Today's thought: ( Archived) (9)

Communicating ...armed to deal with whatever comes

One couple never told each other anything negative if they could avoid it. They always protected each other from bad news. Their neighbors, however, were not that careful about what they said. They had a positive attitude but they believed that reality was not to be shaped or measured in their words, so they just laid it on the line with each other.

The first couple seemed more sedate and calm while their neighbors seemed more in turmoil. But over time the first couple's protective attitude worked like a wedge that drove quiet distance between them as more and more unresolved issues were ignored or sugar-coated. The second couple always clearly knew what was going on. They did not have to wonder what the truth was behind each other's words, and they dealt with issues as they arose. Time brought them more deeply into the lively embrace of their trusting relationship.

Bad news is part of life, just as good news is. When we engage life we do not shy away from problems; we do our loved ones the favor of speaking the truth. Then our relationships are armed to deal with whatever comes.

I think if you just blurt out whatever is in your mind/heart you can cause irreparable damage to a person..

I feel some things are just better left unsaid to a mate/friend/lover..

Why break a heart with a stupid comment?

...This is my opinion and I stand by it.

If you "speak your mind" You yourself may only regret it..


However, I think what your driving at here is to be open and honest!

good post

Hi HJ....

Agreed; however, would add that the delivery sets the tone as to how the message will be received.

Thank God and Greyhound she is gone..

I remember one time I was in Chicago attending a negotiation meeting for the National Master Freight contract. I was gone 3 days, flew home. When I pulled into the drive and hit the garage door opener,her car was gone. I went inside and the house was pretty much empty except for my personal belongings.

That lady had a strong delivery message..

Very wise, and very true. If you don't share completely, there will be a wedge between you. Open communication is one of the three necessary cornerstones to a lasting relationship, and it partners with the other two of trust and respect. Without these, a relationship will not last.

HJ...I want to thank you for being on CS...with your thought for today...it save me precious energy!! It's nice having someone do the thinking for you. God bless you and may you always be a thinking man!






So I can be lazy!!

You can't deal with and resolve what you never discuss...problems are a part of life and no relationship is without them...that's reality....to leave them and pretend they aren't there in the name of keeping the peace...only allows them to fester and get outta control...the couple who deals head on and honestly with the problems that arise in their relationship will always be further ahead than those who live in a fantasy land where their problems don't exist....being willfully blind...doesn't make them go away....and someday they will fester to the point of no return.....

Well said, g/f.