Playing the field? (218)
Erm, She may not be as ready for a relationship as you think.
I think you have said it yourself, she wants to broaden her horizons.
I think you have said it yourself, she wants to broaden her horizons.
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I believe she wants to play the field and thats okay. Just be her friend and maybe you are what she is looking for afterall
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CjTenorSax: Erm, She may not be as ready for a relationship as you think.
I think you have said it yourself, she wants to broaden her horizons.
I think you have said it yourself, she wants to broaden her horizons.
I did'nt think to mention it, but she told me she had been single for 2 years, Doubt that helps matters.
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blueriver30: I believe she wants to play the field and thats okay. Just be her friend and maybe you are what she is looking for afterall
I don't know.
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Wantedman:
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or?
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or?
I think it sounds like she wants to take her time and see what's out there. If you're that interested in her, keep in touch, but give her space...you've a better chance doing that then you do pushing the issue or totally leaving her alone (which would lead her to think you hadn't really been interested after all).
So...lay back and take it easy for a bit. If you can't, and you need a commitment right from the start, then obviously she's not the right one for you right now because she's not at the same place, and you need to find someone who is there.
Good luck either way.
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I like to play the field, short-stop perferably, you know where all the action is, but they seem to think I'm out in left field instead...
sorry guy just going off the headline...
sorry guy just going off the headline...
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Quite frankly, most persons on dating sites play the field. Its hard to take them seriously, they say one thing in their profile, and do something else, i.e. u and someone may be dating, but they are still on site looking. I think they probably become addicted to logining to see who is seeking them, and replying in return. Very few people are honest enough to say that they are seeing other people.
I do know of a man however, on this site who I contacted and he was honest enough to say that he dates multiple people. I appreciated his honesty and we are still friends.
I do know of a man however, on this site who I contacted and he was honest enough to say that he dates multiple people. I appreciated his honesty and we are still friends.
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Well my opinion is this, If your going to play the field then you your obviously not into the person you have supposedly made a connection with. It defeats the purpose of trying to work on the new found "romance". When I'm looking and have made a connection, why should I bother to keep looking? Whats so wrong with evolving a potential good relationship?
I think I'm going to go by this....
"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option...."
I don't feel I deserve to have to sit on the side lines while she needs to keep fishing, even if it is just for friends. I'm past the playing games part. Either I'm "wanted" or not. I don't want to waste my time.
I think I'm going to go by this....
"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option...."
I don't feel I deserve to have to sit on the side lines while she needs to keep fishing, even if it is just for friends. I'm past the playing games part. Either I'm "wanted" or not. I don't want to waste my time.
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Wantedman: Well my opinion is this, If your going to play the field then you your obviously not into the person you have supposedly made a connection with. It defeats the purpose of trying to work on the new found "romance". When I'm looking and have made a connection, why should I bother to keep looking? Whats so wrong with evolving a potential good relationship?
I think I'm going to go by this....
"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option...."
I don't feel I deserve to have to sit on the side lines while she needs to keep fishing, even if it is just for friends. I'm past the playing games part. Either I'm "wanted" or not. I don't want to waste my time.
I think I'm going to go by this....
"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option...."
I don't feel I deserve to have to sit on the side lines while she needs to keep fishing, even if it is just for friends. I'm past the playing games part. Either I'm "wanted" or not. I don't want to waste my time.
Well unfortunately a lot of people forget...that's what dating is and it's not a crime to date more than one person...that's how people get to know each other and decide if they indeed want to go to the next step....not all people date more than one person at a time...but neither should they be condemned as game players because they do....that's the dating game...and how it's played...so if you don't condone that...then yes definitely move on...but without condemnation...
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Wantedman: I'm kinda annoyed here...
I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later.
That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
I'm not sure what to think this.
Dude cut your losses. A lot of folks want to go for the BBD the bigger better deal. They want to date you, but they want to date other people to see if they like them better... than they like you. I'm telling you if it is not okay with you... walk away.I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later.
That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
I'm not sure what to think this.
Investing your feelings in someone that does not want you is wasting your time.
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Wantedman: Well my opinion is this, If your going to play the field then you your obviously not into the person you have supposedly made a connection with. It defeats the purpose of trying to work on the new found "romance". When I'm looking and have made a connection, why should I bother to keep looking? Whats so wrong with evolving a potential good relationship?
I think I'm going to go by this....
"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option...."
I don't feel I deserve to have to sit on the side lines while she needs to keep fishing, even if it is just for friends. I'm past the playing games part. Either I'm "wanted" or not. I don't want to waste my time.
I think I'm going to go by this....
"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option...."
I don't feel I deserve to have to sit on the side lines while she needs to keep fishing, even if it is just for friends. I'm past the playing games part. Either I'm "wanted" or not. I don't want to waste my time.
I suggest you re-read what you have posted here and re-assess whether those thoughts and feelings realistically equate to someone who's company you shared for just 2 hours?
Take heed of what Druidess said, in particular keeping in touch but give her space......
Wise words indeed, good luck!!
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Wantedman: I'm kinda annoyed here...
I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later.
That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
I'm not sure what to think this.
I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later.
That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
I'm not sure what to think this.
So what are you going to do? Forget about it and move on. Maybe she wants to see if you think she is worth chasing. Don't blow up your bridge. You may want to cross it later.
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Wantedman: I'm kinda annoyed here...
I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later.
That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
I'm not sure what to think this.
I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later.
That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
I'm not sure what to think this.
