I need a woman's perspective (22)
I should also add that they will continue to be friends, and possibly continue to visit each other.
SeriouslyFun: I should also add that they will continue to be friends, and possibly continue to visit each other.
HELL NO!!!! Basically what "he" is telling her is that she would not be his first choice for a intimate, long term partner, but because the one he really wants is too far away - he will settle for her. That would give any woman a warm fuzzy feeling: "you are good enough I guess, for second choice"...I would be insulted on many different levels....and how would I deal with it? Keep on walking dude.....JMHO
eyesthatknowwhy: HELL NO!!!! Basically what "he" is telling her is that she would not be his first choice for a intimate, long term partner, but because the one he really wants is too far away - he will settle for her. That would give any woman a warm fuzzy feeling: "you are good enough I guess, for second choice"...
I would be insulted on many different levels....and how would I deal with it? Keep on walking dude.....JMHO
I would be insulted on many different levels....and how would I deal with it? Keep on walking dude.....JMHO
Thanks Eyes, I talked with a friend and she said the same thing.
NO way! He's a fence sitter, and is keeping his options open. Nope, I'm a one woman guy, and I expect the same.
No way, although I'd be surprised if he was honest enough to tell me.
Dating this person is okay as long as you know in your heart that they are looking to find someone else. If you think you may get hooked on this person and miss out on Ms Right then don't waste your time.
Sure, as long as there is an agreement in the beginning. Sounds like a no strings kind of thing...May work for some!
SeriouslyFun: Let's say you meet a guy online, send some emails, talk on the phone and then set a date.
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
No, I wouldn't date him. I am not buying his story about finding someone closer. He will do the same thing to to me(drop me) as soon as he find someone at his doorstep.
I have been thinking about this somewhat and have come to the following conclusion: "If" the scenario is actual and "if" you are the man in question - I believe you answered your own question simply by posting it. If you didn't have any doubt that what you were doing was questionable etc., you would not have asked for opinions...you knew in your gut. Now, that is just assuming that you are the guy 
sure Ide date him But ... if he wanted to stay being her friend visiting then im coming too that isd ofcourse if we get serious , if not & its just casual as long as he doesnt mind me dating other men then go for it !!!
JMO
Kizzy
JMO
Kizzy
ABSOLOUTLY NOT!!!! If thats the kind of relationship you want than keep it close to home ... if you have no intensions of moving than why contact people not close to you... the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Sounds like someone who is afraid to commitment to me. There r soo many people out there legitimatly looking for someone to spend thier life with.. we dont need players messing it up.
eyesthatknowwhy: HELL NO!!!! Basically what "he" is telling her is that she would not be his first choice for a intimate, long term partner, but because the one he really wants is too far away - he will settle for her. That would give any woman a warm fuzzy feeling: "you are good enough I guess, for second choice"...
I would be insulted on many different levels....and how would I deal with it? Keep on walking dude.....JMHO
I would be insulted on many different levels....and how would I deal with it? Keep on walking dude.....JMHO
I couldn't agree with you more. I don't want to be anyone's second choice.
As you said "keep on walking dude".
NO,
I could be platonic friends but no way romaniticly invloved with him
I could be platonic friends but no way romaniticly invloved with him
SeriouslyFun: Let's say you meet a guy online, send some emails, talk on the phone and then set a date.
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
Sounds weird..... something strange about him and the long distance relationshipI wouldn't be interested in dating him. I'm not going to share and I won't be a second choice.
JMO
JMO
SeriouslyFun: Let's say you meet a guy online, send some emails, talk on the phone and then set a date.
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
Womans perspective? How about a guy's perspective? 'User' rhymes with 'loser'. Guys like him give the rest of us a bad name.
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SeriouslyFun: Let's say you meet a guy online, send some emails, talk on the phone and then set a date.
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?
my answer???
nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnext !!!!!!!!!!
no frikken way...... not even a chance! it's either all or nothing...
cheers
Curvy
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Near the end of the conversation, the guy tells you that he has flown 3/4's of the way across the country to spend time with someone he is quite taken with, but would never move there.
Further, he tells you that the woman and he have an understanding that they both can date and it will end between them once one of them finds a partner that is closer by.
The question is.... would you date this guy?