How Important Is It ....? ( Archived) (60)

I think there are many who do just that, they use humour/insincerity as a cloak as the serious side is too hard for them to deal with, opens too many questions that they are not willing to answer honestly, so they make idle promises to enable themselves to move on, unquestioned.

Took the words straight from my fingertips

The best way? Get hammered, then you're always honest!

I agree dru ...

I am curious though as to the nature of folks who don't have this "tude" about life.

that old saying "there's two people you can always count on for guaranteed truth, drunks and children"

I can't help you there, Al...I'm baffled by them myself. I do know one who uses humor to hide a very deep person inside, and that's part of his protective shell...sometimes he ends up doing this because he backs off out of fear of being hurt again. But he's the only one that I understand. Others who live their life this way, I just don't get it.

COuld be Kev ... I see some noteworthy points there. I observe folks also who have so many friends, so many committments, its as if they spread themselves out so much so as to avoid being lonely perhaps. The numbers of friends means if one is angry with them, they can just go to someone else, ignoring you and the issues of their inability to committ. just guessing though ...

I mean I guess it's possible for some there is some rather innocent innateness about the behavior...no ill will intended, just some auto life mechanism that makes them who they are.

Sometimes they think it's better to laugh than to cry.

What we write sometimes is misunderstood.

I am a humerous person, but when I want to get my point across I will. Sometimes with humour, sometimes with stridency.

It is about understanding, I probably am happy to chat with people who other people think are off and nasty, because I understand that there is always a meaning underneath it all. But then I can spot a person who is posting rubbish, simply because they are bored.

Those I do not respond to.

A threat is something I do not make, a promise I will follow through, so if I say something, then I will follow it through, because I mean it.

But then, it depend 's on the corcumstances, how the recipient will use it.

So, I am careful about who I make promises to, as for threatening behaviour? I do not offer it, and if a person threatens me, then I completley pull out of their arena.


Alot of people are lessinclined to speak in terms of serious, especially here, when they do, they are often misunderstood and a war begins.

That is very much evident.

What I hate the most is when after a person tells you they never said that, when you know that they did.

This happens constantly with my grand daughter's father. He will phone and say he wants to come for a visit on a certain day at a certain time and then not show up. After he will say he never said that.

Oh yes, those people.

I take notes, times and names.

Then I would post it to them.

They may still deny it, but it will unerve them.