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Oct 24, 2008 5:20 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
Wantedman
WantedmanWantedmanHamilton, Ontario Canada4 Threads 122 Posts
Is anyone else being contacted by those from other countries or far off places? How do you deal with them? They normally bring up marriage, how do you deal with that?

What are ways to tell the sincere contacts from the scammers?


The reason I ask is that I'm getting woman from all over the place contacting me and then requesting that I contact them on there email. Not sure why they cant use this free sites email system. confused

So I'm wondering who else is having this happen and how do you sort through the real ones over the scammers?
Oct 24, 2008 9:04 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
wellaged2007
wellaged2007wellaged2007victoria, British Columbia Canada4 Threads 11 Posts
well i dont think there i a real way to tell scammers from sincere.I would say you just have to have fun and treat this like a big giant room and you are wandering around and saying hi. That is what i do,and it is fun to talk to people from different lands,but i know what you mean i get alot of mail from far away places.So i would say just have fun and set your boundaries and go with your gut,,so good times and have fun,,cheers
Oct 24, 2008 10:00 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
Wantedman: Is anyone else being contacted by those from other countries or far off places? How do you deal with them? They normally bring up marriage, how do you deal with that?

What are ways to tell the sincere contacts from the scammers?The reason I ask is that I'm getting woman from all over the place contacting me and then requesting that I contact them on there email. Not sure why they cant use this free sites email system.


Had my first really purty gal who fell in love with me recently.smitten

lucky me. love The only problem is she wants US$350 to come visit me, after only two months of one way conversation in which I was told everything about her that i did not ask. dunno
Oct 25, 2008 12:06 AM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
Loner1960
Loner1960Loner1960St. Alphonse, Manitoba Canada17 Threads 549 Posts
Lonely1: Had my first really purty gal who fell in love with me recently.

lucky me. The only problem is she wants US$350 to come visit me, after only two months of one way conversation in which I was told everything about her that i did not ask.


Here are what puts up red flags for me.

Age: Real young ones that are willing to marry someone old enough to be their father.

Pictures that don't match their profiles.

Give and ask for E-mail addresses right away. (they want more addresses for their spam).

Get the feeling that haven't read your profile.

Their profile doesn't make sence, or tells you nothing.

What do I do if I suspect something wrong:

Wait a few days and see if they are still there or do they disappear.

If you contact them don't give your E-mail address or name till YOU feel comfortable.

The scammers come from all over, even this country.

Good luck.
beer
Oct 25, 2008 2:37 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
Wantedman
WantedmanWantedmanHamilton, Ontario Canada4 Threads 122 Posts
Great advice thanks folks!

I'm currently in correspondence with a lady from Russia, so far she seems genuine. She answers my questions. lol


But I agree I have come across those that don't answer your questions and just seem to babble on about how they want to married and how Russian man just drink vodka. lol



Only reason I bother is because I had a coworker at one of my old jobs marry a woman from Cuba and they seemed happy. Aswell rumour has it Cuban woman treat there men like gold. :D
Oct 25, 2008 6:47 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
walley
walleywalleygolden, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 223 Posts
wantedman well good luck rusha as soon as sum one asks for monney to c*m se you shold ring a bell an alam my uncle was e mailing a girl from rusha over a 3 year peried and he was very ashamed to tell me about the desaster over the 3 years he spent $5000.00 he realy liked her then poof she was gon no wher to be seen



so my frend be very cearful thay have stamina and are grate at teling you waht you want to hear ok

best of luck thumbs up
Oct 25, 2008 9:38 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
blondeaozichick
blondeaozichickblondeaozichickMelbourne, Victoria Australia110 Threads 3 Polls 7,759 Posts
Wantedman: Is anyone else being contacted by those from other countries or far off places? How do you deal with them? They normally bring up marriage, how do you deal with that?

What are ways to tell the sincere contacts from the scammers?The reason I ask is that I'm getting woman from all over the place contacting me and then requesting that I contact them on there email. Not sure why they cant use this free sites email system.

