I am upset as my two grand kids were outside playing, one a boy and one a girl. The boy is turning 6 and has autism and the girl is 5. We got a phone call a couple of days ago that the foster mother of the girl is upset as she said that the boy touched her inappropriate and she did not like it.
After investigating they found out he had padded her on her bottom. Now they are not allowed to be here at the same time. I do not know why she would use those words and wonder what else she is saying when she is here.
I just wonder why a 5 year old would say the word inappropriate instead of just saying he padded my botton. We never saw this happen and she never said anything to us. The social worker was surprised we did not know nothing about it.
Nov 10, 2008 12:12 PM CST What is inappropriate behavior between young kids
KevintWorcester, Home of the sauce, West Midlands, England UK6 Threads433 Posts
KevintWorcester, Home of the sauce, West Midlands, England UK433 posts
kitty01: I am upset as my two grand kids were outside playing, one a boy and one a girl. The boy is turning 6 and has autism and the girl is 5. We got a phone call a couple of days ago that the foster mother of the girl is upset as she said that the boy touched her inappropriate and she did not like it.
After investigating they found out he had padded her on her bottom. Now they are not allowed to be here at the same time. I do not know why she would use those words and wonder what else she is saying when she is here.
Oh this makes me so angry, why can't people realise that children play innocent games that warped adults see as offensive, its a sign of the times I afraid.
Best just to try and ignore this family and distract your child without placing much importance to the event, else a complex is created.
Kevint: Oh this makes me so angry, why can't people realise that children play innocent games that warped adults see as offensive, its a sign of the times I afraid.
Best just to try and ignore this family and distract your child without placing much importance to the event, else a complex is created.
JMO I hasten to add
I know it is best to ignore it but now she cannot come here for visits when he is here. I am worried what she might say next when she goes back to the foster mom. She is to be adopted and then I will have no more visits so wanted as many as possible now, but having second thoughts about her coming for visits.
Kids today have a sophisticated vocabulary...but "inappropriate" sounds like a word planted there by someone else saying it first. She probably originally said that he "patted my bottom", and he was told it was "inappropriate behavior", then she mimicked that. Kids are great mimicks, too.
Nov 10, 2008 12:30 PM CST What is inappropriate behavior between young kids
KevintWorcester, Home of the sauce, West Midlands, England UK6 Threads433 Posts
KevintWorcester, Home of the sauce, West Midlands, England UK433 posts
kitty01: We were told she actually said that he touch her inappropriately and she did not like it.
I think that the chances of a 5 year old understanding let alone using such a word are slim, if she is going to be adopted does that mean she will be moving from your area?
Kevint: I think that the chances of a 5 year old understanding let alone using such a word are slim, if she is going to be adopted does that mean she will be moving from your area?
The foster home she is in now the lady there wants to adopt her, so she will be staying in this city.
kitty01: The foster home she is in now the lady there wants to adopt her, so she will be staying in this city.
playing devil's advoacate here...... is it possible that the foster mother is trying to imply that there are sinister things going on at home, to increase the chances of a speedy adoption??
otherwise- i think it's a huge over reaction- i would be more worried that she is upset by someone patting her on the bottom, than the fact that the boy did it. she is obviously being given far too much information about 'touching'. they do need to be aware, but there is such a thing as overdoing it.
I am going to ask anyway. Why couldn't you adopt your grandkids? The foster parent is fuelling fire. The autistic child isn't doing anhything to cause her harm, but the people putting words in the mouth of babes are. I would fight everything to make sure that that foster mother doesn't get that child.
I would have loved to have taken her but my health is not good enough to keep up with an active growing child. She is well looked after at the foster home and has been there for 4 years. The adoption was put on hold until they could get permission from the band, it has been a long wait. Do not know what is taking so long.
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After investigating they found out he had padded her on her bottom. Now they are not allowed to be here at the same time.
I do not know why she would use those words and wonder what else she is saying when she is here.