Choose, HE/SHE Or Kids (22)
sassy49senior: If you are sure you found your lifetime love and you decide to move
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
I don't believe adult children should assume they can make your decisions for you.in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
You have raised them, given them a lot of you, your life.
Are you not entitled now too live yours?
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Yes I would do it anyways. I would sit down and talk to them and see why they are feeling this way. But in the end its your happyness and they should want you to be happy. If you have only known this person a short time then that might be they're concern, and thats understandable. But like I said, talking about it and open communication is important. But when it comes down to it, its your decision to make and they should respect that and still be there for you.
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sassy49senior: If you are sure you found your lifetime love and you decide to move
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
Yes I would move in with that person anyway.
Why should someone be expected to choose ? I feel it would be very selfish of anyones family to ask someone to choose.
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sassy49senior: If you are sure you found your lifetime love and you decide to move
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
It's your life and you should choose wats best for you! if the said children have grown as you say, then they should be happy for you and hopefully support your decision, and stop being so selfish, you have to have a life too?
I normally listen and look at my dogs behavior, if he does not like someone then HE'S OUT THE DOOR! not my dog, the guy
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I would have to take into consideration why they didn't want me to be with him. But for me to do something that would upset my children.....no way! They have been through enough already and I want the love of my life and my family in my life!
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sassy49senior: If you are sure you found your lifetime love and you decide to move
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
You have no idea what this question means to me!! I can still hear my Step mother telling my Dad, "Get rid of those kids or I'm leaving" A short time later, I was placed in an EXTREMELY abusive foster home!!
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sassy49senior: If you are sure you found your lifetime love and you decide to move
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
Welcome back...love the new screen name, Spirited Lady. Aho.
If my kids were adults, then I would seek to find the cause for their concern, and we would talk about it, but if I still felt this way I would still do it. It's my life...and I'm raising them to live theirs. At this point, their opinion would have more weight because it would have more impact on them...but as adults, it would be my life and my choice.
However, I don't know if I'd be moving in that soon with someone I didn't know all that well. I've learned to be a bit more cautious. But, I've also learned that you can know someone for longer and still not know them all that well at all...and I'm a bit of a gambler if I feel something is right.
So, darlin'...you gotta do what you gotta do...and do what's right for you.
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druidess6308: Welcome back...love the new screen name, Spirited Lady. Aho.
If my kids were adults, then I would seek to find the cause for their concern, and we would talk about it, but if I still felt this way I would still do it. It's my life...and I'm raising them to live theirs. At this point, their opinion would have more weight because it would have more impact on them...but as adults, it would be my life and my choice.
However, I don't know if I'd be moving in that soon with someone I didn't know all that well. I've learned to be a bit more cautious. But, I've also learned that you can know someone for longer and still not know them all that well at all...and I'm a bit of a gambler if I feel something is right.
So, darlin'...you gotta do what you gotta do...and do what's right for you.
If my kids were adults, then I would seek to find the cause for their concern, and we would talk about it, but if I still felt this way I would still do it. It's my life...and I'm raising them to live theirs. At this point, their opinion would have more weight because it would have more impact on them...but as adults, it would be my life and my choice.
However, I don't know if I'd be moving in that soon with someone I didn't know all that well. I've learned to be a bit more cautious. But, I've also learned that you can know someone for longer and still not know them all that well at all...and I'm a bit of a gambler if I feel something is right.
So, darlin'...you gotta do what you gotta do...and do what's right for you.
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shipoker58: You have no idea what this question means to me!! I can still hear my Step mother telling my Dad, "Get rid of those kids or I'm leaving" A short time later, I was placed in an EXTREMELY abusive foster home!!
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phaedellis: It's your life and you should choose wats best for you! if the said children have grown as you say, then they should be happy for you and hopefully support your decision, and stop being so selfish, you have to have a life too?
I normally listen and look at my dogs behavior, if he does not like someone then HE'S OUT THE DOOR! not my dog, the guy and so far he has not been wrong?
I normally listen and look at my dogs behavior, if he does not like someone then HE'S OUT THE DOOR! not my dog, the guy and so far he has not been wrong?
Dogs and children...I go by their opinions a bit too.
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shipoker58: You have no idea what this question means to me!! I can still hear my Step mother telling my Dad, "Get rid of those kids or I'm leaving" A short time later, I was placed in an EXTREMELY abusive foster home!!
Starlin, dear....she said adult kids.
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shipoker58: You have no idea what this question means to me!! I can still hear my Step mother telling my Dad, "Get rid of those kids or I'm leaving" A short time later, I was placed in an EXTREMELY abusive foster home!!
Hi Ship, so sorry to hear that! i'm Phae nice to meet you 
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I am not with someone at this time, nor does it look too
promising right now, but this did happen to me with the
man I recently left. Although they finally decided the only
way to see Mom was to see Nick also, they were never fond
of him. But I had to make that decision as they have had to
make many in their lives also.
promising right now, but this did happen to me with the
man I recently left. Although they finally decided the only
way to see Mom was to see Nick also, they were never fond
of him. But I had to make that decision as they have had to
make many in their lives also.
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druidess6308: Starlin, dear....she said adult kids.
It still echoes in ones mind!! Adult kids or not!! being pushed to the side for another. having to be on the losing end of someones affection is no different, due to age!!
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phaedellis: Hi Ship, so sorry to hear that! i'm Phae nice to meet you
Hello Phae!! Nice to meet you!!
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shipoker58: It still echoes in ones mind!! Adult kids or not!! being pushed to the side for another. having to be on the losing end of someones affection is no different, due to age!!
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sxc666: Very true.
So very true
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sassy49senior: If you are sure you found your lifetime love and you decide to move
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.
What age is adult? My father moved in with his now wife when I was 21. He was seeing her while my parents were still married. I hated him for it and didn't speak to her. I was rigid back then and there was nothing she could have done to change my mind about her. I was always polite but I didn't like her or talk to her unless I had to. Now after so many years I think she's a wonderful person (him, not so much) and she has been only kind. I understand things now that I didn't back then. The world is not black and white anymore. If he was going to base his decision on my opinion back then he would have missed out.
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shipoker58: It still echoes in ones mind!! Adult kids or not!! being pushed to the side for another. having to be on the losing end of someones affection is no different, due to age!!
Ship I do agree, and that is how my kids felt but even more so
my grand-kids felt that I deserted them for a man. We have
all re-united as a family since I have gotten my sanity back.
I care for you deeply as a friend and I am sorry to hear what
you have gone through. But also knowing you were able to
voice your hurt makes me want to reach out and hug you, but
this is the best I can do.
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in with said person in a very short time of knowing them. But
your adult kids are very much against it. Would you do it anyway,
even though you know you may loose your kids and grand-kids.