"Thoughts" on loneliness........ (96)
That's why it's ME, Myself and I. To enjoy your own company is to love yourself and never be truly alone. I can relate-learned to depend on myself - the hard way:) - and i like your attitude.
'Lonliness is the price you pay in your quest for solitude'.
'Lonliness is the price you pay in your quest for solitude'.
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HJFinAZ: I spend more time with myself than with anyone else. Wouldn't it make sense to put some energy into making that relationship as fulfilling as possible? Another person cannot prevent me from feeling lonely, but my inner emptiness can be satisfied. I can come to value my own company. I am a worthwhile companion.
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
Very good!
I think, after you've come to that stage when you can enjoy your own company you almost resent other people intruding into your space for more than a finite amount of time.
That's why my partner and I spend time apart - as long as we miss each other we can't take each other for granted... it's wonderful to be together, but also nice to have some 'Rest and Recuperation' and one's own space back temporarilly.
For me being permanently alone or permanently 'joined at the hip' doesn't work.
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I have a hard time communicating with myself though.
I am ok, but me is so self centered and cold.
I am ok, but me is so self centered and cold.
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rusty_knight: Very good!
I think, after you've come to that stage when you can enjoy your own company you almost resent other people intruding into your space for more than a finite amount of time.
That's why my partner and I spend time apart - as long as we miss each other we can't take each other for granted... it's wonderful to be together, but also nice to have some 'Rest and Recuperation' and one's own space back temporarilly.
For me being permanently alone or permanently 'joined at the hip' doesn't work.
I think, after you've come to that stage when you can enjoy your own company you almost resent other people intruding into your space for more than a finite amount of time.
That's why my partner and I spend time apart - as long as we miss each other we can't take each other for granted... it's wonderful to be together, but also nice to have some 'Rest and Recuperation' and one's own space back temporarilly.
For me being permanently alone or permanently 'joined at the hip' doesn't work.
I understand that one fully........
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rusty_knight: Very good!
I think, after you've come to that stage when you can enjoy your own company you almost resent other people intruding into your space for more than a finite amount of time.
That's why my partner and I spend time apart - as long as we miss each other we can't take each other for granted... it's wonderful to be together, but also nice to have some 'Rest and Recuperation' and one's own space back temporarilly.
For me being permanently alone or permanently 'joined at the hip' doesn't work.
I think, after you've come to that stage when you can enjoy your own company you almost resent other people intruding into your space for more than a finite amount of time.
That's why my partner and I spend time apart - as long as we miss each other we can't take each other for granted... it's wonderful to be together, but also nice to have some 'Rest and Recuperation' and one's own space back temporarilly.
For me being permanently alone or permanently 'joined at the hip' doesn't work.
I think that's so cool, that you found someone who can share that with you...the need for together time, and the need for alone time.
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HJFinAZ: I spend more time with myself than with anyone else. Wouldn't it make sense to put some energy into making that relationship as fulfilling as possible? Another person cannot prevent me from feeling lonely, but my inner emptiness can be satisfied. I can come to value my own company. I am a worthwhile companion.
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
Awesome post, HJF...and yes, it's wonderful to discover how wonderful it is to enjoy one's own company...though I guess I'm not completely alone since I have the dogs.
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HJFinAZ: I spend more time with myself than with anyone else. Wouldn't it make sense to put some energy into making that relationship as fulfilling as possible? Another person cannot prevent me from feeling lonely, but my inner emptiness can be satisfied. I can come to value my own company. I am a worthwhile companion.
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
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I try to put it out of my mind , and find things to stay busy all the time. But, sometimes it gets to me .
You wonder why everyone else seems to have mates ? What's wrong with me - why am I single ?
I look back in my life and realize that it's when I'm not looking - someone walks into my life.
And, when that happens again - I'l gonna do everything I can to keep what I found .
( Very Deep , and "Heavy " )
You wonder why everyone else seems to have mates ? What's wrong with me - why am I single ?
I look back in my life and realize that it's when I'm not looking - someone walks into my life.
And, when that happens again - I'l gonna do everything I can to keep what I found .
( Very Deep , and "Heavy " )
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druidess6308: I think that's so cool, that you found someone who can share that with you...the need for together time, and the need for alone time. It's not for everyone.
That's the problem with going out with an independent youngster - she's only 45 and can't retire for at least another 10 years and we live in different countries and she loves her job......and.......and!
Dammit - when we get married in 2017 she'll only be 53 and I'll be 61; guess she's waiting until after I get my Army pension at 60!
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I agree... When I'm single, I'm always at peace with myself. Always in a good mood, I never have to work on a mate's family car, house, or get them out of a jam, none of that...
and best of HJ. I don't don't ask myself 20 loaded questions everyday.... 
When I'm single, I'm always at peace with myself. Always in a good mood, I never have to work on a mate's family car, house, or get them out of a jam, none of that...and best of HJ. I don't don't ask myself 20 loaded questions everyday....
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HJFinAZ: I spend more time with myself than with anyone else. Wouldn't it make sense to put some energy into making that relationship as fulfilling as possible? Another person cannot prevent me from feeling lonely, but my inner emptiness can be satisfied. I can come to value my own company. I am a worthwhile companion.
