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Oct 6, 2008 5:04 PM CST HELP, he .......
Cherokeegrandma
CherokeegrandmaCherokeegrandmaValencia, Spain11 Threads 230 Posts
Ladies, what you do when a simple friend got lost for 4 months, calls to come for a visit, has a faint smell of licor, raises his finger to coax you into accepting him being veeeeeeeeery serious and tries to kneel down to ask you for marriage??????? What a nightmare and it was only afternoon, so I got easily rid of him escorting him to the door, thanks for your visit but never come back again. Sure Smoky has the right ideasrolling on the floor laughing
Oct 6, 2008 5:26 PM CST HELP, he .......
CuspofMagic
CuspofMagicCuspofMagiclight, South Australia Australia320 Threads 2 Polls 10,696 Posts
---sounds like a person seeking help
Oct 6, 2008 5:30 PM CST HELP, he .......
mike69spain
mike69spainmike69spainAlmuñécar, Andalusia Spain41 Threads 6 Polls 5,508 Posts
Cherokeegrandma: Ladies, what you do when a simple friend got lost for 4 months, calls to come for a visit, has a faint smell of licor, raises his finger to coax you into accepting him being veeeeeeeeery serious and tries to kneel down to ask you for marriage??????? What a nightmare and it was only afternoon, so I got easily rid of him escorting him to the door, thanks for your visit but never come back again. Sure Smoky has the right ideas


What if it was all very serious, he needed those four months to gather strength and a steady whisky stick as support when asking conversing wink
Oct 6, 2008 5:37 PM CST HELP, he .......
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
Cherokeegrandma: Ladies, what you do when a simple friend got lost for 4 months, calls to come for a visit, has a faint smell of licor, raises his finger to coax you into accepting him being veeeeeeeeery serious and tries to kneel down to ask you for marriage??????? What a nightmare and it was only afternoon, so I got easily rid of him escorting him to the door, thanks for your visit but never come back again. Sure Smoky has the right ideas



BLimey, Cherokee, you have interesting afternoons, bless you.

I would say no, give him a coffee and an ear.
Oct 6, 2008 6:51 PM CST HELP, he .......
Cherokeegrandma
CherokeegrandmaCherokeegrandmaValencia, Spain11 Threads 230 Posts
Thanks for all good ideas, truth is, he was not the same Mike I used to know for more than 1 year. I even asked him who was in his body as it surely was not him. What came out of his eyes and mouth was so dark it truely was scarry.
No, it was not courage, nor love, by the way, something evil and strange. It was not just that bit of alcohol.
Anyway, you are right Sommer...I rarely complain of getting borred here in Spain.
teddybear
Oct 6, 2008 6:53 PM CST HELP, he .......
Cherokeegrandma
CherokeegrandmaCherokeegrandmaValencia, Spain11 Threads 230 Posts
CuspofMagic: ---sounds like a person seeking help


I agree, he might need profesional help. Said he just came back from visiting his mom in Alaska.
Oct 6, 2008 7:04 PM CST HELP, he .......
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
Cherokeegrandma: Thanks for all good ideas, truth is, he was not the same Mike I used to know for more than 1 year. I even asked him who was in his body as it surely was not him. What came out of his eyes and mouth was so dark it truely was scarry.
No, it was not courage, nor love, by the way, something evil and strange. It was not just that bit of alcohol.
Anyway, you are right Sommer...I rarely complain of getting borred here in Spain.



So this man...

Had or have you feelings for him?
Oct 6, 2008 7:11 PM CST HELP, he .......
Cherokeegrandma
CherokeegrandmaCherokeegrandmaValencia, Spain11 Threads 230 Posts
Sommerauer71: So this man...

Had or have you feelings for him?


Never ever, we simply used to talk over a refreshment from time to time, nice,interesting conversations, not more. Never saw him drinking anything except fanta.
Oct 6, 2008 7:17 PM CST HELP, he .......
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
Cherokeegrandma: Never ever, we simply used to talk over a refreshment from time to time, nice,interesting conversations, not more. Never saw him drinking anything except fanta.



No wonder you are shocked then at his proposal....

As for the drink? Hard to explain that one...
Oct 6, 2008 10:25 PM CST HELP, he .......
jollyfish
jollyfishjollyfishMajjistral, Malta1 Threads 13 Posts
No wonder you are shocked then at his proposal....

As for the drink? Hard to explain that one...

IN VINO VERITAS.....Hi .... Well the fact remains that when we start drinking in the false belief that in alcohol lie solutions then we have problems.
Some help from a psychologist will definitely be of benefit before the problem creates medical complication and psychiatric problems. Some people would have
seen lots of the 50`s films when drink was incensed and idolised. No sooner would two people meet that they won`t take to the bottle which lay on a side table. As if drink had to be part of the family or the household. Then those who felt rage, anger or other complex feeling would go for a shot. And what about the
saloon in country and westerns ? Drink was part of the WILD WEST.
Whoever needs help has to know where to look for it. Looking for help from your ex partner or girlfriend is not the solution. Nor asking them to marry you would
be the solution. Two wrongs never make one right neither mathematically nor logically.
Besides I believe that in this civilised society we should owe up to our responsibilities. We should start thinking before we act. We should educate ourselves to
behave in a civilised matter, be kind, be generous, be helpful. It is about high time we started thinking before acting. The case of the man who hit his wife and then caresses and strokes her because he loves her. This caressing is not love it is a symptom that the man needs assistance.
Oct 7, 2008 1:52 AM CST HELP, he .......
Mirodenia
MirodeniaMirodeniaNew York City, New York USA61 Threads 8 Polls 2,387 Posts
Hi dear darling Cherokeegrandma,

Are you a grandma, you look very young for this?
But so does Flower..

