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Singles search for love armed with a list of qualities desired in a mate/lover, such as honesty, fidelity, loyalty, sense of humor, intelligence, warmth, etc. Yet when that person appears they say, he/she is a really nice person, but nothing clicked, just no "chemistry."
Some people become veritable love junkies. They need chemistry or this chemical excitement to feel happy about and intoxicated by life. Once this initial rush of chemicals wanes (inevitable after six months to three years, depending on the individual and the circumstances), their relationship crumbles. They're soon off again, seeking a quick fix to their forlorn feelings: another chemical high from infatuation.
So is this why so many of us are still here on CS? Do we place too much value on the chemistry rather than the other things that we believe are so important in a mate? Could we possibly find that person and have the chemistry follow if we gave it some time?