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Dec 14, 2008 1:05 AM CST Could you, would you...?
Steveno
StevenoStevenoQassim, Al-Qassim Saudi Arabia140 Threads 485 Posts
If you had the chance to hear all the nasty things people have said about you behind your back, would you like to know?




It would hurt too much. I just don't see the point. Ignorance is bliss, or at least less painful than hearing nasty things.

Others say, "Yes, I do want to hear all the nasty things. I'd find out who my real friends are".

You know, if that was the only way I could find out who my real friends were, I'd take a long, hard look at the quality of my relationships and the caliber of the people I spent time with. Think about it. What you hear in gossip is a poor way to measure friendship.

I already know who my real friends are. I'm not worried about them spouting crap about me. In general, the people to whom I'm closest are not the kind of people who typically have a whole lot of interest in bad-mouthing others, not really.

But damn! We're not perfect. Nobody is. You can't help talking trash about, well, trashy behavior. For example, if I saw people screaming at each other in the Staples parking lot, oblivious to everyone and everything around them, yeah, I'd talk about them, LOL. The truth is, bizarre or anomalous behavior, whether online or off, is something people - me included - will always discuss...for five minutes, maybe. The negative appeal fades pretty fast.

My few real friends and I, for the most part, talk about ideas, events, and things. What's going on in our lives with school and work? Our families. Our hopes and dreams. Art, books, movies, music, psychology, writing, philosophy, history - and humor. Thank God for humor.

So...why subject myself to hearing all the nasty things other people, who aren't my friends, say? I don't especially care. It's not like they're part of my life, anyway.
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Dec 14, 2008 1:08 AM CST Could you, would you...?
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
No....I really don't care!! If they say it behind your back and not to your face....it isn't worth hearingthumbs down
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Dec 14, 2008 1:09 AM CST Could you, would you...?
venere08
venere08venere08Puglia and Autumn, South Australia Australia121 Threads 2 Polls 9,996 Posts
Couldn't care less, Steveno,

As I see it, if there are people who behave that way, then THEY are the ones with the problem.

Why would I want to make it mine? dunno
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Dec 14, 2008 1:11 AM CST Could you, would you...?
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada59 Threads 2 Polls 25,438 Posts
Naaaaaaaaaa....they can talk all they want behind my back....I don't really care to know...it doesn't change who I am...nor will my life change because of it...let em talk....cowards have to do it behind others backs...it takes courage to say it to ones face.....and I don't really care to know a cowards opinion about me...one way or the other....roll eyes dunno uh oh thumbs up
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Dec 14, 2008 1:16 AM CST Could you, would you...?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
No, I wouldn't. I go to a private club where I had someone mention to me that I have knives in my back. I told him not to even tell me who, or what's being said. I just looked at him and said, "Do you really think that I don't know that? But I love these people anyway, so don't tell me the details."

So I really already know that I wouldn't want to know it.
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Dec 14, 2008 1:17 AM CST Could you, would you...?
cardsfan24
cardsfan24cardsfan24somewhere in paradise, Illinois USA40 Threads 1 Polls 5,169 Posts
I would say no, but then again...it would be ok, to find out what friends are the one's that ain't really friends...
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Dec 14, 2008 1:22 AM CST Could you, would you...?
Steveno
StevenoStevenoQassim, Al-Qassim Saudi Arabia140 Threads 485 Posts
druidess6308: No, I wouldn't. I go to a private club where I had someone mention to me that I have knives in my back. I told him not to even tell me who, or what's being said. I just looked at him and said, "Do you really think that I don't know that? But I love these people anyway, so don't tell me the details."

So I really already know that I wouldn't want to know it.


thanks. I know exactly what you mean..

wave
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Dec 14, 2008 1:25 AM CST Could you, would you...?
Steveno
StevenoStevenoQassim, Al-Qassim Saudi Arabia140 Threads 485 Posts
Hugz_n_Kissez: Naaaaaaaaaa....they can talk all they want behind my back....I don't really care to know...it doesn't change who I am...nor will my life change because of it...let em talk....cowards have to do it behind others backs...it takes courage to say it to ones face.....and I don't really care to know a cowards opinion about me...one way or the other....


Nicely said, thumbs up wave
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Dec 14, 2008 1:40 AM CST Could you, would you...?
Steveno
StevenoStevenoQassim, Al-Qassim Saudi Arabia140 Threads 485 Posts
pretzelman: No....I really don't care!! If they say it behind your back and not to your face....it isn't worth hearing


Hello Ship, well said, and nice new photo of your self showing off the sprit of Christmas…

wave
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Dec 14, 2008 2:05 AM CST Could you, would you...?
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
venere08: Couldn't care less, Steveno,

As I see it, if there are people who behave that way, then THEY are the ones with the problem.

