Is it possible to fall in love before you meet??? (29)
vonneyDublin, Ireland24 Threads 6,371 PostsAnother 'engagement announcement' on the Int forums, a couple that havent actually met yet. Is it just me that feels you have to meet a person before you can be sure you love them?
u can fall for the feelings of a girl /guy i suppose, but can u fallin love? it depends on how intense the online relationship, letters, online talkin, mails, talkin cam to cam ? it depends on the situation i suppose. give them the benifit of the doubt!
I think you can fall in love with the idea of the person and being in love, but for me I would need to meet him, but Im not saying it doesnt happen. I am the eternal romantic.
vonney: Another 'engagement announcement' on the Int forums, a couple that havent actually met yet. Is it just me that feels you have to meet a person before you can be sure you love them?
I think you can be attracted to a person's mind and maybe even develop feelings for them but as for love before you actually meet in person? I'm not so sure about that. I don't mean to be a cynic but in my experience you can build up an image of what you think that person will be like in person but sometimes they turn out to be totally different. For me the only way you can fall in love with someone is by actually spending time with them. I think there is no substitute for that.....
No you can not.
You can become consumed with interest in the person, but you can only know for sure after meeting them!
The difference between online dating and "real-world dating" is the same as the difference between looking at a holiday brochure and actually going on that holiday...
You can become consumed with interest in the person, but you can only know for sure after meeting them!
The difference between online dating and "real-world dating" is the same as the difference between looking at a holiday brochure and actually going on that holiday...
DUBLINGUY1973: I think you can be attracted to a person's mind and maybe even develop feelings for them but as for love before you actually meet in person? I'm not so sure about that. I don't mean to be a cynic but in my experience you can build up an image of what you think that person will be like in person but sometimes they turn out to be totally different. For me the only way you can fall in love with someone is by actually spending time with them. I think there is no substitute for that.....
I agree hun was just wondering what others thought
CapeDoctor: No you can not.
You can become consumed with interest in the person, but you can only know for sure after meeting them!
The difference between online dating and "real-world dating" is the same as the difference between looking at a holiday brochure and actually going on that holiday...
You can become consumed with interest in the person, but you can only know for sure after meeting them!
The difference between online dating and "real-world dating" is the same as the difference between looking at a holiday brochure and actually going on that holiday...
Interesting analogy
DUBLINGUY1973: Interesting analogy
Well actually the more I think about it the more similar they seem...
Hi ye vonney...
i agree with most on here you can be mad about the person on email but def no way can u get engaged.. i think they are mad.... am sorry but i do.............the old saying if u want to know me come and live with me ... u cannot judge online... its happened to me got on great on email ( passed on the engagement lol) and nothing face to face no spark at all... i wish them the best of luck i truely do and i hope it works out for them.......................
i agree with most on here you can be mad about the person on email but def no way can u get engaged.. i think they are mad.... am sorry but i do.............the old saying if u want to know me come and live with me ... u cannot judge online... its happened to me got on great on email ( passed on the engagement lol) and nothing face to face no spark at all... i wish them the best of luck i truely do and i hope it works out for them.......................
CapeDoctor: Well actually the more I think about it the more similar they seem...
Nah i think you are dead right actually. There is no comparison between the two.
bluebelle4000: Hi ye vonney...
i agree with most on here you can be mad about the person on email but def no way can u get engaged.. i think they are mad.... am sorry but i do.............the old saying if u want to know me come and live with me ... u cannot judge online... its happened to me got on great on email ( passed on the engagement lol) and nothing face to face no spark at all... i wish them the best of luck i truely do and i hope it works out for them.......................
i agree with most on here you can be mad about the person on email but def no way can u get engaged.. i think they are mad.... am sorry but i do.............the old saying if u want to know me come and live with me ... u cannot judge online... its happened to me got on great on email ( passed on the engagement lol) and nothing face to face no spark at all... i wish them the best of luck i truely do and i hope it works out for them.......................
What she said
Been there too.Hello
DUBLINGUY1973: What she said Been there too.
Hello
Hello
I think most of us have hun
DUBLINGUY1973: What she said Been there too.
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Hey DG....i don't think you can fall in love without meeting them- yes- find an awful lot about them and be very attracted to that, even know that you are very well suited- but you can't possibly really know them-
how can you know how they will react to situations-? when you/they are stressed- when you arrive home late/ when you don't feel like talking/making love. when the kids are driving you mad? maybe they don't deal with those situations the same way as you do, and it could cause friction
also- Do they go out more/less than you/do they drink more than they said/ could be on heroin for all you know . they can tell you on the phone but they are hardly going to tell you the bad bits( we all try to portray our more angelic side lol)??. what if their little day to day habits are just the thing you can't live with on that day to day basis. we all think in the flush of love that nothing could irritate us, but sometimes you have to be there, with them constantly, for a n extended period of time, to really know.
