Cyber Inter-net Relationship Responsibilities & Spying (36)
I like your opinion D. and agree. I see nothing wrong
with sending flowers,E-Cards, messages or whatever to
keep in touch with those we've become friends with.
However, if said person is now in a LTR then said
person should not be throwing out a lot of kissy kissy
romantic type things to others.JMO
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Are you an infidel Diamond......
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sassy49senior: I like your opinion D. and agree. I see nothing wrong
with sending flowers,E-Cards, messages or whatever to
keep in touch with those we've become friends with.
However, if said person is now in a LTR then said
person should not be throwing out a lot of kissy kissy
romantic type things to others.JMO
with sending flowers,E-Cards, messages or whatever to
keep in touch with those we've become friends with.
However, if said person is now in a LTR then said
person should not be throwing out a lot of kissy kissy
romantic type things to others.JMO
Cant see a problem with this....after all most of us are still free and single on here on cs so we can send what we want to whom we want...
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Well, until you commit then you can email as many as you want. Now talking romantically just depends if its actually going somewhere or the boat is docked
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I see nothing wrong with continuing to send a flower of any kind to one's friends when in a serious and committed relationship. As you said, we all still have buddies on here, and sometimes just want to cheer them up, or say "Hi, I'm thinking of you."
However, those shouldn't be extremely flirtatious flower messages that could be misconstrued. There should be no doubt where a person's heart lies when they're in a committed relationship, and nothing said that could be a breach of that.
JMHO.
However, those shouldn't be extremely flirtatious flower messages that could be misconstrued. There should be no doubt where a person's heart lies when they're in a committed relationship, and nothing said that could be a breach of that.
JMHO.
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Diamond789: Spying
Diamond
I print the below because of an interesting situation I had recently been informed of, and so in response I have decided to make a decision based upon my personal opinion. All other ops. will be respected, whether funny or serious.
Thank you all !
When two people talk on the inter-net and one party proposes marriage and is refused, then to my way of thinking the proposer is released and free to pursue another single party
If I had recently discovered that the other party had, has a spy working behind the scenes trying to lay traps to prove infidelity of the former proposer then I would be glad after all, that the proposal had been refused
Therefore recognizing the fact that, there's more than one form of," busybody" in existence today than just that," never go away neighbor who is constantly peeking out thru' the window .
I myself would rather live my life with one person I could trust opinion. than a brevy of spies following me around reporting non-existent informational issues supported by the spies' own suggestions as to what the proposee should do with each new contrived situation.
So therefore would sending a flower from CS, a heart , cheers or stuffed Teddy Bear be grounds for infidelity on the inter-net?
No!
My personal opinion is that we all have buddies and well intentioned friends here on CS. Many times we lend some advice which turns out to be more positive than negative and in the short run,send a thank you in many different positive forms as a humble way to say,"thank you".
Just my humble opinion
Diamond
I print the below because of an interesting situation I had recently been informed of, and so in response I have decided to make a decision based upon my personal opinion. All other ops. will be respected, whether funny or serious.
Thank you all !
When two people talk on the inter-net and one party proposes marriage and is refused, then to my way of thinking the proposer is released and free to pursue another single party
If I had recently discovered that the other party had, has a spy working behind the scenes trying to lay traps to prove infidelity of the former proposer then I would be glad after all, that the proposal had been refused
Therefore recognizing the fact that, there's more than one form of," busybody" in existence today than just that," never go away neighbor who is constantly peeking out thru' the window .
I myself would rather live my life with one person I could trust opinion. than a brevy of spies following me around reporting non-existent informational issues supported by the spies' own suggestions as to what the proposee should do with each new contrived situation.
So therefore would sending a flower from CS, a heart , cheers or stuffed Teddy Bear be grounds for infidelity on the inter-net?
No!
My personal opinion is that we all have buddies and well intentioned friends here on CS. Many times we lend some advice which turns out to be more positive than negative and in the short run,send a thank you in many different positive forms as a humble way to say,"thank you".
Just my humble opinion
You can post all your private business on here (people have been warned against it over and over) and you can get all kinds of opinions both in support and against you. In the end because you refused to stop sending idiotic flowers to strangers (i.e. people who are not real life friends) you are now alone posting this. You will spend your days and nights alone. You will celebrate achievements alone, you will be sick alone. You will live a lonely life because instead of listening to her that she was hurt by you sending emails/flowers to other women when you had her, you continued. If the "busybodies" bothered you so much then you should have ended it then and there-there was nothing more to say but instead you've continued it here. I know the lady in question (not personally but I remember the whole thing from last summer.) She's a beautiful person inside and out and you lost. I hope this moronic post and the support you get helps you feel better at night when your arms are empty....
