Time Heals All Wounds (46)
brokenspiritLittlespot, Nebraska USA41 Threads 603 PostsDon't know why that saying has been on my mind a lot today. I personally disagree with it. I believe some wounds are so deep they will never be healed. Some of us are just good at hiding these things when we are around others. What is your opinion on that? Of course I am not talking about just injury wounds, but wounds of all types, including being hurt by love.
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i disagree with it, i hate it when people say things like, "it'll get better with time" and things of the like. i suppose that is true in some cases, but i have been through some pretty heavy things that have taught me that some wounds never heal, you just get use to them.
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I loss my wife of 40 year two years ago and I believe time heals. It has been so much better now.
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brokenspirit: Don't know why that saying has been on my mind a lot today. I personally disagree with it. I believe some wounds are so deep they will never be healed. Some of us are just good at hiding these things when we are around others. What is your opinion on that? Of course I am not talking about just injury wounds, but wounds of all types, including being hurt by love.
The wounds only heal over time when you directly face them head on..deal with all the issues around them...so they aren't wounds anymore....and decide how you are gonna do things differently....as long as you keep pushing them away...trying not to think or deal with them...they will stick around and keep rearing their ugly heads as along as you allow them too....dragging you and your life down with them!!!!
So yes I believe it...Cause I have been there done that....but it also takes some hard work and a great deal of examining ourselves along with it....
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Well i have to say i carry my baggage and hide my wounds pretty well.Some have been pretty painful, and most of the people on here wont know me (which is a good thing believe me!) but from my experience its all about coping well with the problems your delivered.
You can cope effectively to all others peoples perspective, but inwardly be smashed to pieces.
As long as you put a brave face on it other people will normally not treat you like a lepper or say they feel sorry for you!
The best solution is finding a happy medium where your not desensitised, but acknowledge your mistakes, grief or whatever malaise is present in your life and try to keep moving forward.
You can cope effectively to all others peoples perspective, but inwardly be smashed to pieces.
As long as you put a brave face on it other people will normally not treat you like a lepper or say they feel sorry for you!
The best solution is finding a happy medium where your not desensitised, but acknowledge your mistakes, grief or whatever malaise is present in your life and try to keep moving forward.
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RobbieM: Well i have to say i carry my baggage and hide my wounds pretty well.Some have been pretty painful, and most of the people on here wont know me (which is a good thing believe me!) but from my experience its all about coping well with the problems your delivered.
You can cope effectively to all others peoples perspective, but inwardly be smashed to pieces.
As long as you put a brave face on it other people will normally not treat you like a lepper or say they feel sorry for you!
The best solution is finding a happy medium where your not desensitised, but acknowledge your mistakes, grief or whatever malaise is present in your life and try to keep moving forward.
You can cope effectively to all others peoples perspective, but inwardly be smashed to pieces.
As long as you put a brave face on it other people will normally not treat you like a lepper or say they feel sorry for you!
The best solution is finding a happy medium where your not desensitised, but acknowledge your mistakes, grief or whatever malaise is present in your life and try to keep moving forward.
Yes but the smashed inner person...with the happy face..may bode well for others but not so well for yourself and your own happiness...nobody said dealing and healing has to be a public event where people have to feel sorry for you...in fact it is very much a highly personal event whereby you get to know yourself the most....let go of our pain and in fact gain the happiness inside to match the smile....
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RobbieM: Well i have to say i carry my baggage and hide my wounds pretty well.Some have been pretty painful, and most of the people on here wont know me (which is a good thing believe me!) but from my experience its all about coping well with the problems your delivered.
You can cope effectively to all others peoples perspective, but inwardly be smashed to pieces.
As long as you put a brave face on it other people will normally not treat you like a lepper or say they feel sorry for you!
The best solution is finding a happy medium where your not desensitised, but acknowledge your mistakes, grief or whatever malaise is present in your life and try to keep moving forward.
You can cope effectively to all others peoples perspective, but inwardly be smashed to pieces.
As long as you put a brave face on it other people will normally not treat you like a lepper or say they feel sorry for you!
The best solution is finding a happy medium where your not desensitised, but acknowledge your mistakes, grief or whatever malaise is present in your life and try to keep moving forward.
