Why are men scared by women who can take care of themselves? (43)
um... I haven't noticed that myself 
the men I know like my independent spirit
maybe your attracting the wrong kind of men who like girlie girls or something
the men I know like my independent spirit maybe your attracting the wrong kind of men who like girlie girls or something
yeah, I've not had a problem either.... most men like that I am independent
I think i am attracting the wrong sort lol mummies boys and buttheads hehe
from a bloke's point of view (and obviously mine) i NEED a woman that CAN look after herself. there are a heap of interests and responsibilities i have that wouldn't necessarily be something a lady would want to spend the same time doing as i do, therefore she would need to be able to do her own thing in those situations.
i dont know of many guys that are wanting to be someone's nanny 24/7, and when you have a relationship that sees you apart from one another from time to time, and you both share the responsibilities of life, then the time and activities you spend doing together seems soooooo much better
just my humblers
i dont know of many guys that are wanting to be someone's nanny 24/7, and when you have a relationship that sees you apart from one another from time to time, and you both share the responsibilities of life, then the time and activities you spend doing together seems soooooo much better
just my humblers
psuedonym: from a bloke's point of view (and obviously mine) i NEED a woman that CAN look after herself. there are a heap of interests and responsibilities i have that wouldn't necessarily be something a lady would want to spend the same time doing as i do, therefore she would need to be able to do her own thing in those situations.
i dont know of many guys that are wanting to be someone's nanny 24/7, and when you have a relationship that sees you apart from one another from time to time, and you both share the responsibilities of life, then the time and activities you spend doing together seems soooooo much better
just my humblers
i dont know of many guys that are wanting to be someone's nanny 24/7, and when you have a relationship that sees you apart from one another from time to time, and you both share the responsibilities of life, then the time and activities you spend doing together seems soooooo much better
just my humblers
blondeaozichick: um... I haven't noticed that myself the men I know like my independent spirit
maybe your attracting the wrong kind of men who like girlie girls or something
maybe your attracting the wrong kind of men who like girlie girls or something
Well Im a girly girl but im also independant ...
well I seriously cant fix anything but finacially i am
I'm an orphan so my ideas on such things are pretty much Black & White . I grew up looking after myself and as an adult I find I can't understand people that can't look after themselves . I can't handle women that are Co-Dependant or clingy that simple. Give me Inter Dependant or Independant any day of the week . Like a woman that will be by your side and not be constantly having to vindicate themselves with your opinion .
Basically , women that can't take care of themselves don't do it for me .
Basically , women that can't take care of themselves don't do it for me .
I'm a single mum of four, with a farm to run.......wouldn't mind having a strong bod about the place 
Like that is gonna happen
Like that is gonna happen
I am a very independent person, to the point of being stubbornly so (typical Taurean) and at times this can make a man feel as if he is not wanted/needed.
Living on my own for so long I have had to become independent on many levels and I find it difficult to allow others to do things for me. I think at times this can be off-putting to my male friends. So, yes my independence has been a problem to others in the past.
K.
Living on my own for so long I have had to become independent on many levels and I find it difficult to allow others to do things for me. I think at times this can be off-putting to my male friends. So, yes my independence has been a problem to others in the past.
K.
causeimcountry: What is it with men who say that thay want a woman who is independent but when hey show that they can its a BIG problem!!
Now im not saying that we dont want a big strong man around so please dont getme wrong but i like to do my fair share
Now im not saying that we dont want a big strong man around so please dont getme wrong but i like to do my fair share
Who knows why some men want an Edgar Rice-Burroughs Heroines (incapable of any non-female activity except maybe twisting ankle at at importune moment) or why some women want a mummies boy (can't cook, can't launder can handle a broom a bit).
Maybe it's a power thing or the only way they feel secure is to have someone dependent on them.
I've raised two teenage girls on my own for the last 5+ years and as such am more than capable of looking after myself. They will tell you that I can fix ANYTHING and if I can't I can make it.
If I match up with a woman who's handy with tools then cool, we can make stuff together. If not I'll do what's needed and she does what I can't.
A partnership should be about complementation not competition.
aberfoyle: I'm a single mum of four, with a farm to run.......wouldn't mind having a strong bod about the place
Like that is gonna happen
Like that is gonna happen
Sorry but you're just too far away.
Pockets66: A partnership should be about complementation not competition.
EXACTLY!!! smart man
Pockets66: Sorry but you're just too far away.
Aww shucks Pockets, my loss.
Pockets66: Who knows why some men want an Edgar Rice-Burroughs Heroines (incapable of any non-female activity except maybe twisting ankle at at importune moment) or why some women want a mummies boy (can't cook, can't launder can handle a broom a bit).
Maybe it's a power thing or the only way they feel secure is to have someone dependent on them.
I've raised two teenage girls on my own for the last 5+ years and as such am more than capable of looking after myself. They will tell you that I can fix ANYTHING and if I can't I can make it.
If I match up with a woman who's handy with tools then cool, we can make stuff together. If not I'll do what's needed and she does what I can't.
A partnership should be about complementation not competition.
Maybe it's a power thing or the only way they feel secure is to have someone dependent on them.
I've raised two teenage girls on my own for the last 5+ years and as such am more than capable of looking after myself. They will tell you that I can fix ANYTHING and if I can't I can make it.
If I match up with a woman who's handy with tools then cool, we can make stuff together. If not I'll do what's needed and she does what I can't.
A partnership should be about complementation not competition.
i think im in lurveeeeeeeee great post 
I've been a single mum for 9 years. Basically can and will have a go at anything within reason.
I have to be honest I like doing the stuff on my own, I look at my bathroom and feel a sense of satisfaction that I did the grouting by myself, repainted the inside of my house by myself, built a pergola, put a new cistern in and so on.
Its not that I dont want help, its just that sometimes I want the feeling that comes from doing it all on my own.
But some days I wish, that just for 5 minutes, some wonderful man would say 'Thats OK Darling, I'll put the oil in the car, air in the tyres, take out the rubbish'. Then the alarm goes off and I wake up....
I have to be honest I like doing the stuff on my own, I look at my bathroom and feel a sense of satisfaction that I did the grouting by myself, repainted the inside of my house by myself, built a pergola, put a new cistern in and so on.
Its not that I dont want help, its just that sometimes I want the feeling that comes from doing it all on my own.
But some days I wish, that just for 5 minutes, some wonderful man would say 'Thats OK Darling, I'll put the oil in the car, air in the tyres, take out the rubbish'. Then the alarm goes off and I wake up....
Well, a man in my life recently told me that he
"can not find a place in my life that he feels that I need him, he feels unneeded"
I actually dont need him, but I do like his company
unfortuantely I was a little merry at the time and just said down a bit love right a bit
he was sober and didnt think it that funny 
"can not find a place in my life that he feels that I need him, he feels unneeded"
I actually dont need him, but I do like his company
unfortuantely I was a little merry at the time and just said down a bit love right a bit
he was sober and didnt think it that funny causeimcountry: What is it with men who say that thay want a woman who is independent but when hey show that they can its a BIG problem!!
Now im not saying that we dont want a big strong man around so please dont getme wrong but i like to do my fair share
News to meNow im not saying that we dont want a big strong man around so please dont getme wrong but i like to do my fair share
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Now im not saying that we dont want a big strong man around so please dont getme wrong but i like to do my fair share