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Hi Diamond,
With internet dating/relationships, as with any other kind, the cornerstone must be TRUST. Without that, any relationship is on shaky grounds. From previous threads here, we have become well too aware of the 'behind the scenes' gossip and innuendo that can occur here, and people being accused of fabricating information about others. Some here have reported that others have meddled with their new found happiness, where certain individuals were even found, with hard evidence, to have made concerted attempts at breaking up a couple.
In the end, all the characteristics that mark the development of a loving relationship between 2 people, still apply with online ones. Achieved in different ways perhaps, but TRUST, LOYALTY, RESPECT etc all need to be there, or you have ....not much
With internet dating/relationships, as with any other kind, the cornerstone must be TRUST. Without that, any relationship is on shaky grounds. From previous threads here, we have become well too aware of the 'behind the scenes' gossip and innuendo that can occur here, and people being accused of fabricating information about others. Some here have reported that others have meddled with their new found happiness, where certain individuals were even found, with hard evidence, to have made concerted attempts at breaking up a couple.
In the end, all the characteristics that mark the development of a loving relationship between 2 people, still apply with online ones. Achieved in different ways perhaps, but TRUST, LOYALTY, RESPECT etc all need to be there, or you have ....not much
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I would like to add, echoing LA's comments, that just as in RL, and with internet dating I think you need to be even more diligent, it is important that you [size =9 LISTEN to what the other person is saying. So in this case, if you KNEW that, for whatever reason, your lady was really upset by your continued sending of flowers and other forms of communications, until it was sorted out, it may have been prudent to refrain from continuing doing that. It really is not that worth it, to sending a cyber flower to a stranger, presumably someone not well known to the other person, than to risk losing her. It is also likely that she may have had a bad experience or two with another man on here. I certainly have, and it's only been 6 mths. So we each become more diligent in our own way, at avoiding being duped/hurt, whatever, again and again.JMO.
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I started thinking about my relationship with Nick since
I first posted in this thread so I now have a little more
to add. I stayed with CS for 4 months after we got together.
I had several friends that would call me sweet names and
I right back at them. Nick did not say much but I could
feel a bit of tension so I finally deleted my file.
When I think back he did the same but much earlier. So
yes, I don't care if someone says they don't have a
jealous bone in their body, it does cause a little friction
and possibly even a little bit of not trusting if you
continue to be OVERLY FRIENDLY with someone. Would not be
difficult for me to give up what I can't see, or touch for
what is standing right in front of me. JMO
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LACali: You can post all your private business on here (people have been warned against it over and over) and you can get all kinds of opinions both in support and against you. In the end because you refused to stop sending idiotic flowers to strangers (i.e. people who are not real life friends) you are now alone posting this. You will spend your days and nights alone. You will celebrate achievements alone, you will be sick alone. You will live a lonely life because instead of listening to her that she was hurt by you sending emails/flowers to other women when you had her, you continued. If the "busybodies" bothered you so much then you should have ended it then and there-there was nothing more to say but instead you've continued it here. I know the lady in question (not personally but I remember the whole thing from last summer.) She's a beautiful person inside and out and you lost. I hope this moronic post and the support you get helps you feel better at night when your arms are empty....
La you are way out of line here. This thread had nothing to do with me until you have turned the entire contents around to suit your personal agenda. Nor any past experiences pertain as they were or are considered private matters.
In as much as you have attacked me on a public forum, you have forced me to seek proper legal Rep.
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Diamond789: Spying
Diamond
I print the below because of an interesting situation I had recently been informed of, and so in response I have decided to make a decision based upon my personal opinion. All other ops. will be respected, whether funny or serious.
Thank you all !
When two people talk on the inter-net and one party proposes marriage and is refused, then to my way of thinking the proposer is released and free to pursue another single party
If I had recently discovered that the other party had, has a spy working behind the scenes trying to lay traps to prove infidelity of the former proposer then I would be glad after all, that the proposal had been refused
Therefore recognizing the fact that, there's more than one form of," busybody" in existence today than just that," never go away neighbor who is constantly peeking out thru' the window .
