Is today's woman too materialistic ( Archived) (98)

I have come across a few guys on this dating site and a few others who have voiced a common complaint - they think that a lot of women are looking for Mr. Rich and if they meet a guy who is honest, hard working and caring - but not well off, that given a choice they would take Mr. Wealthy. They are convinced that a poor guy does not stand a chance. No matter how much of a decent good man he is, he can't compete with Mr. Moneybags. They are convinced that women where they live don't want a good man so they feel forced to come online to hopefully find women who probably will put less emphasis on the material. Is it something that they are doing wrong or is it that women are more concerned with putting materialism before love. Would love to hear your comments.

It can be men who have been burned financially in the past who are wary
Or
Their own self image/esteem issues

Or they just don't want to work, and expect women to 'take them as they are'.

That kind of man is few and far between thankfully, or maybe I am being Naive
I believe if you give a decent man a chance, regardless of his financial status you are going to have a good life anyway

Because they were burned before,- they're so guarded that it's hard to tear that wall down--and so it become's a play for power. They ask for honesty trust no games. That's exactly what they do. I don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings but -Ladys tell me if I am wrong?? .

Oh, I have no doubt that there are women like that out there, and some of these men may have had that experience...but not all of us are like that. I could care less what a man makes, where he lives, or what he drives. I care that he's honest, intelligent, has a good sense of humor and positive outlook on life, and a Spiritual nature similar to mine. I care more about his morals than his wallet, and more about his inside than his outside.

My mother raised me with the saying, "It's just as easy to love a rich man as it is a poor man", and knowing all of my silverware and proper settings. I have had the etiquette training to be able to dine with the Queen of England. She wanted me to marry a doctor or a lawyer.

I have married a clerk, a janitor, a steelworker, and a retired boilermaker. I'm now getting ready to date a welder. Go figure. I could still dine with the Queen w/o shame, but that doesn't mean a thing to me.

I have a heart of gold, I don't need to go digging for gold.

Nothing wrong in that, if a man is worth waiting for, when he gets back on his feet..why not do it. It doesn't have to be the male who brings the greater financial package to the union

I hope.

The last guy i wanted to date, had this problem. He couldn't even pay his bills on time, all because he didn't want to work. Guess who he expected to rescue him? Me!


If a man has a disability, i can understand, but laziness, no way.

I couldn't agree with you more,laziness is inexcusable, difficulties are a different matter altogether.

Absolutely. I have been the breadwinner of the family, when I was married to the father of my children. He had a back injury and I supported a family of 4...no easy feat today. But, I would do it again for a disability. I'll never do it for someone who is just lazy.

In all fairness to the chaps...there are women out there to get what they can without standing on their own two feet..maybe they were brought up the old fashioned way, as some in Ireland are, to wed and be taken care off by the man for the rest of their lives.
It is these women who "burn" the lovely men that are out there in this world that have a lot to answer. It makes life harder and tougher in many ways for the good women who finally come along and have to pick up the pieces and fight a long battle in gaining the trust of the man whoes values and beliefs have been shaken by the past

I don't know, I can't afford to find out!

Go girl..........say it as it is................



............hi dafty................ ............

A very wise comment, whilst some men are lazy, the greater number that are financially worse off are most likely there from past mistakes, and would be only to happy to be the main breadwinner, sometimes in life finding work can be as hard if not harder than finding a decent woman.



JMO

That is wonderful. I would do the same. If he one can't work due to such reasons, then the other should take care of the family. That is love, not taking advantage of the other, but both doing the best they can to help each other.

Hiiiiii!

Again, this is genderising.

Some men, as women have been financially ruined by being in a relationship, we all make mistakes.

I have seen some women screw their exes for everything and not give a toss.

But then I have seen lazy men who expect a woman to work whilst they play on games all day.