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lusciousmile: Yeah, but wait till the person whose name was mistakenly used, sees that. Double trouble.
Oh they know, both of them.
More importantly, the one that got it wrong...
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jbibiza: I understand what you say about distance and overcoming it... my question is how do you get to that point if you meet online and the distance is already there? I know myself well enough to know... no matter how perfect things may seem in a written relationship, you know nothing until you meet in person and after that it can take months before you know if that person is the one for you.
To get a true perspective of a relationship it means spending time with each other, seeing each others bad habits, and annoying little quirks, it´s easy to be romantic and perfect if you only see each other a couple of times a month.... I know this because it´s how I wound up marrying my ex husband. If we had just spent a month living day to day with each other we never would have married.
So reality tells me that to try to start something with someone halfway around the world is just setting myself up for a disappointment, why spend months months on a slight maybe cutting yourself off from possibilities much closer.
To get a true perspective of a relationship it means spending time with each other, seeing each others bad habits, and annoying little quirks, it´s easy to be romantic and perfect if you only see each other a couple of times a month.... I know this because it´s how I wound up marrying my ex husband. If we had just spent a month living day to day with each other we never would have married.
So reality tells me that to try to start something with someone halfway around the world is just setting myself up for a disappointment, why spend months months on a slight maybe cutting yourself off from possibilities much closer.
Hi lovely...
I can answer this now, I had to think about it JB. Seriously...
I agree that the written relationship can be very different from the online one. The distance thing is something seperate, if you have enough energy, time and lets face it, to travel we need money...
I am a person who has met three men from online, not here from another site and I have been faced with a different person, but I wanted to meet with them and not leave it too long.
I am happy to do the distance thing with a means to an end, I am fortunate that I only have until May in current contract and that I have a job that I can move anywhere, there is always a school that will be wanting a teacher with my qualifications, so if I meet a person and we hit it off, we fall in love, and begin to build and make a future together then it is fairly easy for me to move, relocate...
So for me, distance is not an object that would prevent me from a relationship that can be right, from afar, if I want to invest all my love and time in it, and he feels the same then, there I believe I am the sort of person that will commit to that and will want it and enginner the course....
I do exactly what I say on the tin, I am the same here as I am in real life, as are many and whilst I am here for a laugh and came here with an open mind, it takes one person to bowl me over and I will go out of my way to meet him, if I meet him and I feel nothing, then Iwill state that I am not attracted to him and I will go away with a level of dissapointment, but I will not be broken hearted...
I know this, because I know me, I go in with an open mind and that is it, but then who knows that one person that has bowled me over and I want to spend time with, may well be the person that I want to be with for the rest of my life, and because I have taken my time and been choosy about who I get close to, I think I am in a position to say this...
Down to the individual J, what they want, what they expect, I do not subscribe to expectations and not having any, of course I have got some, I would be foolish if I said I did not...
I remain in Europe and therefore I know that rrealistically, the US would be futile for me, because I could not move there, at least until my children have finished their education here, so I omit that possibility, Europe is a safe bet for me and am able to live and love in many places, then there is always the possibilty that a person would be able to move too...
I do not rule out what could happen, I just rule out what cannot...
Just makes it all that little bit easier...
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You are just too quick for them Luscious...
Yeah, but wait till the person whose name was mistakenly used, sees that.
Double trouble.