I myself would rather live my life with one person I could trust opinion. than a brevy of spies following me around reporting non-existent informational issues supported by the spies' own suggestions as to what the proposee should do with each new contrived situation.
So therefore would sending a flower from CS, a heart , cheers or stuffed Teddy Bear be grounds for infidelity on the inter-net?
No!
My personal opinion is that we all have buddies and well intentioned friends here on CS. Many times we lend some advice which turns out to be more positive than negative and in the short run,send a thank you in many different positive forms as a humble way to say,"thank you".
Just my humble opinion
Diamond
I print the below because of an interesting situation I had recently been informed of, and so in response I have decided to make a decision based upon my personal opinion. All other ops. will be respected, whether funny or serious.
Thank you all !
When two people talk on the inter-net and one party proposes marriage and is refused, then to my way of thinking the proposer is released and free to pursue another single party
If I had recently discovered that the other party had, has a spy working behind the scenes trying to lay traps to prove infidelity of the former proposer then I would be glad after all, that the proposal had been refused
Therefore recognizing the fact that, there's more than one form of," busybody" in existence today than just that," never go away neighbor who is constantly peeking out thru' the window .
I myself would rather live my life with one person I could trust opinion. than a brevy of spies following me around reporting non-existent informational issues supported by the spies' own suggestions as to what the proposee should do with each new contrived situation.
So therefore would sending a flower from CS, a heart , cheers or stuffed Teddy Bear be grounds for infidelity on the inter-net?
No!
My personal opinion is that we all have buddies and well intentioned friends here on CS. Many times we lend some advice which turns out to be more positive than negative and in the short run,send a thank you in many different positive forms as a humble way to say,"thank you".
Just my humble opinion
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"Address to The Forum"
Diamond
Last year I met a woman on CS. There was a row made.The problems were between her and myself. Under the carpet she and I worked thru' those problems,I proposed but was rejected.
I proposed again and was turned down again.
I have therefore conducted myself in a gentlemanly fashion and done all I could do to remain as such.
At the present time the lady and I remain the best of buddies!
Being that I had no commitment, then I was free to look for another mate.I was even free while talking with her since no commitments were even considered at the time!
I was even and still am free to send flowers and say pleasant things to these adorable women on CS.
Everyrone has the right to consider the possibilities of a certain mate they have in mind before making any commitment. That's an intelligent move by both parties,and if more people would consider before jumping off the cliff,then more marriages and unions would survive.
I have been attacked by certain members of CS whereas they have no knowledge of any facts! Again I must stress the dangers of being a" Window watcher" Blah, Blah,person and busybody.
I am considering legal Action at this time.
Diamond
Diamond
Last year I met a woman on CS. There was a row made.The problems were between her and myself. Under the carpet she and I worked thru' those problems,I proposed but was rejected.
I proposed again and was turned down again.
I have therefore conducted myself in a gentlemanly fashion and done all I could do to remain as such.
At the present time the lady and I remain the best of buddies!
Being that I had no commitment, then I was free to look for another mate.I was even free while talking with her since no commitments were even considered at the time!
I was even and still am free to send flowers and say pleasant things to these adorable women on CS.
Everyrone has the right to consider the possibilities of a certain mate they have in mind before making any commitment. That's an intelligent move by both parties,and if more people would consider before jumping off the cliff,then more marriages and unions would survive.
I have been attacked by certain members of CS whereas they have no knowledge of any facts! Again I must stress the dangers of being a" Window watcher" Blah, Blah,person and busybody.
I am considering legal Action at this time.
Diamond
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venere08: I would like to add, echoing LA's comments, that just as in RL, and with internet dating I think you need to be even more diligent, it is important that you [size =9 LISTEN to what the other person is saying. So in this case, if you KNEW that, for whatever reason, your lady was really upset by your continued sending of flowers and other forms of communications, until it was sorted out, it may have been prudent to refrain from continuing doing that. It really is not that worth it, to sending a cyber flower to a stranger, presumably someone not well known to the other person, than to risk losing her. It is also likely that she may have had a bad experience or two with another man on here. I certainly have, and it's only been 6 mths. So we each become more diligent in our own way, at avoiding being duped/hurt, whatever, again and again.JMO.
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Diamond789: La you are way out of line here. This thread had nothing to do with me until you have turned the entire contents around to suit your personal agenda. Nor any past experiences pertain as they were or are considered private matters.
In as much as you have attacked me on a public forum, you have forced me to seek proper legal Rep.
