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Oct 24, 2008 7:59 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
samora77
samora77samora77Staten Island, New York USA39 Threads 543 Posts
I am an easy going person--and I often wonder why my sister's make life impossiable. For instance when their husband's try to give a very expensive piece of jewelry -- and she tell him she didn't want that, he wanted a car instead. (The one she's got is only one year old.)

Simply say what you want -- A very good piece of advice from my dad--
"If and when you get married make sure you take care of your husband --if you don't someone else will -- Tell you husband what you're thinking or what you want -- remember he is not a mind reader neither are you, so make sure you listen to him, hear what he is saying. Don't assume he know's"" I think that is one of the biggest mistake we make as a couple we assume.

When a person decide to get married or live together or even have kid's -- the dynamic of the realtionship changes, and the responsibility is great--so be open like when you're making a will--spell out your feelings -- the way you feel --make very sure your partner hears what is being said--and you hear what he is saying -- if you do this life becomes easy .

We spend so much time fighting blaming we loose the gift of love. Lady's you can't change him and will never be able to--guy's you can't change her unless you marry a child bride. Respect, Acceptence, Compromise, All the while smiling, You can't beat that.

READ THIS AND GIVE ME YOUR FEED BACK=====
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Oct 24, 2008 8:05 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
It goes both was we shouldn't assume we know what the other is feeling or thinking and the other shouldn't have to end up being a mind reader.
By her doing him that way I am sure he is feeling he can't do anything right for her or do anything that pleases her. So sure he will grow tired of that.
I don't like relationships that have fighting them, It makes no sense. Sure we will be upset by why yell and throw fits with the person you love and cherish and supposedly care so much about.

I totally agree with this also that you said, Respect, Acceptence, Compromise, All the while smiling, You can't beat that.
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Oct 24, 2008 8:05 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
mylifewithu: It goes both ways we shouldn't assume we know what the other is feeling or thinking and the other shouldn't have to end up being a mind reader.
By her doing him that way I am sure he is feeling he can't do anything right for her or do anything that pleases her. So sure he will grow tired of that.
I don't like relationships that have fighting them, It makes no sense. Sure we will be upset by why yell and throw fits with the person you love and cherish and supposedly care so much about.

I totally agree with this also that you said, Respect, Acceptence, Compromise, All the while smiling, You can't beat that.
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Oct 26, 2008 10:29 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
samora77
samora77samora77Staten Island, New York USA39 Threads 543 Posts
mylifewithu: It goes both was we shouldn't assume we know what the other is feeling or thinking and the other shouldn't have to end up being a mind reader.
By her doing him that way I am sure he is feeling he can't do anything right for her or do anything that pleases her. So sure he will grow tired of that.
I don't like relationships that have fighting them, It makes no sense. Sure we will be upset by why yell and throw fits with the person you love and cherish and supposedly care so much about.

I totally agree with this also that you said, Respect, Acceptence, Compromise, All the while smiling, You can't beat that.


wink Being able to smile at the world and at yourself make's everything's easy. --- mylifewithi-- darlin you scard me hahahah--but I'd like to say this , Picking a fight with your mate husband or guy, for the right reason is good because the making up is good fun. Never fight for real issues laugh just think of the good things--there's always not so good in life, learn to make it not a part of you.blushing
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Oct 26, 2008 10:30 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
samora77
samora77samora77Staten Island, New York USA39 Threads 543 Posts
laugh laugh Funny real funnyblushing
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Oct 26, 2008 10:38 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
jpunk
jpunkjpunkEdinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK43 Threads 7 Polls 1,897 Posts
samora77: Funny real funny



I couldn't help myself!!! Glad you found it funny!!grin
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Oct 26, 2008 11:46 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
mylifewithu: It goes both was we shouldn't assume we know what the other is feeling or thinking and the other shouldn't have to end up being a mind reader.
By her doing him that way I am sure he is feeling he can't do anything right for her or do anything that pleases her. So sure he will grow tired of that.
I don't like relationships that have fighting them, It makes no sense. Sure we will be upset by why yell and throw fits with the person you love and cherish and supposedly care so much about.

I totally agree with this also that you said, Respect, Acceptence, Compromise, All the while smiling, You can't beat that.


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Oct 30, 2008 8:39 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
samora77
samora77samora77Staten Island, New York USA39 Threads 543 Posts
dancing Don't ever change--
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Oct 30, 2008 9:02 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
livinglarge
livinglargelivinglargein a good place, Kildare Ireland10 Threads 5,879 Posts
Aww I'm sorry Sam that you and your sis ,

havn't resolved these childhood issues !

move on yourself !

and let her stay stuck


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Oct 30, 2008 9:05 PM CST Easy Simple & Open.
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
Seriously, I agree. And I'm happy with whatever somebody gives me. My best female friend gave me an adjustable shower head for my birthday a couple of months ago...the kind that massages, and everything. As she said, it's a gift that keeps giving every day. I love it.

My best male friend took 4 of us out to Chinese dinner. We had a blast, and memories and laughter that will last a lifetime of one of the rare times four great friends got together for hours. Nobody can take that memory away...it was a beautiful gift.

I don't need someone to give me jewelry or cars...or anything else. And I'd never consider saying, "Oh, you bought me a ring, I'd rather have had a new car." confused I don't get people like that.

But yes, as to the other part, communication goes both ways...or at least, it should. Nobody is a mind reader, nor should they be expected to be...and you have to love somebody for who they are, not who you wish they could be, or who you think you can help them change to become. I've divorced two men who married me thinking that...to find out that they were wrong, for I am me. And I love me for who I am...finally.

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