PERIL... enter at your own risk! (77)
WOW! Maybe I need to come hang out and get some pointers from ya sis!
Seriously though, sounds like you just haven't run into the one that wants to be faithfully committed to a relationship.
Merky
Seriously though, sounds like you just haven't run into the one that wants to be faithfully committed to a relationship.
Merky
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NO, it ain't you.. It is "US".. My "OPINION", many of us guys have also had some bad experiences and we hesitate to try it again. A woman "friend" (to me) is better than any relationship I have ever had. We, like women, like what we like, don't like what we don't like. There is only one woman I am friends with today (real friends, real love) that I have ever been "involved" with. I am grateful for that friendship.
Many guys, just like women, are insecure in themselves. They do not want "their" woman to have any other male friends. I am a lucky man, I have a few female friends. That is what we are, friends, plain & simple. I am not willing to give up my friends for a relationship, but that is me. Been there done that, was lucky to get the friends back. I WON"T do that again.
At times young lady, you are a nut. Always remember, us guys do like a woman that is as nutty as we are.
For me, it was a hard lesson, but I have learned to be thankful for what I do have.. Only my "OPINION" guys..
Many guys, just like women, are insecure in themselves. They do not want "their" woman to have any other male friends. I am a lucky man, I have a few female friends. That is what we are, friends, plain & simple. I am not willing to give up my friends for a relationship, but that is me. Been there done that, was lucky to get the friends back. I WON"T do that again.
At times young lady, you are a nut. Always remember, us guys do like a woman that is as nutty as we are.
For me, it was a hard lesson, but I have learned to be thankful for what I do have.. Only my "OPINION" guys..
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vonney:
Have we perhaps become 'one of the boys' ??
Have we perhaps become 'one of the boys' ??
Is there something wrong with being "one of the boys"??
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HJFinAZ: Is there something wrong with being "one of the boys"??
Not in the case of making friends but guys dont want to date their friends lol
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hopefloats: WOW! Maybe I need to come hang out and get some pointers from ya sis! Seriously though, sounds like you just haven't run into the one that wants to be faithfully committed to a relationship.
Merky
Merky
Friends are friends... and no way am I going to pursue anything other then friendship with them. I even vet their potential dates for them...
They are all dating and looking for the right one to hook up with....and I´m not even talking about a serious committed relationship...just getting asked out on a date!!!!
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vonney: Hiya hun
I honestly wish I could find an answer for you. Am in the same boat, cant actually rememeber the last time a guy asked me out in RL. And yes have male friends and a good social life and even a few f**k buddies if that was what I wanted.
So am left wondering the same thing you are.
Has been suggested to me that I come across to strong and independent yet that is me and dont want to change. And my male friends say that is what they like about me
Have we perhaps become 'one of the boys' ??
I honestly wish I could find an answer for you. Am in the same boat, cant actually rememeber the last time a guy asked me out in RL. And yes have male friends and a good social life and even a few f**k buddies if that was what I wanted.
So am left wondering the same thing you are.
Has been suggested to me that I come across to strong and independent yet that is me and dont want to change. And my male friends say that is what they like about me
Have we perhaps become 'one of the boys' ??
Yes, I´m often treated as one of the boys... I even get invited to the poker games...
Is that off putting to other men, that they wouldn´t ask you out?
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jbibiza: Yes, I´m often treated as one of the boys... I even get invited to the poker games...
Is that off putting to other men, that they wouldn´t ask you out?
Is that off putting to other men, that they wouldn´t ask you out?
Well I suppose if you are out with a group of guys people are going to assume you are with one of them, just a thought
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jbibiza: PERIL...I am asking honestly... please do not be afraid to respond honestly, I will not be insulted and hate you. I need to know what I´m doing wrong!!!!
NOTHING, AND I MEAN ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU JB!!!!!
You are lovely, beautiful, intelligent, witty, successful, attractive. The only thing i can say about you which might be a bit negative is, the fact that you are single?? Now that is the big mystery.
Even your FEW extra pounds I believe is a plus for MANY men....
From my personal archives, i believe a lot of men are very shy. Especially facing a strong independent woman like you.
And that keeps them on a level, where they do not dare telling you what they really want. Better be cautious than get burned.
I am sure that there are a lot of men , men who really could have your interest, reading this thread.
But do not know/dare to approach...
All I can say guys::professor:
"You may miss the chance of your life not contacting Jbibiza!!!
She will be taken, why not from YOU?!? You have NO chance if all you do is only reading this.... Write her a mail, send her a flower or an E-card - Be you... - Stop whining: "But what if she does`nt like me" - how can you know if you don`t even try????????"
And the mean one: "What are you exactly waiting for???"
2009 to be as lonely as 2008???????
Go for it she won`t wait forever
Do never doubt yourself JB
Your Kitty
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Evanese: With absolute respect
You have in your life all that you have 'wished' for.
If, now, you would wish for only -- joy and happiness --
ask for that. It would be all encompassing.
Ask and you will receive.
You have in your life all that you have 'wished' for.
If, now, you would wish for only -- joy and happiness --
ask for that. It would be all encompassing.
Ask and you will receive.
I have that..
Now, when it comes to "ask & you will receive", I have learned that one needs to be very specific in what they ask for..
You may just get it.
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u2Kitty: NOTHING, AND I MEAN ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU JB!!!!!
You are lovely, beautiful, intelligent, witty, successful, attractive. The only thing i can say about you which might be a bit negative is, the fact that you are single?? Now that is the big mystery.
Even your FEW extra pounds I believe is a plus for MANY men....
From my personal archives, i believe a lot of men are very shy. Especially facing a strong independent woman like you.
