LDR - questions (64)
I tried it, but it didn't work.
I strongly advise anyone who has no intentions of 'moving', to just spare themselves the hurt and forget about it.
I strongly advise anyone who has no intentions of 'moving', to just spare themselves the hurt and forget about it.
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lusciousmile: I tried it, but it didn't work. I strongly advise anyone who has no intentions of 'moving', to just spare themselves the hurt and forget about it.
Hey there, thanks for answering.
You tried, meaning you actually met the guy but neither intended to move? Was that it?
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lusciousmile: I tried it, but it didn't work. I strongly advise anyone who has no intentions of 'moving', to just spare themselves the hurt and forget about it.
youre hoooooooooooome!
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Moema: Hey there, thanks for answering.
You tried, meaning you actually met the guy but neither intended to move? Was that it?
You tried, meaning you actually met the guy but neither intended to move? Was that it?
im moving
but he had to marry me
actually i was moving anyway and very single
the compass got knicked and now im still moving
and moving still sucks
but the end result will be great
its not easy but its possible
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Moema: Hey there, thanks for answering.
You tried, meaning you actually met the guy but neither intended to move? Was that it?
You tried, meaning you actually met the guy but neither intended to move? Was that it?
Hi Mo
As long as one or the other have agrred that if things get really serious they will move, then I think a LDR can work, but that moving point has to be sorted very early i the relationship, or tears will occur
JMO
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Moema: Hey there, thanks for answering.
You tried, meaning you actually met the guy but neither intended to move? Was that it?
You tried, meaning you actually met the guy but neither intended to move? Was that it?
Hei.
Yes, we met and developed a friendship for several months. We had no expectations when we met, we were just friends. He was there for me when i needed him, and was a gentleman the whole time.
Communication lessened because he worked too much, and i had a problem with that, but it wasn't like he was going to quit his job because of me.....thing is, this distance can really fu** up things.
I whinned about not having enough time talking with him, but can you blame me. He then felt bad that i wasn't happy, and we decided to end it. He is a great guy, and i feel terrible it didn't work out.
That was ages ago and he's probably married by now.
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mindfful: youre hoooooooooooome!
Paris was great.
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lusciousmile: I tried it, but it didn't work. I strongly advise anyone who has no intentions of 'moving', to just spare themselves the hurt and forget about it.
omygosh i just read this!!!
LUSH
i dont even know you being so down
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now im sad that i read that
but ya know-it wasnt right at the time
its all good
gotta jet ladies im starvin
but ya know-it wasnt right at the time
its all good
gotta jet ladies im starvin
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I don´t do romance on line... I talk to see if there is enough in common to want to meet and arrange to meet as soon as we can... if that´s not possible I won´t take it past the friend stage.
I learned this the hard way... last year I spent over 2 months talking to a guy on another site, then email, facebook and phone. We had so much in common, shared the same life style and goals for our future...we had a difficult time getting off the phone even after 2 hour conversations...
On paper, we were the perfect match for each other... he was even talking to some of my friends, they were almost as excited to meet him as I was, in fact 2 of them almost went with me when I went to meet him.
The moment we met... there was nothing there for me. I spent the weekend with him on his boat where he treated me like a Goddess... cooked the most amazing meals, had bottles of my favorite wine and champage, breakfast was served to me in bed... scrambled eggs with smoked salmon and cavier and champagne.
He looked just like his pictures, he hadn´t lied about anything, he was exactly who he said he was... I just didn´t feel any chemistry for him... the weekend was lovely, we talked like we had on the phone, hour after hour but I just couldn´t imagine kissing him or being with him.
So now... I don´t get excited but enjoy meeting and talking to people and if I meet someone that I get on with, I would like to meet as soon as we can for a date, with no expectations and if more then that developes, great... if not, hopefully I´ve made a new friend.
I learned this the hard way... last year I spent over 2 months talking to a guy on another site, then email, facebook and phone. We had so much in common, shared the same life style and goals for our future...we had a difficult time getting off the phone even after 2 hour conversations...
On paper, we were the perfect match for each other... he was even talking to some of my friends, they were almost as excited to meet him as I was, in fact 2 of them almost went with me when I went to meet him.