Why would I want to make it mine?


wine thumbs up
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Dec 14, 2008 2:18 AM CST Could you, would you...?
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
Steveno: Hello Ship, well said, and nice new photo of your self showing off the sprit of Christmas…



Thankswave
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Dec 14, 2008 2:21 AM CST Could you, would you...?
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
I don't give a crap what anyone says behind my back that's ok they can have their opinions, but they just need to remember I have my own about them tooprofessor wink
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Dec 14, 2008 6:06 AM CST Could you, would you...?
gypsykisses
gypsykissesgypsykissesPort Huron, Michigan USA7 Threads 1 Polls 2,405 Posts
Steveno: If you had the chance to hear all the nasty things people have said about you behind your back, would you like to know?

It would hurt too much. I just don't see the point. Ignorance is bliss, or at least less painful than hearing nasty things.

Others say, "Yes, I do want to hear all the nasty things. I'd find out who my real friends are".

You know, if that was the only way I could find out who my real friends were, I'd take a long, hard look at the quality of my relationships and the caliber of the people I spent time with. Think about it. What you hear in gossip is a poor way to measure friendship.

I already know who my real friends are. I'm not worried about them spouting crap about me. In general, the people to whom I'm closest are not the kind of people who typically have a whole lot of interest in bad-mouthing others, not really.

But damn! We're not perfect. Nobody is. You can't help talking trash about, well, trashy behavior. For example, if I saw people screaming at each other in the Staples parking lot, oblivious to everyone and everything around them, yeah, I'd talk about them, LOL. The truth is, bizarre or anomalous behavior, whether online or off, is something people - me included - will always discuss...for five minutes, maybe. The negative appeal fades pretty fast.

My few real friends and I, for the most part, talk about ideas, events, and things. What's going on in our lives with school and work? Our families. Our hopes and dreams. Art, books, movies, music, psychology, writing, philosophy, history - and humor. Thank God for humor.

So...why subject myself to hearing all the nasty things other people, who aren't my friends, say? I don't especially care. It's not like they're part of my life, anyway.





drinking No, it's useless information to me, and I can pretty much figure out whose trying to be my friend

for their gain. A believer in karma, I'm not really worried about the nasties....teddybear
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Dec 14, 2008 6:12 AM CST Could you, would you...?
AEG13Nov08
AEG13Nov08AEG13Nov08Spokane, Washington USA5 Posts
If people talk behind my back, that's their problem. Obviously, it's not important enough to be said in front of me. Or it could just be a bunch of bull crap that their life isn't exciting, so they have to make crap up.
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Dec 14, 2008 6:14 AM CST Could you, would you...?
The_Kansan
The_KansanThe_KansanKnoxville, Tennessee USA303 Threads 1 Polls 3,395 Posts
pretzelman: No....I really don't care!! If they say it behind your back and not to your face....it isn't worth hearing


Bingo! Give the man a Killian's! beer

I've always maintained that I don't really care what they say behind my back, so long as they don't make the mistake of saying it in front of my front! ...Unless it's true. But then, if it's true then there's no reason to say it behind my back...

cowboy
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Dec 14, 2008 6:18 AM CST Could you, would you...?
rizlaredonline today!
rizlaredonline today!rizlaredNot in Cebu City, Central Visayas Philippines89 Threads 2 Polls 5,588 Posts
mylifewithu: I don't give a crap what anyone says behind my back that's ok they can have their opinions, but they just need to remember I have my own about them too


Oh good answer


If they think so little of you they are not worth thinking about, better to spend the time thinking about those that do have kind thoughts
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Dec 14, 2008 7:55 AM CST Could you, would you...?
I could really care less what others say about me behind my back.

Nor do I wish to hear it.
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Dec 14, 2008 8:01 AM CST Could you, would you...?
teacherman
teachermanteachermanMilwaukee, Wisconsin USA5 Threads 260 Posts
True friends are the ones that love you enough to tell you cold hard facts to your face. if they say it behind your back they're probably not really your friend and don't have enough balls to really be my friend anyway
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Dec 14, 2008 8:37 AM CST Could you, would you...?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
Someone with my low self esteem, I pretty much know what they are saying...laugh uh oh dancing
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Dec 14, 2008 8:54 AM CST Could you, would you...?
The_Kansan
The_KansanThe_KansanKnoxville, Tennessee USA303 Threads 1 Polls 3,395 Posts
mbcasey: Someone with my low self esteem, I pretty much know what they are saying...


Yeah, we're saying "Poor Ken! Such a great guy, but with his low self-esteem he probably thinks we're plotting against him instead of FOR him."

'Morning Ken! wave handshake hug
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