And that keeps them on a level, where they do not dare telling you what they really want. Better be cautious than get burned.
I am sure that there are a lot of men , men who really could have your interest, reading this thread.
But do not know/dare to approach...
All I can say guysprofessor:
"You may miss the chance of your life not contacting Jbibiza!!!
She will be taken, why not from YOU?!? You have NO chance if all you do is only reading this.... Write her a mail, send her a flower or an E-card - Be you... - Stop whining: "But what if she does`nt like me" - how can you know if you don`t even try????????"
And the mean one: "What are you exactly waiting for???"
2009 to be as lonely as 2008???????
Go for it she won`t wait forever
Do never doubt yourself JB
Your Kitty
You are lovely, beautiful, intelligent, witty, successful, attractive. The only thing i can say about you which might be a bit negative is, the fact that you are single?? Now that is the big mystery.
Even your FEW extra pounds I believe is a plus for MANY men....
From my personal archives, i believe a lot of men are very shy. Especially facing a strong independent woman like you.
And that keeps them on a level, where they do not dare telling you what they really want. Better be cautious than get burned.
I am sure that there are a lot of men , men who really could have your interest, reading this thread.
But do not know/dare to approach...
All I can say guysprofessor:
"You may miss the chance of your life not contacting Jbibiza!!!
She will be taken, why not from YOU?!? You have NO chance if all you do is only reading this.... Write her a mail, send her a flower or an E-card - Be you... - Stop whining: "But what if she does`nt like me" - how can you know if you don`t even try????????"
And the mean one: "What are you exactly waiting for???"
2009 to be as lonely as 2008???????
Go for it she won`t wait forever
Do never doubt yourself JB
Your Kitty
Can I hire you as my own personal PR person?
Really this isn´t a thread looking for compliments... if it´s not age and it´s not weight... then I´m obviously putting out the wrong signals... I need to know what those are so I can make adjustments as to how I present myself.
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HJFinAZ: I have that.. Now, when it comes to "ask & you will receive", I have learned that one needs to be very specific in what they ask for.. You may just get it.
Joy and Happiness is of the Spirit
and should bring good results.
jmo
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Evanese: With absolute respect
You have in your life all that you have 'wished' for.
If, now, you would wish for only -- joy and happiness --
ask for that. It would be all encompassing.
Ask and you will receive.
You have in your life all that you have 'wished' for.
If, now, you would wish for only -- joy and happiness --
ask for that. It would be all encompassing.
Ask and you will receive.
I have so much joy and happiness in my life... I can honestly say that I love my life, it just would be nice to have the opportunity to share that life with someone.
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HJFinAZ: "My experience", they are only excluded if THEY WANT to be excluded. I cannot force one to be a friend with another..
Not always... my best friend back in CA, never wanted the women he was dating to meet me, but always wanted our relationship to be separate from his romantic interests.
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I believe all of us have friends, male and female, who are part of the "group"; however, no one dates or attempts to engage a serious relationship with them. I feel from just your short write-up about yourself that you are putting out the messsage to all men that you are just a friend. You need to allow yourself to give your heart to one man. When you see "this fellow" let him know you want him and not as a friend. Your heart may get broken. You make not like the feeling. It will probably be uncomfortable, but no one finds love without risking everything even in front of their friends. Quit trying to be a friend to everyone. Trust yourself enough to be hurt and go for it.
JMO... and it could be wrong and way off base.
JMO... and it could be wrong and way off base.
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jbibiza: . then I´m obviously putting out the wrong signals... I need to know what those are so I can make adjustments as to how I present myself.
Try to accept this, IT AIN'T YOU!!!
In all honesty, I really do believe that people are placed in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. We do have something to learn from these people.
When the time is right, the person for me will be placed in my life. I just have to be "willing" to keep my eyes, ears, mind, and heart open enough to realize it..
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jbibiza: Not always... my best friend back in CA, never wanted the women he was dating to meet me, but always wanted our relationship to be separate from his romantic interests.
Is he still with that woman?
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jbibiza: Can I hire you as my own personal PR person?
Really this isn´t a thread looking for compliments... if it´s not age and it´s not weight... then I´m obviously putting out the wrong signals... I need to know what those are so I can make adjustments as to how I present myself.
Really this isn´t a thread looking for compliments... if it´s not age and it´s not weight... then I´m obviously putting out the wrong signals... I need to know what those are so I can make adjustments as to how I present myself.
I`ll take the job
(We can discuss the salary in private!!)And just stated some facts about you...
But still think that many men are way too scared to get hurt (perhaps again).
Saw this as a chance to appeal to "the silent crowd"
Kitty
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How often do women ask men to go out on a date?
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The last time a man asked me out in RL has to be at least two years ago... Yes, I´ve had my share of flowers and emails on this site, but only two or three that could have been a possibility.
I have no problem meeting lots of guys and making lots of male friends. I can walk into any club on the island and have a couple of male friends immediatly walk up give me a kiss offer a drink and have a chat or a dance.
I have enough male friends that are record producers, DJ´s, security guys that I never pay to get into a club and am often offered VIP seating... I always get invited to the good parties and social functions, club openings, magazine gala´s, charity events etc.
I have 7 lovely guys coming to spend Christmas at my home... all friends. They are wonderful friends of all ages and are always there for me if I need a hand with something... of course the care packages I make up of brownies, chile con carne, etc. probably encourages that...
I love men... men have always enjoyed my company... So what the hell is going on????
Is it my age? Does carrying an extra 20 pounds really make that big a difference?
I am asking honestly... please do not be afraid to respond honestly, I will not be insulted and hate you. I need to know what I´m doing wrong!!!!