The moment we met... there was nothing there for me. I spent the weekend with him on his boat where he treated me like a Goddess... cooked the most amazing meals, had bottles of my favorite wine and champage, breakfast was served to me in bed... scrambled eggs with smoked salmon and cavier and champagne.
He looked just like his pictures, he hadn´t lied about anything, he was exactly who he said he was... I just didn´t feel any chemistry for him... the weekend was lovely, we talked like we had on the phone, hour after hour but I just couldn´t imagine kissing him or being with him.
So now... I don´t get excited but enjoy meeting and talking to people and if I meet someone that I get on with, I would like to meet as soon as we can for a date, with no expectations and if more then that developes, great... if not, hopefully I´ve made a new friend.
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lusciousmile: I tried it, but it didn't work. I strongly advise anyone who has no intentions of 'moving', to just spare themselves the hurt and forget about it.
Yep...that's why I don't do it. I'll make friends and flirt, but I'm not looking for a LDR.
Funny, Ship isn't in one now...but he will be if he continues his current one after his move! (Sorry, Ship...I just couldn't help but mention that thought as it occurred to me!
)Nope, I've never tried it. I've considered it, but the fact that I'm not in a position to move makes me re-think it. And very few men are willing to move. They've usually got the better paying job.
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I'm in one now, we travel to each other....mostly him travelling to me as my work prevents me from going to his place a lot of the time. We have being doing this now for 2 years and have plans made for the future to hopefully bring our lives closer together.
And we met on here and finally saw what each other looked like on our first date
And we met on here and finally saw what each other looked like on our first date
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to you lady Moema, will get back to this since I know a lot about it, a year about it anyway, there are things that some don't know that they need to because of miscommunications because it IS LDR, so you asked if it was worth it? a real quick reply would be it is a "take a leap of faith" is it wonderful? most times yes, does it have it's draw backs? of course! and there are even limbo stages, but that is when the leap of faith kicks in, anyway I am sorry to rattle, that glass you know wanted to say hello and will get back to this, very interesting threads about this keeps comming up, thanks for another one
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TurkishDelight: I'm in one now, we travel to each other....mostly him travelling to me as my work prevents me from going to his place a lot of the time. We have being doing this now for 2 years and have plans made for the future to hopefully bring our lives closer together.
And we met on here and finally saw what each other looked like on our first date
And we met on here and finally saw what each other looked like on our first date
That´s pretty cool, how far do you live from each other?
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druidess6308: Yep...that's why I don't do it. I'll make friends and flirt, but I'm not looking for a LDR.
Funny, Ship isn't in one now...but he will be if he continues his current one after his move! (Sorry, Ship...I just couldn't help but mention that thought as it occurred to me! )
Nope, I've never tried it. I've considered it, but the fact that I'm not in a position to move makes me re-think it. And very few men are willing to move. They've usually got the better paying job.
Funny, Ship isn't in one now...but he will be if he continues his current one after his move! (Sorry, Ship...I just couldn't help but mention that thought as it occurred to me! )
Nope, I've never tried it. I've considered it, but the fact that I'm not in a position to move makes me re-think it. And very few men are willing to move. They've usually got the better paying job.
So you don´t believe or aren´t up to the "leap of faith" as Irishlass mentioned?
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jbibiza: I don´t do romance on line... I talk to see if there is enough in common to want to meet and arrange to meet as soon as we can... if that´s not possible I won´t take it past the friend stage.
I learned this the hard way... last year I spent over 2 months talking to a guy on another site, then email, facebook and phone. We had so much in common, shared the same life style and goals for our future...we had a difficult time getting off the phone even after 2 hour conversations...
On paper, we were the perfect match for each other... he was even talking to some of my friends, they were almost as excited to meet him as I was, in fact 2 of them almost went with me when I went to meet him.
The moment we met... there was nothing there for me. I spent the weekend with him on his boat where he treated me like a Goddess... cooked the most amazing meals, had bottles of my favorite wine and champage, breakfast was served to me in bed... scrambled eggs with smoked salmon and cavier and champagne.
