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dave101Hamilton, Ontario Canada5 Threads 48 PostsOk so I joined this site about a week before easter, since then I have met someone and moved in with her. Well its going great but I fear that my shyness will get the best of me, its been going great but I still have a lot to learn a lot about relationships and keeping it alive. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Think you're doing just fine. I'm envious. Tell her you are shy and that will open the right doors for the right responses. Paws
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Take her aside, by the hand if your shy and lay upon the cool ground looking at the sky ........ this will make it easier to speak from your heart on your fears to her....
Speak to her from your heart and your mind...
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Is this the voice of experience talking? Inquiring minds want to know. 
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Yeah well thats my problem we sleep together but I haven't made that move yet so well I am still unsure how to go by it. Do I ask or how do I go about making it happen I am not entirely sure about it.
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Another point of problems is a mother who doesn't want to let go, mine to be exact and I am afraid that might deter her, how do I stop her from meddling in my life.
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move to winnipeg, ill help you get over your shyness 
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Do the best you can to break thru the shyness. Try to focus on good things about yourself as well. and in time it will pass.
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i too am shy, it's easy to sit behind a screen, not so easy in the real world. my last relationship, was one where i tried to stop being shy, and come to find out, thats what she liked about me. as far as i can say, i did learn that i should always convey and converse my feelings with those i love(even family) wether bad or good; talk to her, and tell her how you feel, a woman will listen and she will tell you exactly what she wants from you,you just have too listen and communicate with her.(just don't go overboard, too many feelings at once-all the time, she may think you are whining)
good luck,
and i hope you get your answer
good luck,
and i hope you get your answer
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Whatever she says is right! Don't ever forget that!
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This is June 6. Easter was in April. You met and moved in with someone since Easter? and you call yourself shy? I don't think so. Is it a roommate situation?
If you are having a hard time talking to her, expressing your important feelings and thoughs, what about emailing her? That is how my younger son talks to me about things and I answer him in email. It works for us. I know he doesn't want to talk about certain things to me face to face so whatever works, I'm there for him.
Don't forget to bring her her favorite flowers in her favorite colors. You did ask her what her favorite things are, right? That is a start.
If you are having a hard time talking to her, expressing your important feelings and thoughs, what about emailing her? That is how my younger son talks to me about things and I answer him in email. It works for us. I know he doesn't want to talk about certain things to me face to face so whatever works, I'm there for him.
Don't forget to bring her her favorite flowers in her favorite colors. You did ask her what her favorite things are, right? That is a start.
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Actually I have moved in with her a week and a half ago, after finding a job here, it was the fastest move I have ever done, but I had wanted it. Met her face to face anput three weeks ago and it went great. As for talking to her about certain things, yeah thats how I do it, I find it easier to tell her, I told her last week for her birthday that she was someone special in my life, which is true. I just don't know how to go about going the further steps, we cuddle at night, kiss goodnight but thats about it, I know she said its up to me how fast we go, and I want to its just that I am not sure how to go about initiating everything.
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maybe buy her some flowers,than cook her a surprize candle light dinner.than after dinner just sit there and talk to her,look into her eyes when you are talking to herlisten to what she has to say,which means pay attention to what she has to say.instead of talking to her just hold her in your arms,feel 2 hearts beating as 1
look into her eyes tell her you love her and how much she means to you,tell her thank you for being a part of your life.tell her thank you for opening up her heart and allow your love to enter
to grow with each beat of her heart.sometimes words does not have to be said.for sometimes action speaks lounder than words,just sit there and hold her in your arms
than lean over and whisper in her ear tag you are it,if you can catch me i will give you my heart and the love my heart holds,forever and ever for i will love you forever and ever until the end of time
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davey boy....hell kid....youre 24......and youre too shy.....to make a move.....ok kid....im gonna help you out.....this woman is attracted to YOU.....she sleeps in YOUR bed.........ok.....do YOU understand this.......so why are you being so....SHY??????......
DO NOT ASK HER.....IF SHE WANTS TO INITIATE ANYTHING.....BIG MISTAKE....just RELAX.....and REMEMBER.......this woman wants you.....dont force it......
i take it youre a vigin.....you must be.....ok ......when you are ready....you wont have to ask people on a forum.....what you should do......
just one question.....how old is she??????????
no need to thank me.....its my pleasure.....
DO NOT ASK HER.....IF SHE WANTS TO INITIATE ANYTHING.....BIG MISTAKE....just RELAX.....and REMEMBER.......this woman wants you.....dont force it......
i take it youre a vigin.....you must be.....ok ......when you are ready....you wont have to ask people on a forum.....what you should do......
just one question.....how old is she??????????
no need to thank me.....its my pleasure.....
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I agree with Wave on this one all points.
where's my thermometer, don't feel sick.....
Dayum.... I hope it ain't serious...totally agreeing with wave????
where's my thermometer, don't feel sick.....
Dayum.... I hope it ain't serious...totally agreeing with wave????
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Tell her that you are shy. Some women are impressed with honesty. She might be shy, too. If she is then it will give you both something to talk about. If she isn't shy then if she likes you then she has gotten over her shyness and can give you some good advice.
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Personally I think you all should have taken more time to get to know one another,but such is life and the 2 of you are living together,just be you,when your comfortable you'll open up,for now just enjoy the time you are spending in each others space.
My opion only ofcourse.
My opion only ofcourse.
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i read all this...
umm, your whole point is the shyness
yet, you just said she already knows...
somethin' isn't right here...
umm, your whole point is the shyness
yet, you just said she already knows...
somethin' isn't right here...
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I'm with ya. Skeptical, cynical, and confused.
Moved in after meeting 3 weeks ago? Hardly shy.
Sleep together but not sleeping together? Do you see that huge red flag dangling over the headboard?
What's the kids have to do with any of this?
Your Mother's mettling is the problem? Did she move in too?
Moved in after meeting 3 weeks ago? Hardly shy.
Sleep together but not sleeping together? Do you see that huge red flag dangling over the headboard?
What's the kids have to do with any of this?
Your Mother's mettling is the problem? Did she move in too?
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