So I'm wondering who else is having this happen and how do you sort through the real ones over the scammers?


wave grin

I promise I will never talk about marriage or money or providing my real email or anything dodgy like that.. besides I don't send emails to strangers so think ya kinda safe laugh

besides.. I'm a good girl.. I listen to what my mum used to say about being careful of strangers wink

Just thought I would pop in to have a look at the canadian site because I have never done it before grin looks like a fun place .. keep it up guys thumbs up

cya wave
Oct 26, 2008 5:52 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
walley
walleywalleygolden, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 223 Posts
well halow waskiwe wabbett you make me want to take the worning labels og get my canoo out and padel across the big pond holy myay be i was a bit hasty on my statment mabe i kno i was realy hasty on my statement ummmmmmmmmmmmm how do you say open mouth insert both feet do you nead monny um do you want to get merryd please reply by e mail pleassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss



welcom abord sweety rolling on the floor laughing head banger angel thumbs up
Oct 27, 2008 7:59 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
gemery
gemerygemeryWilliams Lake, British Columbia Canada5 Threads 676 Posts
Wantedman: Is anyone else being contacted by those from other countries or far off places? How do you deal with them? They normally bring up marriage, how do you deal with that?

What are ways to tell the sincere contacts from the scammers?The reason I ask is that I'm getting woman from all over the place contacting me and then requesting that I contact them on there email. Not sure why they cant use this free sites email system.

So I'm wondering who else is having this happen and how do you sort through the real ones over the scammers?


First clue is when they say they looked at your profile....and haven't. How can they know we are the most perfect match in the universe if they haven't even read my profile?

I just ignore them and delete them as fast as possible. Scammers in my opinion...

geo
Oct 27, 2008 8:14 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
gemery
gemerygemeryWilliams Lake, British Columbia Canada5 Threads 676 Posts
Wantedman: Great advice thanks folks!

I'm currently in correspondence with a lady from Russia, so far she seems genuine. She answers my questions. lolBut I agree I have come across those that don't answer your questions and just seem to babble on about how they want to married and how Russian man just drink vodka. lol
Only reason I bother is because I had a coworker at one of my old jobs marry a woman from Cuba and they seemed happy. Aswell rumour has it Cuban woman treat there men like gold. :D


One thing about Russian women and Russians is they have this pride thing. I know, I married a Russian woman and she was great...except for some things I ran into. Remember the Kursk? Pride stopped the Russians from asking for American help to save the men on the submarine so they died.

1) She held out her hand and said.." Give me money " and it was expected to be supplied in whatever amount she wanted because after I married her, I was her husband and that is what she expected from me. Never came up before the papers were signed though....only after.

2) I was always wrong...no matter what.

3) She was dirt poor and liked expensive Italian clothes and expected to have it.

4) They spoil their children rotten.

5) Was a procrastinator big time because she always knew what was best, what was the best way to do things and how to do it.

6) Russians invented everything and won World War 2 by themselves.

That is my experience and I know many who have had very good fortune with Russian women. Pride though, it runs deep in Russian blood. Just be prepared to spend a lot of money...and I mean a lot. On the other hand, I know plenty of great Russian women...it comes under the people are people thing no matter where you go in this world.

Good luck.

geo
Oct 28, 2008 12:28 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
Wantedman
WantedmanWantedmanHamilton, Ontario Canada4 Threads 122 Posts
Yikes! man that' rough. I hope at least the sex is good. laugh I'm not normally one to follow the masses when it comes to stereo typing. From my experience you find proud people everywhere as well as modest ones. Because of the uncertainty with long distance communications I tend to keep on window shopping probably as most people would.

I know if I was in your shoes being with a woman that had that kind of additude I would ship her back to Russia! There are enough Canadian woman at least in my city that I have come across that are like that lol
Oct 28, 2008 7:06 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
Katine76again
Katine76againKatine76againMoncton, New Brunswick Canada1 Threads 145 Posts
Yes!! And I am honest with them from the first start. That I am NOT looking for long distance relationships with them. And that I believe in getting to know someone before even coming close to the topic of marriage.

Normaly those you have to watch out for are those who are very pushy and like others said, give you some sob story to get money! So far knock on wood I never had one bug me for me. I suppose I have not let them get far enough either lol

Just got with your gutt instinct and be honest with them!
Oct 28, 2008 8:12 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
gemery
gemerygemeryWilliams Lake, British Columbia Canada5 Threads 676 Posts
Wantedman: Yikes! man that' rough. I hope at least the sex is good. I'm not normally one to follow the masses when it comes to stereo typing. From my experience you find proud people everywhere as well as modest ones. Because of the uncertainty with long distance communications I tend to keep on window shopping probably as most people would.