He looked just like his pictures, he hadn´t lied about anything, he was exactly who he said he was... I just didn´t feel any chemistry for him... the weekend was lovely, we talked like we had on the phone, hour after hour but I just couldn´t imagine kissing him or being with him.
So now... I don´t get excited but enjoy meeting and talking to people and if I meet someone that I get on with, I would like to meet as soon as we can for a date, with no expectations and if more then that developes, great... if not, hopefully I´ve made a new friend.
I learned this the hard way... last year I spent over 2 months talking to a guy on another site, then email, facebook and phone. We had so much in common, shared the same life style and goals for our future...we had a difficult time getting off the phone even after 2 hour conversations...
On paper, we were the perfect match for each other... he was even talking to some of my friends, they were almost as excited to meet him as I was, in fact 2 of them almost went with me when I went to meet him.
The moment we met... there was nothing there for me. I spent the weekend with him on his boat where he treated me like a Goddess... cooked the most amazing meals, had bottles of my favorite wine and champage, breakfast was served to me in bed... scrambled eggs with smoked salmon and cavier and champagne.
He looked just like his pictures, he hadn´t lied about anything, he was exactly who he said he was... I just didn´t feel any chemistry for him... the weekend was lovely, we talked like we had on the phone, hour after hour but I just couldn´t imagine kissing him or being with him.
So now... I don´t get excited but enjoy meeting and talking to people and if I meet someone that I get on with, I would like to meet as soon as we can for a date, with no expectations and if more then that developes, great... if not, hopefully I´ve made a new friend.
WOW what a story!!!!!!
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!
Too bad, he souded so perfect!! Any reason why there wasn´t chemistry on your part?
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mindfful: im moving
but he had to marry me
actually i was moving anyway and very single
the compass got knicked and now im still moving and moving still sucks
but the end result will be great
its not easy but its possible
but he had to marry me
actually i was moving anyway and very single
the compass got knicked and now im still moving and moving still sucks
but the end result will be great
its not easy but its possible
TELL MORE, TELL MORE!!!
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Kevint: Hi Mo
As long as one or the other have agrred that if things get really serious they will move, then I think a LDR can work, but that moving point has to be sorted very early i the relationship, or tears will occur
JMO
As long as one or the other have agrred that if things get really serious they will move, then I think a LDR can work, but that moving point has to be sorted very early i the relationship, or tears will occur
JMO
Thank you Kevin for your wise words!!!!!
How much do you think the connection can grow just by virtual contact?
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lusciousmile: Hei.
Yes, we met and developed a friendship for several months. We had no expectations when we met, we were just friends. He was there for me when i needed him, and was a gentleman the whole time.
Communication lessened because he worked too much, and i had a problem with that, but it wasn't like he was going to quit his job because of me.....thing is, this distance can really fu** up things.I whinned about not having enough time talking with him, but can you blame me. He then felt bad that i wasn't happy, and we decided to end it. He is a great guy, and i feel terrible it didn't work out. That was ages ago and he's probably married by now.
Yes, we met and developed a friendship for several months. We had no expectations when we met, we were just friends. He was there for me when i needed him, and was a gentleman the whole time.
Communication lessened because he worked too much, and i had a problem with that, but it wasn't like he was going to quit his job because of me.....thing is, this distance can really fu** up things.I whinned about not having enough time talking with him, but can you blame me. He then felt bad that i wasn't happy, and we decided to end it. He is a great guy, and i feel terrible it didn't work out. That was ages ago and he's probably married by now.
So no LDR for you?
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Questions start popping in mind. What could happen?
Big changes, a whole new life to start, all the things you have to sort out: people involved, social life, work, documents, money etc. Can be, probably is difficult, but it can all be solved.
Nonetheless, the LDR itself is to be considered as to is it worth going through all that work.
Will you be able to love, respect, honor, understand, enjoy this person? Make plans, share your life, build a life together? What do you have in common apart from attraction? What would it be like?
How much should one think of these things, how much pondering is necessary so all the big changes are worth going through? Is thinking too much a self-boycott? Is thinking about these things beforehand too precipitated?
Anyone care to share experiences? Did this ever happen to you? How did you deal with it? What did you do right, what went wrong?
Appreciate your thoughts and Shipoker, I know, you´d never be in a LDR...