It's a bit like celebs who feel they have t get married within 3 weeks of meting- we all know how long those 'soul mate' marriages (usually) last.
having said that I wish them well and hope it works out as they wish it- you never know
how can you know how they will react to situations-? when you/they are stressed- when you arrive home late/ when you don't feel like talking/making love. when the kids are driving you mad? maybe they don't deal with those situations the same way as you do, and it could cause friction
also- Do they go out more/less than you/do they drink more than they said/ could be on heroin for all you know
. they can tell you on the phone but they are hardly going to tell you the bad bits( we all try to portray our more angelic side lol)??. what if their little day to day habits are just the thing you can't live with on that day to day basis. we all think in the flush of love that nothing could irritate us, but sometimes you have to be there, with them constantly, for a n extended period of time, to really know.It's a bit like celebs who feel they have t get married within 3 weeks of meting- we all know how long those 'soul mate' marriages (usually) last.
having said that I wish them well and hope it works out as they wish it- you never know
jampet: i don't think you can fall in love without meeting them- yes- find an awful lot about them and be very attracted to that, even know that you are very well suited- but you can't possibly really know them-
how can you know how they will react to situations-? when you/they are stressed- when you arrive home late/ when you don't feel like talking/making love. when the kids are driving you mad? maybe they don't deal with those situations the same way as you do, and it could cause friction
also- Do they go out more/less than you/do they drink more than they said/ could be on heroin for all you know . they can tell you on the phone but they are hardly going to tell you the bad bits( we all try to portray our more angelic side lol)??. what if their little day to day habits are just the thing you can't live with on that day to day basis. we all think in the flush of love that nothing could irritate us, but sometimes you have to be there, with them constantly, for a n extended period of time, to really know.
It's a bit like celebs who feel they have t get married within 3 weeks of meting- we all know how long those 'soul mate' marriages (usually) last.
having said that I wish them well and hope it works out as they wish it- you never know
how can you know how they will react to situations-? when you/they are stressed- when you arrive home late/ when you don't feel like talking/making love. when the kids are driving you mad? maybe they don't deal with those situations the same way as you do, and it could cause friction
also- Do they go out more/less than you/do they drink more than they said/ could be on heroin for all you know . they can tell you on the phone but they are hardly going to tell you the bad bits( we all try to portray our more angelic side lol)??. what if their little day to day habits are just the thing you can't live with on that day to day basis. we all think in the flush of love that nothing could irritate us, but sometimes you have to be there, with them constantly, for a n extended period of time, to really know.
It's a bit like celebs who feel they have t get married within 3 weeks of meting- we all know how long those 'soul mate' marriages (usually) last.
having said that I wish them well and hope it works out as they wish it- you never know
Well said Alison...
jampet: i don't think you can fall in love without meeting them- yes- find an awful lot about them and be very attracted to that, even know that you are very well suited- but you can't possibly really know them-
how can you know how they will react to situations-? when you/they are stressed- when you arrive home late/ when you don't feel like talking/making love. when the kids are driving you mad? maybe they don't deal with those situations the same way as you do, and it could cause friction
also- Do they go out more/less than you/do they drink more than they said/ could be on heroin for all you know . they can tell you on the phone but they are hardly going to tell you the bad bits( we all try to portray our more angelic side lol)??. what if their little day to day habits are just the thing you can't live with on that day to day basis. we all think in the flush of love that nothing could irritate us, but sometimes you have to be there, with them constantly, for a n extended period of time, to really know.
It's a bit like celebs who feel they have t get married within 3 weeks of meting- we all know how long those 'soul mate' marriages (usually) last.
having said that I wish them well and hope it works out as they wish it- you never know
how can you know how they will react to situations-? when you/they are stressed- when you arrive home late/ when you don't feel like talking/making love. when the kids are driving you mad? maybe they don't deal with those situations the same way as you do, and it could cause friction
also- Do they go out more/less than you/do they drink more than they said/ could be on heroin for all you know . they can tell you on the phone but they are hardly going to tell you the bad bits( we all try to portray our more angelic side lol)??. what if their little day to day habits are just the thing you can't live with on that day to day basis. we all think in the flush of love that nothing could irritate us, but sometimes you have to be there, with them constantly, for a n extended period of time, to really know.
It's a bit like celebs who feel they have t get married within 3 weeks of meting- we all know how long those 'soul mate' marriages (usually) last.
having said that I wish them well and hope it works out as they wish it- you never know
Great post
Hi everyone!
I have met a good few people off dating sites and you can get a good general feeling from msn and talking on the phone...u get an idea that u get on well with this person etc...
But definitely in the flesh is the only way of really really knowing.
And you know!
I have met a good few people off dating sites and you can get a good general feeling from msn and talking on the phone...u get an idea that u get on well with this person etc...
But definitely in the flesh is the only way of really really knowing.
And you know!
and you know?
no i dont and i think i'm struggling
come on tell me
no i dont and i think i'm struggling
come on tell me
hi Vonney and everyone else......I do agree with you Vonney i personally think its not possible in the real world to fall in love before meeting.....I need to know that there is a connection of bodies as well as minds for us both....I think you can fall in love with a fantasy and lead yourself in a false sense of reality.....both myself and Jim spoke to each other on msn and mailed each other for 3 months before we met but both of us was really apprehensive before we actually met as we had feelings for each other but was not willing to commit til we actually met in person.....the fear of no chemistry was what held us back to say what we really wanted to at that time......even when Jim went away on a mission in Iraq tellin me he had let his sister know my email addy incase anything happened to him. He didnt want me left not knowing....We are nearly 2 years together and still learning about each other....
Of course Mr Wright! you know what I am talking about...when you meet a person, firstly you feel chemistry and then you get to know them more...but there can be a meeting of minds too...you can really be fond of a person from chatting on msn and emailing...but then when u meet them, you see if it is just friendship or if you feel more...
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