Your statement is right on Robbie, We learn to leave the hurt where no one can see it and therefore they believe we are happy happy.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: The wounds only heal over time when you directly face them head on..deal with all the issues around them...so they aren't wounds anymore....and decide how you are gonna do things differently....as long as you keep pushing them away...trying not to think or deal with them...they will stick around and keep rearing their ugly heads as along as you allow them too....dragging you and your life down with them!!!!So yes I believe it...Cause I have been there done that....but it also takes some hard work and a great deal of examining ourselves along with it....
I'll second that, Hugz. With the possible exception of losing a child. That one might never truly heal...just get less painful as time goes on.
However, like you, I've faced my past and dealt with it, and healed my wounds. Even losing my husband a little over a year ago has healed. I am enjoying my life now for what it is.
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I believe time allows you to heal as much as you possibly can. The scar still remains though and can act up in bouts of pain from time to time. It gets easier with time. Maybe that's a better summation.
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druidess6308: I'll second that, Hugz. With the possible exception of losing a child. That one might never truly heal...just get less painful as time goes on.
However, like you, I've faced my past and dealt with it, and healed my wounds. Even losing my husband a little over a year ago has healed. I am enjoying my life now for what it is.
However, like you, I've faced my past and dealt with it, and healed my wounds. Even losing my husband a little over a year ago has healed. I am enjoying my life now for what it is.
I agree...My mom was telling me earlier tonight about a guy I know whose 13 year old son died today...and I just got done telling her that the one thing that I could never handle....was the death of one of my kids...seriously I would have to go with them....My hats off to any parent who has ever managed to somehow get through it cause I in all honesty I don't believe I could....
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time heals all wounds .... except for wrinkles.
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Great soul searching thread.
I have always wondered if 'criminals' who have served their time are ever forgiven if they show true remorse. I find it hard to forgive people who hurt me intentionally and then say that I should forgive them, after all, if you expect forgiveness, is it not fair for me to ask your where yours was?
I have always wondered if 'criminals' who have served their time are ever forgiven if they show true remorse. I find it hard to forgive people who hurt me intentionally and then say that I should forgive them, after all, if you expect forgiveness, is it not fair for me to ask your where yours was?
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I agree...My mom was telling me earlier tonight about a guy I know whose 13 year old son died today...and I just got done telling her that the one thing that I could never handle....was the death of one of my kids...seriously I would have to go with them....My hats off to any parent who has ever managed to somehow get through it cause I in all honesty I don't believe I could....
Ditto. That's the one thing I don't think I would survive well. Parents aren't meant to outlive their children. I hope I never have to find out how well I'd handle it. God help me, I hope I never have to find out.
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Lonely1: Great soul searching thread.
I have always wondered if 'criminals' who have served their time are ever forgiven if they show true remorse. I find it hard to forgive people who hurt me intentionally and then say that I should forgive them, after all, if you expect forgiveness, is it not fair for me to ask your where yours was?
I have always wondered if 'criminals' who have served their time are ever forgiven if they show true remorse. I find it hard to forgive people who hurt me intentionally and then say that I should forgive them, after all, if you expect forgiveness, is it not fair for me to ask your where yours was?
I've forgiven all who have intentionally hurt me...I don't hang onto negative energy by holding a grudge. And I had to forgive to heal.
And yes, if you expect to be forgiven your wrongdoings, you must be able to forgive those of others. Good post, Lonely1.
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Its been 5 months
wounds are still open. time just isent healing this
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xcite2c: I believe time allows you to heal as much as you possibly can. The scar still remains though and can act up in bouts of pain from time to time. It gets easier with time. Maybe that's a better summation.
This sums up my thoughts on the subject also. Nicely put.
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brokenspirit: RobbieM, I get a sense of some very deep pain in your life and I will not say I understand because I have no idea what you have been through. But one thing I can see is that you sound very nice and even able to throw in a little humor. Maybe I need to take time to read your profile. Don't think you need to be sectioned as of yet.
I wouldn't waste your time dear...the funny cat pictures are gone now, though i may well put on a picture of me covered in crap at work to give people a laugh!
I thrive on adversity, thats why it always seems to swarm towards me
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Darkhorseman: time heals all wounds .... except for wrinkles.
Damn! You burst my protective bubble!
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No, time doesn't heal, nor do we forget or forgive in time either. 
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