Should a woman take her husband's name? (141)
I've been married several times...took back my maiden name after my last divorce because I was NEVER getting married again (which is why I don't use this word any more), and now have retained my late husband's last name.
IF I ever getstupidmarried again, I'll probably take his name again...though I'll miss this one.
IF I ever get
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Ambrose2007: In an age where hyphenated names are common (one of my favorites was a lady named "Bang" and a guy named "Lamb" - hyphenated to "Lamb-Bang"...guess that was preferable to "Bang-Lamb? ), and where couples often retain their own last names, how do you feel about the subject?
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
if its their will, it shall be done
don't argue
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When I was married, I took my ex's last name. And being that it was 12 letters long, I chose not to hyphenate it. But when I got divorced, I took my maiden name back. If I ever get married again, I'll either keep my maiden name or hyphenate it. I paid to get my rightful name back... not totally giving it up again!
There was a doctor in the town I used to live in who upon marrying his wife, they BOTH hyphenated their names! How cool is that??
There was a doctor in the town I used to live in who upon marrying his wife, they BOTH hyphenated their names! How cool is that??
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Ambrose2007: In an age where hyphenated names are common (one of my favorites was a lady named "Bang" and a guy named "Lamb" - hyphenated to "Lamb-Bang"...guess that was preferable to "Bang-Lamb? ), and where couples often retain their own last names, how do you feel about the subject?
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
I've been married and I would rather any future spouse retain her own last name. Hyphenated would be a good second choice but I think it's a big pain in the butt for men and women to go about changing all their identity to reflect a new last name i.e. license, credit cards, etc..
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Ambrose2007: In an age where hyphenated names are common (one of my favorites was a lady named "Bang" and a guy named "Lamb" - hyphenated to "Lamb-Bang"...guess that was preferable to "Bang-Lamb? ), and where couples often retain their own last names, how do you feel about the subject?
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
I've always wanted to hyphenate my name to Biggus-Dickus , but only because I'm fan of my
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If all my exwife had tried to take was my name, I would be very happy. Instead, she porked a neighbor in my bed and then tried to get half of my stuff.
I won that one though.
I won that one though.
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BnaturAl: if its their will, it shall be done
don't argue
don't argue
I object to hyphenated names on esthetic grounds (also, what about the poor children of such a name-marriage? What if they tried to carry on their heritage...then we'd have four or even eight last names in a couple of generations...another objection then being that it is an ancestoral dead end). Also, it seems like a kind of force egalitarianism to me...
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Ambrose2007: In an age where hyphenated names are common (one of my favorites was a lady named "Bang" and a guy named "Lamb" - hyphenated to "Lamb-Bang"...guess that was preferable to "Bang-Lamb? ), and where couples often retain their own last names, how do you feel about the subject?
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.
Someone told me he was going to propose to me on april fools' day, so i am hoping to distract him till midnight that night, and let him make a foolish mistake.
His name is the same as my dads, so i get to keep it. I love it !
Talk about a lamb bang!
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BnaturAl: I've always wanted to hyphenate my name to Biggus-Dickus , but only because I'm fan of my python
I'm also a fan of Incontinentia Buttocks.
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Ambrose2007: I object to hyphenated names on esthetic grounds (also, what about the poor children of such a name-marriage? What if they tried to carry on their heritage...then we'd have four or even eight last names in a couple of generations...another objection then being that it is an ancestoral dead end). Also, it seems like a kind of force egalitarianism to me...
That became a small issue with me & my family. My mom thought I should keep his last name because our daughter had that name. And my brother asked if I'd asked my daughter's permission to change my name back. My reply was that she HAS his blood running through her veins... I do not.
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DazzleYou: If all my exwife had tried to take was my name, I would be very happy. Instead, she porked a neighbor in my bed and then tried to get half of my stuff.
I won that one though.
I won that one though.
Was your neighbour living with his mommy?
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sweetowen: When I was married, I took my ex's last name. And being that it was 12 letters long, I chose not to hyphenate it. But when I got divorced, I took my maiden name back. If I ever get married again, I'll either keep my maiden name or hyphenate it. I paid to get my rightful name back... not totally giving it up again!
There was a doctor in the town I used to live in who upon marrying his wife, they BOTH hyphenated their names! How cool is that??
There was a doctor in the town I used to live in who upon marrying his wife, they BOTH hyphenated their names! How cool is that??
Well, the aforementioned "Lamb-Bang" couple did exactly that (I thought that was the usual practice).
Oh - the issue of keeping or not keeping the husband's last name after divorce/separation is an interesting one, but I don't consider it to be as controversial or psychologically telling as the decision made before marriage.
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Ambrose2007: I object to hyphenated names on esthetic grounds (also, what about the poor children of such a name-marriage? What if they tried to carry on their heritage...then we'd have four or even eight last names in a couple of generations...another objection then being that it is an ancestoral dead end). Also, it seems like a kind of force egalitarianism to me...
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lusciousmile: Someone told me he was going to propose to me on april fools' day, so i am hoping to distract him till midnight that night, and let him make a foolish mistake.His name is the same as my dads, so i get to keep it. I love it !
Talk about a lamb bang!
Talk about a lamb bang!
Yeah, that's funny, Lush.
In my case, GG suggested that we combine roughly half of our last names into one name. The clincher is that if we did that, we'd end up with her last name. Clever girl, eh? (Hint: our names are Scandinavian and share the last three letters
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I took my husbands last name when we married, went back to my maiden name when we seperated. If I was to marry again I would keep my own name.
My children have their Dads name and dont have an issue with me having a different surname, they just reckon they have their dads name and I have mine dads name.
My children have their Dads name and dont have an issue with me having a different surname, they just reckon they have their dads name and I have mine dads name.
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sweetowen: That became a small issue with me & my family. My mom thought I should keep his last name because our daughter had that name. And my brother asked if I'd asked my daughter's permission to change my name back. My reply was that she HAS his blood running through her veins... I do not.
When I did it, mine was already different than theirs...and we talked about why I wasn't taking his name back (it was an option), and they understood that I wasn't married to him any more either, so I'd rather go all the way back to the beginning, and take my own name back.
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My last name is a testament to a man I have never seen in any way as a father or a man worthy of having his name continue through my life. I would gladly take the woman I Love's name as it has not lost any semblance of what should be recognized as a surname of honour and pride. I guess it would depend on the situation but I would never force my last name upon anyone willing or unwilling. If they chose to forgo their own I would likewise not object and in doing so perhaps regain some semblance of meaning for a word that to me has lost all meaning.
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Ambrose2007: Yeah, that's funny, Lush.
In my case, GG suggested that we combine roughly half of our last names into one name. The clincher is that if we did that, we'd end up with her last name. Clever girl, eh? (Hint: our names are Scandinavian and share the last three letters )
In my case, GG suggested that we combine roughly half of our last names into one name. The clincher is that if we did that, we'd end up with her last name. Clever girl, eh? (Hint: our names are Scandinavian and share the last three letters )
son?
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vonney: I took my husbands last name when we married, went back to my maiden name when we seperated. If I was to marry again I would keep my own name.
My children have their Dads name and dont have an issue with me having a different surname, they just reckon they have their dads name and I have mine dads name.
My children have their Dads name and dont have an issue with me having a different surname, they just reckon they have their dads name and I have mine dads name.
The highlighted sentiment seems somewhat common, Vonney. The problem is that one might wonder if one's second marriage has second-class status relative to the first. I don't think that would be a good thing.
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I'm particularly curious whether women and men who haven't been married tend to view this issue differently from those who have been married previously.