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Your post is very fitting for me personally. I don't want to go into detail, but your statement "you can never truly be involved with anyone but yourself" rings very true to me.

Some people just manage to Love themselves so much that they cannot abide in the idea of sharing themselves with anyone else Ken. Sad but perhaps they have fought long and hard to get where they are and accept themselves for the first time.
You my friend have all the makings of a great partner and there are many fine ladies who likely believe they could never give to you what you offer as equals. Once they see their true worth they will know differently and then you are going to be harried for choices.
I see your situation as one that is healing many others and in this effort your Karmic repayment will surely be a life of bliss and completion.

It just isn't going to happen Mark. Karma backfires on me everytime. I go all out and get screwed over in the end. Just very tired of it.

Mark, you ask good questions, and my answer would be that those people are either lazy and selfish, or as incapable of self-honesty as they are being honest with others. So, they get into relationships, destroy them, then moan about how life is so unfair and they can never find anyone good out there. Or complain about how they're always wronged by others, because they color their own reality to make themselves appear blameless, and the blame to be with the other.

I have a sister like this. Everyone's world is supposed to revolved around her, and nothing is ever her fault. Believe me, I've had to straighten my parents out on a few things between she and I. They finally realized what she is, but it took them years. It's very sad to see, especially in someone I was once so close to that she called me her second mother...and now, because of things she did over the years, and especially when I lost my husband, we barely speak. But, I know who she is, and truth is not her friend. Nor is reality.

Ken you are a wonderful man with a very giving heart. You just have to continue being you and let it settle in that the good you expound naturally is not the taglines that drew others into webs of deceit that wounded them to the point that they no longer recognize the potential of Love. Karma is not something that can be manipulated my friend. Your just rewards for being a man of worth are coming, and when they do you have to be ready to accept them and let them fill you with the bounty of life. Be ready as there is no warning and it will lift you up and send you flying on the same wave your heart has always been on.
Hope, Faith and Love. Without the two prior there is not much possibility of the latter. Love is the only goal worthy of attainment in life and to this you must hold tight to Hope and Faith. One for each hand young man.

This entire thread has me in tears!

You are an old, wise soul Mark.