Since this is a dating site, and all come from a myriad of experiences with online dating, I want to know what you consider a red flag, or what concerns you when talking with a prospective match?
I will go first.
1 - When I read a profile, if it is laden with profanities or is not written with coherent thought, that is a red flag to me.
2 - if someone is clearly outside of my preferences
3 - If they want to go to email too quickly - sometimes even in the initial mail they send on the site.
They disclose their phone number in the initial email. Yeah, right, dude, I am going to call you just because you sent me an email...... Poor English, numerous typos, and grammatical errors. HUGE RED FLAGS
They inform me in their initial email, in very confusing English, that as they were looking at profiles mine caught their eye because the beauty of my soul shone out through my picture, and they know that they have found their soul mate in me because God has guided them to me, and my beauty could cause a car accident (yes, I really got that one )...please email them immediately at xxxxx@yahoo.com.
I especially love it when their name is James, but their email addy is stevenjones@xxxxx.com.
Those kind of emails are definitely my red flags...oh, and when any email to "get to know me better" and email them at xxxxxx@yahoo.com comes in, especially from someone in their 20's.
No offense to the non-scammers from these countries, but also if they want to know if I want a friend and are from Iran, India, Pakistan...all so far have immediately disappeared when I said absolutely, but that I was definitely only interested in friendship, for I wouldn't consider an international romance.
Profiles that whine about being hurt in previous relationships. To me that's just a signal that they're hung up on the past and not ready to move on to a new relationship.
sxc666: Biggest Red Flag would be adults talking in that Gangster talk
Just banged up your profile, yo sound hawt babe. Hit me up and we can shizzle
Red Flag cant stand it.
I resent that... You just be jealous cuz I be talkin out ya league..
Red flags to me are well hell there never ending....
I look over every aspect of their profile, and see if I can find things that don't match up with their picture. for example that me42u guy, his profile said he was 6'0 but you could tell by the pics. that he wasn't any taller than 5'7 his backround walls were white and the wall had a sword or something on it. that told me it wasn't his house most likely an office or state building somewhere. Though he tried to talk gangsta I could tell by his capitalization and punctuation that it was a phoney act. He was also on the computer alot and at night, which that is when real gangsters make their money, then he was also up pretty early, most gangsters sleep til about noon..that is an example on one person I checked out recently, I analyze everyone...
I pay attention to the backround of people pics.
I pay attention to their threads and posts. are they attention hungry, are they high strung, do they stay mad and pick out certian posts of people who have argued with just to restart another when it is obviously uncalled for..
I could go on for hours.. I consider myself "fair minded" but am probably more aware then most.. I judge people VERY quickly, and my judgements are usually spot on
Feb 2, 2009 5:37 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
dillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK57 Threads2,697 Posts
dillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK2,697 posts
Moaners and complainers i despise so if i see that in a post i wont bother with the profile .Plus judgmental people again if i see it the forums first i wont reply to the mail .
The other day i was looking through the "who's online " saw a funny looking pic and took a closer look ............within an hour i had mail thanking me for doing so ......strange to me
Tater: I resent that... You just be jealous cuz I be talkin out ya league..
Red flags to me are well hell there never ending....
I look over every aspect of their profile, and see if I can find things that don't match up with their picture. for example that me42u guy, his profile said he was 6'0 but you could tell by the pics. that he wasn't any taller than 5'7 his backround walls were white and the wall had a sword or something on it. that told me it wasn't his house most likely an office or state building somewhere. Though he tried to talk gangsta I could tell by his capitalization and punctuation that it was a phoney act. He was also on the computer alot and at night, which that is when real gangsters make their money, then he was also up pretty early, most gangsters sleep til about noon..that is an example on one person I checked out recently, I analyze everyone...
I pay attention to the backround of people pics.
I pay attention to their threads and posts. are they attention hungry, are they high strung, do they stay mad and pick out certian posts of people who have argued with just to restart another when it is obviously uncalled for..
I could go on for hours.. I consider myself "fair minded" but am probably more aware then most.. I judge people VERY quickly, and my judgements are usually spot on
Looooooong profiles with "grocery list" of what they want and don't want. If I want to apply for a job...maybe...but heck, nobody's perfect! JMO.......
Arlene101Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada3,320 posts
Hugz_n_Kissez: The phone number and e-mail address in the first e-mail is the biggest red flag for me...fo shizzle....
Excactly!! and especially when they say "I love you" and I will make you happy. Heck, I am happpy living alone. I was more lonley when I was married. Sone DEMAND a respsonse and when that happens they get a good one from me, like, "you don't anything from me" and have a good life and then I block them. Hi Hugzy.
Arlene101: Excactly!! and especially when they say "I love you" and I will make you happy. Heck, I am happpy living alone. I was more lonley when I was married. Sone DEMAND a respsonse and when that happens they get a good one from me, like, "you don't anything from me" and have a good life and then I block them. Hi Hugzy.
I just don't answer them...I don't feel I have to explain myself to someone I don't know and have never even talked to before...and yep...I'm with you g/f...I'd rather be alone until the day I die if means living through another horrid relationship....
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I will go first.
1 - When I read a profile, if it is laden with profanities or is not written with coherent thought, that is a red flag to me.
2 - if someone is clearly outside of my preferences
3 - If they want to go to email too quickly - sometimes even in the initial mail they send on the site.
What can you add?