Long distance - chalenge or not? (48)
Hola Kamelia.....
I met my husband thrue the web, he is from sweden, i am from mexico, we were talking about one year and now we are together....we are so happy, and hope this will be for ever.....
I met my husband thrue the web, he is from sweden, i am from mexico, we were talking about one year and now we are together....we are so happy, and hope this will be for ever.....
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Long distance relationships will always be a challenge; more of a challenge than those where you are near. They can only go so far when you haven't actually met. What do you want from the relationship? If it's to find a soul mate, then you have to be prepared to work harder at it....and travel! There are no short cuts.
Best of luck.
Best of luck.
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Hello mexikanska I am so glad to hear everything is working out for the two of you 
I wish you two all the happiness in the world..
A lot of questions surface when you are in a LD relationship, and it's very difficult to deal with them when you haven't even met in person..Traveling is a must, changing of location for one of the partners, changing of careers, etc..
It's a challenge to deal with such a serious issues when you haven't even met yet
I am so glad to hear everything is working out for the two of you I wish you two all the happiness in the world..A lot of questions surface when you are in a LD relationship, and it's very difficult to deal with them when you haven't even met in person..Traveling is a must, changing of location for one of the partners, changing of careers, etc..
It's a challenge to deal with such a serious issues when you haven't even met yet
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[A lot of questions surface when you are in a LD relationship, and it's very difficult to deal with them when you haven't even met in person..Traveling is a must, changing of location for one of the partners, changing of careers, etc..
It's a challenge to deal with such a serious issues when you haven't even met yet ]
it is very easy to fall for someone when they say all the right things to you in your communications....you allow yourself to imagine their facial expressions and body language.
this is JMO...
It's a challenge to deal with such a serious issues when you haven't even met yet ]
it is very easy to fall for someone when they say all the right things to you in your communications....you allow yourself to imagine their facial expressions and body language.
this is JMO...
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I once dated a girl about 100 miles away from me. I didnt drive but I took a bus to see her every other weekend.She came to see me in between.What broke us apart was my lack of desire to talk on the phone.She was a great girl and it was ashame.We did maintain a healthy 3-4 month relationship that way though
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welcome back Kamelia
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heartbreaker99: I once dated a girl about 100 miles away from me. I didnt drive but I took a bus to see her every other weekend.She came to see me in between.What broke us apart was my lack of desire to talk on the phone.She was a great girl and it was ashame.We did maintain a healthy 3-4 month relationship that way though
Oh I wish it was only 100 miles that I have to deal with and living in the same country
10000 miles and a different country is another story, even the telephone calls don't seem to work after a while
you get tired of talking and want something more tangible at least once a week like you had it 
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cristina: welcome back Kamelia
TY Cristina
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kamelia: Oh I wish it was only 100 miles that I have to deal with and living in the same country
10000 miles and a different country is another story, even the telephone calls don't seem to work after a while you get tired of talking and want something more tangible at least once a week like you had it
10000 miles and a different country is another story, even the telephone calls don't seem to work after a while you get tired of talking and want something more tangible at least once a week like you had it
Remember...Good things come to those who wait...I do hope that everything works out for you.
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kamelia:
So my question is: How big of a challenge is a long distance relationship, especially if you haven't met in person yet?
So my question is: How big of a challenge is a long distance relationship, especially if you haven't met in person yet?
You will find out...
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I would hope that long distance relationships will work, but I fear they are almost impossible to have them work. You find someone on these dating sites and you open your mind and heart. You communicate for days, weeks and months and then meet. Face-to-face life is totally different than the internet world. Relationships require "maintenance" and comittments. We require so much more than what is available from a person that is afar. I want it to work. I need for them to work. I fear most, not all, will not work.
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my final answer is ....
Its not for everyone, some can try and try again only to met failure evrytime...
in a way that is what makes love and relationships
so great ...
NO TWO ARE EVER ALIKE, SIMILAR YES,
BUT A LIKE NEVER
Best of luck in working this dilemma out
Its not for everyone, some can try and try again only to met failure evrytime...
in a way that is what makes love and relationships
so great ...
NO TWO ARE EVER ALIKE, SIMILAR YES,
BUT A LIKE NEVER
Best of luck in working this dilemma out
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Big_John: I would hope that long distance relationships will work, but I fear they are almost impossible to have them work. You find someone on these dating sites and you open your mind and heart. You communicate for days, weeks and months and then meet. Face-to-face life is totally different than the internet world. Relationships require "maintenance" and comittments. We require so much more than what is available from a person that is afar. I want it to work. I need for them to work. I fear most, not all, will not work.
That is true.Face to face and spending time with someone says alot about compatability as opposed to the computer.You can "meet" people here but figuring out if they are right for you requires time with that person.------ This thread is Archived ------
Big_John: I would hope that long distance relationships will work, but I fear they are almost impossible to have them work. You find someone on these dating sites and you open your mind and heart. You communicate for days, weeks and months and then meet. Face-to-face life is totally different than the internet world. Relationships require "maintenance" and comittments. We require so much more than what is available from a person that is afar. I want it to work. I need for them to work. I fear most, not all, will not work.