Well, this friend of yours came to you because he knew you care about him and you'll listen. Maybe you are one of the few or maybe the only one who offered him a shoulder to tell his life story.
People start to drink to cover pain, most of the times when they are depressed.
I don't think you must stay with him this period, he needs a doctor, he could make an obsession regarding your person.

So, take care, be brave, talk to him but take a distance.
My opinion.
Oct 7, 2008 2:15 AM CST HELP, he .......
rusty_knight
rusty_knightrusty_knightGozo, Malta254 Threads 4 Polls 10,684 Posts
mike69spain: What if it was all very serious, he needed those four months to gather strength and a steady whisky stick as support when asking


Sounds logical - it's not every day you feel the urge to ask some woman to marry you..... and the older you get the more alcohol you need to help make such a serious decision! thumbs up
Oct 7, 2008 2:16 AM CST HELP, he .......
rusty_knight
rusty_knightrusty_knightGozo, Malta254 Threads 4 Polls 10,684 Posts
Mirodenia: Hi dear darling Cherokeegrandma,

Are you a grandma, you look very young for this?
But so does Flower..

Well, this friend of yours came to you because he knew you care about him and you'll listen. Maybe you are one of the few or maybe the only one who offered him a shoulder to tell his life story.
People start to drink to cover pain, most of the times when they are depressed.
I don't think you must stay with him this period, he needs a doctor, he could make an obsession regarding your person.

So, take care, be brave, talk to him but take a distance.
My opinion.


Does that mean 'hold the whisky bottle and pour, but don't share the glass' ???

conversing
Oct 7, 2008 2:57 AM CST HELP, he .......
no1brightongirl
no1brightongirlno1brightongirlbrighton, East Sussex, England UK15 Threads 286 Posts
seems a very unusual way to behave,bet you were embarassed
Oct 7, 2008 3:44 AM CST HELP, he .......
rusty_knight
rusty_knightrusty_knightGozo, Malta254 Threads 4 Polls 10,684 Posts
Cherokeegrandma: Ladies, what you do when a simple friend got lost for 4 months, calls to come for a visit, has a faint smell of licor, raises his finger to coax you into accepting him being veeeeeeeeery serious and tries to kneel down to ask you for marriage??????? What a nightmare and it was only afternoon, so I got easily rid of him escorting him to the door, thanks for your visit but never come back again. Sure Smoky has the right ideas


You say a simple friend.

Does this mean he was simply a friend and nothing more or that he was a little 'simple' - i.e. a few bricks short of a five foot wall?

'Simple' people can be lovely - they can't lie or be devious because they don't know how.

A friend who is simply a friend?

A friend is a very precious human being to have - but if not a true friend and just somebody you know a little in a casual friendly kinda way then the person is imagining the friendship to be deeper and more meaningful than it is.

A real friend would think twice before risking their friendship for the abyss of uncontrolled passions and desires culminating in either bliss or rather messy bloodletting............ I've always been scared to take this step with women I adore as friends, as a friend should be for life - while a lover can be discarded and never seen again - ever!

dunno confused angel devil
Oct 7, 2008 11:01 AM CST HELP, he .......
Cherokeegrandma
CherokeegrandmaCherokeegrandmaValencia, Spain11 Threads 230 Posts
WOW, and I thought I was the only one with deep thoughts....thanks so much everyone here.
Mike is...and I repeat....someone I just met for some good conversations,but included him as a friend to the opening party of my daughter´s store...no more story to tell...before he wanted to visit me.

Yes, dear, I am grandma of a precious and stubborn lil girl, just 1 year old. If I look young might be due to not smoking,not drinking alcohol and normaly not letting men giving me hard timerolling on the floor laughing

As a profesional, I listen to my pacients and students emotional, psycological and spiritual problems, so yes, I am rather understanding, but Mike caught me out of office .-)

Having in mind how many women here in Spain and elsewhere get killed by their ex or bf, I thought it a good example to show how very much and all out of a sudden humans can change. Sad enough, I had to deal with people like that in more than one ocasion.

Thanks for all your ideaskiss
teddybear
Oct 7, 2008 11:10 AM CST HELP, he .......
phoenix
phoenixphoenixparis, Ile-de-France France103 Threads 4 Polls 5,247 Posts
Cherokeegrand:

As a profesional, I listen to my patients and students emotional, psycological and spiritual problems, so yes, I am rather understanding, but Mike caught me out of office .-)

.

Thanks for all your ideas



Try listening to old time rock'n'roll......



Old time rock & roll

Just take those old records off the shelf
Ill sit and listen to em by myself
Todays music aln t got the same soul
I like that old time rock n roll.........


Still like that old time rockn roll
That kind of music just soothes the soul
I reminisce about the days of old
With that old time rock n roll


Seriously if an ex off mine turned up drunk asking to marry me I'd tell her to sling her hook....

And yes you look....
Oct 7, 2008 3:02 PM CST HELP, he .......
Cherokeegrandma
CherokeegrandmaCherokeegrandmaValencia, Spain11 Threads 230 Posts
Good idea Phoenix,if it works for you. Personaly I prefer native flute, much softer.
Oct 7, 2008 3:05 PM CST HELP, he .......
Cherokeegrandma
CherokeegrandmaCherokeegrandmaValencia, Spain11 Threads 230 Posts
Oh Phoenix, before I forget...do you have your team together already? Long time I haven t seen you looking for playerscheering
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