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
I TOTALLY agree with that! Yes, there are times I can't stand being alone. But honestly, I'm never alone... I have so many wonderful friends & a great family. All I have to do is get on the phone, they're always there.
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rusty_knight: That's the problem with going out with an independent youngster - she's only 45 and can't retire for at least another 10 years and we live in different countries and she loves her job......and.......and!
Dammit - when we get married in 2017 she'll only be 53 and I'll be 61; guess she's waiting until after I get my Army pension at 60!
Dammit - when we get married in 2017 she'll only be 53 and I'll be 61; guess she's waiting until after I get my Army pension at 60!
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jvaski: I try to put it out of my mind , and find things to stay busy all the time. But, sometimes it gets to me .
You wonder why everyone else seems to have mates ? What's wrong with me - why am I single ?
I look back in my life and realize that it's when I'm not looking - someone walks into my life.
And, when that happens again - I'l gonna do everything I can to keep what I found .
( Very Deep , and "Heavy " )
You wonder why everyone else seems to have mates ? What's wrong with me - why am I single ?
I look back in my life and realize that it's when I'm not looking - someone walks into my life.
And, when that happens again - I'l gonna do everything I can to keep what I found .
( Very Deep , and "Heavy " )
Yes, I agree. Very much so. I have been alone long time now and would feel very lucky to have a woman in my life. I wouldn't mind anything. Even fights would be beautiful. 
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druidess6308:
That's a joke - I only did 13.5 years so my pension is worth 'peanuts'!
I could look after her now, but I do like the fact that she's an independent woman who would not want to rely on anybody else.......... it proves she loves me in an obtuse kinda way!
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rusty_knight: That's a joke - I only did 13.5 years so my pension is worth 'peanuts'!
I could look after her now, but I do like the fact that she's an independent woman who would not want to rely on anybody else.......... it proves she loves me in an obtuse kinda way!
I could look after her now, but I do like the fact that she's an independent woman who would not want to rely on anybody else.......... it proves she loves me in an obtuse kinda way!
So really, you would prefer to be a little more "joined" than you are now? If so, why don't you move to be with her? Keep Malta as a vacation home until she is ready to retire.
Just a thought.
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Another good post HJ. However, I guess I am one of the odd
ones, not surprising. I am ok with being alone because
yes I know ME is a good person. But I do miss that other
person in my life. Someone to hold my hand, to just sit and
talk about things of whatever comes to mind, but most of all
the having someone to be in my bed at night that I can
snuggle with, put an arm around him or his arm around me.
That is such a peacefulness to me. So even though I am fine
with me I will still wait for him to appear when I least expect it.
ones, not surprising.
I am ok with being alone becauseyes I know ME is a good person. But I do miss that other
person in my life. Someone to hold my hand, to just sit and
talk about things of whatever comes to mind, but most of all
the having someone to be in my bed at night that I can
snuggle with, put an arm around him or his arm around me.
That is such a peacefulness to me. So even though I am fine
with me I will still wait for him to appear when I least expect it.
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This is not new but I found that facing my loneliness helped me to deal with it. This was written the week that my exhusband and I moved away from each other. He had been in my life for almost twenty years.
Loneliness drips down the walls
Loneliness creeps in softly
stealing into your house
while it is occupied
you are the only residence
it permeates the room with a colorless fume free odor
but yet successfully permeates the pores of your skin
it is omnipresent
but evades capture
it climbs up to the ceiling and drips down the walls
loneliness I invite you to be my newest friend
I can't keep you at bay anymore
most of the few people in my life have exited out the side door
they ran for it after the show was over
there was no more entertainment to be had so they went home
i was left with you
we make a great couple
you can turn a deaf eye to my concerns yet be my constant companion
its okay loneliness I will learn from you
i will overcome you
you will help me be okay with being alone.
Loneliness drips down the walls
Loneliness creeps in softly
stealing into your house
while it is occupied
you are the only residence
it permeates the room with a colorless fume free odor
but yet successfully permeates the pores of your skin
it is omnipresent
but evades capture
it climbs up to the ceiling and drips down the walls
loneliness I invite you to be my newest friend
I can't keep you at bay anymore
most of the few people in my life have exited out the side door
they ran for it after the show was over
there was no more entertainment to be had so they went home
i was left with you
we make a great couple
you can turn a deaf eye to my concerns yet be my constant companion
its okay loneliness I will learn from you
i will overcome you
you will help me be okay with being alone.
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One is the loneliest, number one is the loneliest, number one...etc. (Which is why I always refer to myself as "Number 2"). 
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HJFinAZ: I spend more time with myself than with anyone else. Wouldn't it make sense to put some energy into making that relationship as fulfilling as possible? Another person cannot prevent me from feeling lonely, but my inner emptiness can be satisfied. I can come to value my own company. I am a worthwhile companion.
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!
great words HJ
you can always count on you
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One of the illusions shared by many is that only another can fill that empty place in us. If only they were with me now, I wouldn't be lonely. But many remain lonely even after those conditions are met. Today, when I am by myself, I will know I am in good company..
Today I will spend some time exploring the most intimate human relationship I will ever have--my relationship with myself..
"What a lovely surprise to discover how un-lonely being alone can be." ~Ellen Burstyn!