Well it doesn't sound very optimistic
but it's good to read a comment like this cause I thought that I was the only one who gets frustrated with LD and who is not patient enough for it 
Though seriously, we as humans do need more and I guess it depends not only on how badly you want it to work but on the level of tolerance too
And here I thought I was a very patient person
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the way of doing things is a challenge in life in the worlrd of dating in the webside of connecting singles
many singles men and women can express their views ,email,and other ideas.
thanks to those who have computers at their home or attend cyper-cafe centre,
long distance is a challenge according to me in connecting sinles
list of things needed for this to happen
valid passport/eec/american/etc
language
job
same faith
pastimes/hobbies/occupation
food/wine/travelling
own a home/like to have kids in future
vacation leave
others activities that i have not mention
many singles men and women can express their views ,email,and other ideas.
thanks to those who have computers at their home or attend cyper-cafe centre,
long distance is a challenge according to me in connecting sinles
list of things needed for this to happen
valid passport/eec/american/etc
language
job
same faith
pastimes/hobbies/occupation
food/wine/travelling
own a home/like to have kids in future
vacation leave
others activities that i have not mention
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Yes yes yes..
Its a challenge..
The distance...being apart...able to trust..beleive..patience..etc..
i have been through it all...
I Will tell you all here...if you really are SERIOUS in working hard
to be together for life..Then go for it...
But dont play with peoples heart..
The absence of not seeing one another is hard..
Eric(husband)..we broke up once before we met becos of interference
on here...
but tks to my husband he never gave up...
You need to have 100% trust and faith and communication and
understanding for it to work...
We have been through alot of obsticales...and still from this day...
Love will conquer all...
Be honest...have respect...treat them the way you want to be treated..
Dont every give up if this is what you want..
Working hard for something you want..in the long run will be well worth it..
Something you can have easily usually dont work out or you get bored with it...
I love my Husband with everything that i am and everything that i have
Its a challenge..
The distance...being apart...able to trust..beleive..patience..etc..
i have been through it all...
I Will tell you all here...if you really are SERIOUS in working hard
to be together for life..Then go for it...
But dont play with peoples heart..
The absence of not seeing one another is hard..
Eric(husband)..we broke up once before we met becos of interference
on here...
but tks to my husband he never gave up...
You need to have 100% trust and faith and communication and
understanding for it to work...
We have been through alot of obsticales...and still from this day...
Love will conquer all...
Be honest...have respect...treat them the way you want to be treated..
Dont every give up if this is what you want..
Working hard for something you want..in the long run will be well worth it..
Something you can have easily usually dont work out or you get bored with it...
I love my Husband with everything that i am and everything that i have
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kamelia: Well it doesn't sound very optimistic but it's good to read a comment like this cause I thought that I was the only one who gets frustrated with LD and who is not patient enough for it
Though seriously, we as humans do need more and I guess it depends not only on how badly you want it to work but on the level of tolerance too
And here I thought I was a very patient person
Though seriously, we as humans do need more and I guess it depends not only on how badly you want it to work but on the level of tolerance too
And here I thought I was a very patient person
Hi there Kamelia
LDR can be a bit of a pain in the bum
I, too, got impatinet and still do, with me and "him indoors", time and other committments have a tendancy to get in the way. It can be so frustrating as you are neither committed to each other until you make that move to meet, yet you are not available for others to approach you in a romantic sense, for you want to see where this LDR will take you.Instead of focusing on what you dont have at the moment, focus on the here and now, take your time with that wonderful Lad you are chatting to..its all I can advise...simply take your time
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The biggest thing you have to remember, if it works out that is, that eventually one or both have to relocate in order to be together. That may not be as easy as one might think, until faced with the reality of it.
You have to ask yourself honestly if you could actually move and start a new life somewhere else.
Say hello to B for me.
You have to ask yourself honestly if you could actually move and start a new life somewhere else.
Say hello to B for me.
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kidatheart: The biggest thing you have to remember, if it works out that is, that eventually one or both have to relocate in order to be together. That may not be as easy as one might think, until faced with the reality of it.
You have to ask yourself honestly if you could actually move and start a new life somewhere else.
Say hello to B for me.
You have to ask yourself honestly if you could actually move and start a new life somewhere else.
Say hello to B for me.
I agree..relocation is a must..
For me, independence and security are very important and leaving my country would mean giving up on part of that..Leaving the family and friends, my household, the new job that I just got out of nowhere
You should be able to trust the person with your life when you move to a country that is not your own..JMO
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So my question is: How big of a challenge is a long distance relationship, especially if you haven't met in person yet?
I am just wondering cause I've been taking it very badly and it's driving me crazy
And I must admit sometimes circumstances that are out of our control make it so much more difficult
It's been a tough road for me and I've been wondering if it is me only or do you feel the same way