arranged marriage,yes or not? (50)
hollysaffronwintertur, Aargau Switzerland64 Threads 269 Postswhy not.....
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hollysaffron: why not.....
why???
marriage should be a union of 2 people who love each other and want to be together...... not 2 people who've never even spoken to each other and their marriage has been arranged and agreed by 2 fathers acting like they're finalising a business deal!!!
TOTALLY F**KED-UP IDEA!!!!
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hollysaffron: why not.....
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In India, arranged marriages are still the norm with a pretty high success rate. Yes, a lot of the time the unions are about business ties and keeping the wealth within the community. Sad but true, child marriages are still prevalent in remote parts of the country - a boy and girl of about 6-8 years are married; the girl remains with her family till she reaches puberty and then is sent off to her husband.
So whether it is a social evil or not, really depends on one's perspective.
So whether it is a social evil or not, really depends on one's perspective.
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I would much rather be single than marry someone I wasn't totally in love with. 
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lanabyte: I would much rather be single than marry someone I wasn't totally in love with.
sis!!! 
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all depends on the arrangements
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Karma3: In India, arranged marriages are still the norm with a pretty high success rate. Yes, a lot of the time the unions are about business ties and keeping the wealth within the community. Sad but true, child marriages are still prevalent in remote parts of the country - a boy and girl of about 6-8 years are married; the girl remains with her family till she reaches puberty and then is sent off to her husband.
So whether it is a social evil or not, really depends on one's perspective.
namaste,karma3.i so in your country many good arranged marriages.So whether it is a social evil or not, really depends on one's perspective.
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hi jpunk,we can arrange cup of tea?
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CuspofMagic: all depends on the arrangements
mmm....what you mean dear?
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jpunk: sis!!!
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hollysaffron: hi jpunk,we can arrange cup of tea?
a cup of tea???
Stick the kettle on then, I'll have a coffee thanks!!!
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how about learning to love him.it happens
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lanabyte: I would much rather be single than marry someone I wasn't totally in love with.
how about learning to love him.it happens.------ This thread is Archived ------
hollysaffron: why not.....
M. Ghandi was married when he was 11 years old I think. I have his autobiography. I'll see if i can find it and maybe quote what the great man himself said about his arranged marriage.
I know an Indian doctor here who went to India to look for a suitable husband for her daughter who was in her 20's and professionally qualified. She had not found anyone here that had taken her fancy so she gave the green light for her mother to find one for her in India. So her mother scouted around and found her a suitable boy, another doctor, from a good family, of-course.
They were given each other's contact details, introduced by email I think, and they communicated this way plus webcams. They liked each other. She went over there, they met in person. Next thing you know, she returned to Oz, and the entire wedding was planned and arranged by their friends over there, including choice of traditional wedding dress and head gear. Bride and groom and their families simply had to turn up to what was a very colorful three day celebration. Gorgeous photos.
The pair are now both in Oz, last time I heard, very happily married.
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I think its ok if the two are happy to trust their families judgement. I think if we all had family and friends who went out of their way to introduce us lot on here to other single people they know and appoved of then there would not be so many of us on here with awful relationship stories.!!!
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I have a book called "Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a catch", by an American modern professional matchmaker. She handpicks all her matches. Makes hilarious reading. (I had thought of starting a matchmaking company. Still might one day. Cuz I would get to interview the pick of the crop!)
But it's the closest thing to traditional matchmaking by families. I will get the author's name. I really is SO funny. She recounts many of her own dating experiences. She is gorgeous but last I heard, she was still single. I think she divides her time between New York and L.A. offices.
But beware. Her fees are not for the fainthearted! 
) But it's the closest thing to traditional matchmaking by families. I will get the author's name. I really is SO funny. She recounts many of her own dating experiences. She is gorgeous but last I heard, she was still single. I think she divides her time between New York and L.A. offices.
But beware. Her fees are not for the fainthearted!
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hollysaffron: namaste,karma3.i so in your country many good arranged marriages.
Namaste Holly! Greetings from India!
Yes, many young Indian professionals based abroad are turning to India for prospective partners. Guess it has a lot to do with cultural and religious issues. Would you like someone from here??
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venere08: I have a book called "Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me acatch",
a 'match'.
I need a break!
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hollysaffron: mmm....what you mean dear?
An arranged marriage is a form of marriage, which is arranged by the parents of the couple being married. These marriages can also be arranged based on recommendations of friends and family. This form of marriage is also convenient for those who have been unable to find a suitable match on their own. Some parents may consider the choice of the children before making or accepting a proposal, while some may impose their choices on their children. The modern arranged marriages are informally arranged. The parents compile all the personal details of their child that includes hobbies, interests, educational and family background and a photograph. This information is supplied to marriage bureaus or is sent in response to matrimonial ads. A meeting is arranged between the couple and in most cases, courting is also permitted. Arranged marriages are quite common in several countries such as India, Afghanistan, Japan, Iraq, and Iran. Instances of arranged marriages are also found frequently in North America that has varied cultures.
The latest trend in arranged marriages is selecting a suitable spouse through the Internet. Individuals submit their profile on various matrimonial websites to find an appropriate match. They may get in touch with that person on the phone or through email to develop a cordial relationship.
Arranged marriage is a convenient form of marriage as it is based on religious, educational, and financial compatibility. Parents are usually happy as the marriage bears their seal of approval. Many parents arrange a marriage as a business strategy to grow and expand their business. Property matters can be a very influential factor in arranged marriages. However, these marriages may fail as the relationship is need based and most people have accepted this option only because they failed in love or were unable to find the love of their life on their own.
Statistics suggest that the divorce rate in arranged marriages is comparatively low. There are several instances of couples that have madly fallen in love with each other after they had an arranged marriage.
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