are in bed
Mar 1, 2010 3:42 AM CST They want it, but won't do anything to earn it.... how true
newchallenges
newchallengesnewchallengesokanagan valley, British Columbia Canada2 Threads 1 Polls 20 Posts
SURVEY SAYS: my 2 cents

ONE HAPPIER WOMAN MAKES ONE HAPPY MAN.

not all Guys are lazy and in a rush, some like to PLAY,
why settle for less go for the best Go for Gold.
Belief: Enjoy the fruit of your labor. then its not work.
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