Your Meeting someone from afar and......... ( Archived) (62)

Okay just curious as to how folks on here have arranged meeting someone from afar... you either traveled to see them or they came to see you.....

Of course I'm presuming this meeting occurs after you have chatted and discovered that there could be something there for the two people...

Did you stay with that person in there home (separate room or in same room) or did you make arrangments to stay at a hotel just to be on the safe side? I know that alot of different factors play into how you might answer this question.... just curious as to how others have gone about there meetings...

good thread....no experience ... but watching

Thanks BrEyes..... I hope some of us old timers here on CS will respond....

Happy New Year,

I had so many meetings that we have arranged by telephone and at all time I've been invited to their house and I went there with flowers and gifts and the truth is that I was also invited at the same bedroom to sleep at night and also use the shower. But what've I experienced is that you have to make a deal you want on the phone before you travel anywhere, almost every details. Because then you are going to say that we have planned everything and the other person is also going to act as it planned. if you become shy and don't ask some questions that you might have or not sure about where you are going to go or where you are going to stay, it might turnout not a pleasant time for you so always do the planning beforehand and make deals

Not sure why no one is responding....

I'm waiting for the advice, too. Haven't been in this situation yet.

Well I have once.... and it was after alot of talking with the person ( several months)and planning things out.... also had a back up plan just in case.... but did not have to use(hotel that is). And that was even leaving the country....

But given the opportunity again.... note sure how I would go about it in the future.... I know with the economy, if you go to meet someone, the expense of the flight can be one thing....then the hotel... so I'm just curious as to how others have gone about this process...not only that but it always helps to hear others experiences both good and bad....

The first time I met a gentleman from an online dating site, me residing in Florida and him in Arizona, we selected a mutual meeting place in-between which turned out to be New Orleans before the hurricane hit. We had been chatting on the phone for 4 months prior so knew everything about each other.
After that once a month for 4 months we traveled to each other's cities and homes until I finally moved in with him in Arizona. I was much more flexible in relocating since I had recently retired and have no family in the area.
Things did not work out after a few years, but we remain friends.
I am willing to try it again, as long as there is patience with the whole long distance reality.

Mine booked a room at a hotel. He was a gentleman, and did not expect that i should just clear some room for him, in my wardrobe.