In as much as you have attacked me on a public forum, you have forced me to seek proper legal Rep.
Well, I was a bit harsh but I do remember her and she was a sweetie and I wouldn't appreciate it if I was seriously involved with someone who was sending flowers to other women. You did what you did and didn't care what she thought and here you are. Frankly, I think you lost out unnecessarily.
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I'm going to disagree with those who say if it bothers the other person that one is still sending flowers to friends, and receiving them from friends, that they should stop. If a person really loves me, they love me for me. I am a flirt by nature. I would never send another man flowers that contained overly flirty messages, though, nor welcome them, and I think that would be understood...though if the friendship had a bit of that element before, I still really don't see the problem. So, any man who would date me would certainly have to understand that I'd still be in contact with all of my friends in the same way I was before we started dating, albeit perhaps in a slightly toned-down way if it was a bit risque before.
Spying on me would rather bother me...but then, nobody would have that chance, really. I'm not giving access to my account to anyone I date, nor (if they're a member here), asking for theirs...and that would be the only way to know of the content of the flowers and emails you send and receive w/o your permission. If he knows because he's reading them with me, then he has my permission, doesn't he?
So...yes, it boils down to a matter of trust, and there must be some level of it to have a relationship. Yes, trust takes time, but to have any type of relationship at all, you must have at least a little bit of it.
And to those attacking Tom about the other issue...you don't know the situation, really, do you? You weren't either one of them. You only know what you saw on here...and maybe one side of the story. There's never an excuse to attack someone in their thread based on such limited knowledge of the situation.
Spying on me would rather bother me...but then, nobody would have that chance, really. I'm not giving access to my account to anyone I date, nor (if they're a member here), asking for theirs...and that would be the only way to know of the content of the flowers and emails you send and receive w/o your permission. If he knows because he's reading them with me, then he has my permission, doesn't he?
So...yes, it boils down to a matter of trust, and there must be some level of it to have a relationship. Yes, trust takes time, but to have any type of relationship at all, you must have at least a little bit of it.
And to those attacking Tom about the other issue...you don't know the situation, really, do you? You weren't either one of them. You only know what you saw on here...and maybe one side of the story. There's never an excuse to attack someone in their thread based on such limited knowledge of the situation.
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Send me a photo your Willy, then we'll talk.....
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Being new I don't know of the past relationships of some on here, nor do I care. I try to skip the drama and take people for what they are worth at the present time.
I, personally, would not want a gentleman I was presently involved with sending messages to others in a romantic manner. I would feel hurt and betrayed. If you are not involved exclusively with another anymore then I don't see anything wrong with doing so now.
I, personally, would not want a gentleman I was presently involved with sending messages to others in a romantic manner. I would feel hurt and betrayed. If you are not involved exclusively with another anymore then I don't see anything wrong with doing so now.
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Also, I am confused as to how someone can "spy" on another on this site pertaining to private emails/flowers sent?
Unless, a certain person received a flower from you and that person told the person you are involved with or you mentioned you are sending out flowers to others.....
Unless, a certain person received a flower from you and that person told the person you are involved with or you mentioned you are sending out flowers to others.....
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LACali: Well, I was a bit harsh but I do remember her and she was a sweetie and I wouldn't appreciate it if I was seriously involved with someone who was sending flowers to other women. You did what you did and didn't care what she thought and here you are. Frankly, I think you lost out unnecessarily.
I had proposed twice to her irregardless no matter how you feel and yes she's lovely and my best buddy!
It's not any of your business !
You are a busybody !
In other words,mind your own business.You haven't any facts.
Yes I will send flowers unless a ring is placed on my hand!
I'm still single..
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Diamond
I print the below because of an interesting situation I had recently been informed of, and so in response I have decided to make a decision based upon my personal opinion. All other ops. will be respected, whether funny or serious.
Thank you all !
When two people talk on the inter-net and one party proposes marriage
If I had recently discovered that the other party had, has a spy
Therefore recognizing the fact that, there's more than one form of," busybody" in existence today than just that," never go away neighbor who is constantly peeking out thru' the window .
I myself would rather live my life with one person I could trust opinion.
So therefore would sending a flower from CS,
No!
My personal opinion is that we all have buddies and well intentioned friends here on CS. Many times we lend some advice which turns out to be more positive than negative and in the short run,send a thank you in many different positive forms as a humble way to say,"thank you".
Just my humble opinion