I know if I was in your shoes being with a woman that had that kind of additude I would ship her back to Russia! There are enough Canadian woman at least in my city that I have come across that are like that lol


Your quite right....it is a generalization of course wantedman...however, it is deep pride I have not seen in other people. Russian history is written in blood, the people have endured much hardship during the course of their history. Just to give you another example, before WW2, Russian horticulturists collected seeds from every grain grown for food known to man. They kept them in a repository in St Petersburg which was known as Leningrad back then. During WW2, during the siege of Leningrad, around 3.5 million people starved to death during the siege, in the repository was 5 tons of grain that could have been made into food....at the end of the siege, all 5 tons could be accounted for. That is the deep pride I am talking about. We would have made food with it, they didn't because they were proud of it and therefore were willing to die to save it.

But, there are good ones....and not so good ones...the same as anywhere. And not all Russian women are like that either. I know many Russian people. Wonderful country and wonderful hospitable people...wish I could go back.

No, that attitude stayed in Russia....because of the 'procrastination' and the 'she was right and I was wrong" thing. laugh

geo
Oct 31, 2008 2:14 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
dustylanes
dustylanesdustylanesnot far from here, Saskatchewan Canada4 Posts
Yes i have also been contacted by woman from other countries,all i do if not interested just block them so they can't contact you any more.Hope this helps you some
Nov 1, 2008 6:06 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia179 Threads 9 Polls 14,724 Posts
I believe there are as many scammer man as women, these people prey on the lonely . If I cant meet you for a coffee then friends is it . A good way ive found to work out someones motivations is simply to imply you are in financial difficulties early in the conversation something like ..damn power bill came today ill have to try & pay that next week ..soon weeds out the $$$$grubbers .
Ive heard the scammers from russia are pretty full on, I just think if they look too good to be true guess what ? they probob;ly are !
Jmo
Kizzy
lips
Nov 1, 2008 10:30 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
HazelEyes37
HazelEyes37HazelEyes37Darlingford, Manitoba Canada2 Posts
I reply to all letters, the good and the bad. Everyone gets my hotmail address first (I don't care if this address gets junk mail) Some are just looking for money, but I'm very clear right from the start that I don't have money. I have made some good friends from all over the world, from Hong Kong to Russia. You can never have too many friends!
If you make it clear that you wont give them money, the scammers wont waist there time with you. The ones that don't care about your money are your friends.
I always treat everyone with the same respect that I would like in return.
Nov 3, 2008 12:35 AM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
blondeaozichick
blondeaozichickblondeaozichickMelbourne, Victoria Australia110 Threads 3 Polls 7,759 Posts
kizzy27: I believe there are as many scammer man as women, these people prey on the lonely . If I cant meet you for a coffee then friends is it . A good way ive found to work out someones motivations is simply to imply you are in financial difficulties early in the conversation something like ..damn power bill came today ill have to try & pay that next week ..soon weeds out the $$$$grubbers .
Ive heard the scammers from russia are pretty full on, I just think if they look too good to be true guess what ? they probob;ly are !
Jmo
Kizzy


wave hey miss kizzy.. fancy meeting you all the way over on the other side of the world laugh
Nov 3, 2008 1:07 AM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada33 Threads 24,897 Posts
It's an Aussie invasion!banana

Hello Ladieswave Bringing any sunshine with you?grin
Nov 13, 2008 3:14 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
Wantedman
WantedmanWantedmanHamilton, Ontario Canada4 Threads 122 Posts
Well that russian lady I had been emailing back and forth with turned out to be a dud. I had several times insisted on her msn and phone number but instead I have not gotten any emails back from her in a week now. From now on I'm ignoring all russian womaen, and most from any out side countries.


So back to my fishing.
Nov 17, 2008 8:58 PM CST Being contacted from those in other countries....
zoltar865
zoltar865zoltar865Melfort, Saskatchewan Canada15 Posts
I too have been contacted by women from other countries, especially Russia. Some of my contacts have become very interesting "pen pals" others were very obvious scammers. Its not easy to tell good from bad, but the ones who are content to trade e-mails with you on the site are usually sincere, its the ones who demand your personal e-mail immediately who are the ones to watch. There are also sites out there dedicated to pointing out scammers, (kind of like a dating site scammers who's who). If your careful about your personal information you should be ok. Still safer than picking up a stranger in a bar.
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