First dead give-away is the hair twirling she did when you met her ........... always a bad sign of dis-interest or boredome
And her reply back to shoud have put the frosting on your cake - obviously she isn't into you and wants to let you down easily.
My advice would be to discontinue any attempt to contact her and let her be. If she is truly interested in you , she'll contact you , then you can carefully go about meeting her again for re-re-evaluation.
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She wants to take a step back and focus on her trip. Shes going on a cruise for a week. She said she is just making friends on the site.
So I told her that she has my number and to give me a call whenever, But I don't plan to wait forever. Perhaps not the best thing to say but I could'nt think of anything else. Basically I left it up to her to decide.
But I also decided not to stop looking elsewhere just incase I don't ever hear from her again.
Other then that I'm not contacting her. Time to play hard to get I suppose. lol
So I told her that she has my number and to give me a call whenever, But I don't plan to wait forever. Perhaps not the best thing to say but I could'nt think of anything else. Basically I left it up to her to decide.
But I also decided not to stop looking elsewhere just incase I don't ever hear from her again.
Other then that I'm not contacting her. Time to play hard to get I suppose. lol
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i agree with wanted man.
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jvaski: First dead give-away is the hair twirling she did when you met her ........... always a bad sign of dis-interest or boredome
And her reply back to shoud have put the frosting on your cake - obviously she isn't into you and wants to let you down easily.
My advice would be to discontinue any attempt to contact her and let her be. If she is truly interested in you , she'll contact you , then you can carefully go about meeting her again for re-re-evaluation.
And her reply back to shoud have put the frosting on your cake - obviously she isn't into you and wants to let you down easily.
My advice would be to discontinue any attempt to contact her and let her be. If she is truly interested in you , she'll contact you , then you can carefully go about meeting her again for re-re-evaluation.
I agree with jvaski....from a woman's point of view...she ain't that into you....if she was ...she wouldn't keep her options open...and tell you about it!!!!! Her way saying in a so called nice way...she wants to see what else is out there! Just my perspective on it!
Dating is like a process of elimination....filtering out ..who fits with you and who doesn't. It is about finding YOUR mate...not fitting into hers.
Don't take it too much to heart....the woman for you will be out there...don't lose heart and keep dating !!!!
You don't want someone who doesn't want you...I personally wouldn't give her the time of day! She should have been straight up with you sooner than later...not leaving you confused and wondering..wasting your time and energies...move on...she doesn't deserve you!
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Dating requires thick skin.
Never go on a first date assuming there's some kind of commitment involved.
I've been crapped on several times. I don't waste my time thinking about it, I just move on.
Just because a persons profile says they want 'longterm' doesn't mean they want it with YOU.
The thing I hate most about internet dating is a man can look good on paper, but I meet him and there's no attraction.
Never go on a first date assuming there's some kind of commitment involved.
I've been crapped on several times. I don't waste my time thinking about it, I just move on.
Just because a persons profile says they want 'longterm' doesn't mean they want it with YOU.
The thing I hate most about internet dating is a man can look good on paper, but I meet him and there's no attraction.
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fireheart35: I agree with jvaski....from a woman's point of view...she ain't that into you....if she was ...she wouldn't keep her options open...and tell you about it!!!!! Her way saying in a so called nice way...she wants to see what else is out there! Just my perspective on it!
Dating is like a process of elimination....filtering out ..who fits with you and who doesn't. It is about finding YOUR mate...not fitting into hers.
Don't take it too much to heart....the woman for you will be out there...don't lose heart and keep dating !!!!
You don't want someone who doesn't want you...I personally wouldn't give her the time of day! She should have been straight up with you sooner than later...not leaving you confused and wondering..wasting your time and energies...move on...she doesn't deserve you!
Dating is like a process of elimination....filtering out ..who fits with you and who doesn't. It is about finding YOUR mate...not fitting into hers.
Don't take it too much to heart....the woman for you will be out there...don't lose heart and keep dating !!!!
You don't want someone who doesn't want you...I personally wouldn't give her the time of day! She should have been straight up with you sooner than later...not leaving you confused and wondering..wasting your time and energies...move on...she doesn't deserve you!
....my god, youre tough.....
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TroyBoy: ....my god, youre tough.....
Hi Troy! hahahahha
oh come on...you know I am not THAT tough! hahahha
you know that thing...leaving things unsaid...hummm
Expand dear! If it going to hurt ..respond in my e-mail box...hahha
In all love,
Fireheart!
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I met this lady from another dating site, and online and over the phone we seemed to hit it off great!, We have alot in common, and she seemed generally interested in me. So we made arrangements to meet at a pub and talk. Well she did most of the talking. There was alot of eye contact and she also did play with her hair a bit. To me it was signs that she was into me. So we parted ways after about being there for 2hours. There was no kiss, but a nice hug and the promise of calling me later.
That night no call, she apparently was invited by her neighbour out for dinner. Saturday went by and no call but I knew this because she went skiing. Early in the afternoon I texted her a "hello" and no reply.
I checked on the dating site today and notice she had longed on 2hours previous from when I was on. So I messaged her basically asking what was up and asked if she wanted to see me again? Part of her reply was about her ski trip. Then I came to this...
"I did enjoy our meeting and do think you're a nice guy but i want to step back a bit because i realize i have alot going on before i go on my trip. There is no one else but i am starting to get some friends on here and will not limit myself."
To me that reads "your ok but I want to play the field see what else is out there". Am I wrong here or? I also have a feeling that this is a lost cause as well... or?
I'm not sure what to think this.