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Feb 2, 2009 5:03 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
DazzleYou
DazzleYouDazzleYouSeattle, WA, Washington USA39 Threads 1 Polls 836 Posts
Since this is a dating site, and all come from a myriad of experiences with online dating, I want to know what you consider a red flag, or what concerns you when talking with a prospective match?

I will go first.

1 - When I read a profile, if it is laden with profanities or is not written with coherent thought, that is a red flag to me.

2 - if someone is clearly outside of my preferences

3 - If they want to go to email too quickly - sometimes even in the initial mail they send on the site.

What can you add?
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Feb 2, 2009 5:08 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
Biggest Red Flag would be adults talking in that Gangster talk mumbling

Just banged up your profile, yo sound hawt babe. Hit me up and we can shizzle mumbling mumbling mumbling

Red Flag cant stand it.
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Feb 2, 2009 5:10 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
SexyAttorney
SexyAttorneySexyAttorneyClearwater, Florida USA25 Threads 976 Posts
They disclose their phone number in the initial email. Yeah, right, dude, I am going to call you just because you sent me an email......dunno
Poor English, numerous typos, and grammatical errors. HUGE RED FLAGS
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Feb 2, 2009 5:10 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada59 Threads 2 Polls 25,438 Posts
sxc666: Biggest Red Flag would be adults talking in that Gangster talk

Just banged up your profile, yo sound hawt babe. Hit me up and we can shizzle

Red Flag cant stand it.



The phone number and e-mail address in the first e-mail is the biggest red flag for me...fo shizzle....grin
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Feb 2, 2009 5:17 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
They inform me in their initial email, in very confusing English, that as they were looking at profiles mine caught their eye because the beauty of my soul shone out through my picture, and they know that they have found their soul mate in me because God has guided them to me, and my beauty could cause a car accident (yes, I really got that one laugh)...please email them immediately at xxxxx@yahoo.com.

I especially love it when their name is James, but their email addy is stevenjones@xxxxx.com.

Those kind of emails are definitely my red flags...oh, and when any email to "get to know me better" and email them at xxxxxx@yahoo.com comes in, especially from someone in their 20's.

No offense to the non-scammers from these countries, but also if they want to know if I want a friend and are from Iran, India, Pakistan...all so far have immediately disappeared when I said absolutely, but that I was definitely only interested in friendship, for I wouldn't consider an international romance.
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Feb 2, 2009 5:17 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
vinny1967
vinny1967vinny1967Dublin, Cork Ireland131 Threads 7 Polls 11,475 Posts
sxc666: I'm glad I wrote 'I put out first time everytime' then.


wink

Glad your out of solitary.........I only heard late and was goin to send you a pizza...........

But only if its worth it I read earlier...........uh oh

kiss
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Feb 2, 2009 5:19 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
lanabyte
lanabytelanabyteCharleston, West Virginia USA20 Threads 1 Polls 1,223 Posts
Profiles that whine about being hurt in previous relationships. To me that's just a signal that they're hung up on the past and not ready to move on to a new relationship. thumbs down
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Feb 2, 2009 5:22 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
mike69spain
mike69spainmike69spainAlmuñécar, Andalusia Spain34 Threads 6 Polls 4,110 Posts
Red flag for me is...

Well, CS is really a Red Flag for me, but it has it's reason. laugh

"Looking for friends" is great and even better when they stay true to that. I get annoyed when they does not.

wine
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Feb 2, 2009 5:24 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
mike69spain
mike69spainmike69spainAlmuñécar, Andalusia Spain34 Threads 6 Polls 4,110 Posts
sxc666: I'm glad I wrote 'I put out first time everytime' then.


Oh, damned... rolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 2, 2009 5:32 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
Tater
TaterTaterspringfield, Illinois USA45 Threads 3 Polls 3,326 Posts
sxc666: Biggest Red Flag would be adults talking in that Gangster talk

Just banged up your profile, yo sound hawt babe. Hit me up and we can shizzle

Red Flag cant stand it.



professor I resent that... You just be jealous cuz I be talkin out ya league..laugh

Red flags to me are well hell there never ending....

I look over every aspect of their profile, and see if I can find things that don't match up with their picture. for example that me42u guy, his profile said he was 6'0 but you could tell by the pics. that he wasn't any taller than 5'7 his backround walls were white and the wall had a sword or something on it. that told me it wasn't his house most likely an office or state building somewhere. Though he tried to talk gangsta I could tell by his capitalization and punctuation that it was a phoney act. He was also on the computer alot and at night, which that is when real gangsters make their money, then he was also up pretty early, most gangsters sleep til about noon..that is an example on one person I checked out recently, I analyze everyone...

I pay attention to the backround of people pics.

I pay attention to their threads and posts. are they attention hungry, are they high strung, do they stay mad and pick out certian posts of people who have argued with just to restart another when it is obviously uncalled for..

I could go on for hours.. I consider myself "fair minded" but am probably more aware then most.. I judge people VERY quickly, and my judgements are usually spot onlaugh laugh devil
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Feb 2, 2009 5:37 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
dillydally
dillydallydillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK57 Threads 2,697 Posts
Moaners and complainers i despise so if i see that in a post i wont bother with the profile .Plus judgmental people again if i see it the forums first i wont reply to the mail .




The other day i was looking through the "who's online " saw a funny looking pic and took a closer look ............within an hour i had mail thanking me for doing so ......strange to me roll eyes
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Feb 2, 2009 5:37 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
lanabyte
lanabytelanabyteCharleston, West Virginia USA20 Threads 1 Polls 1,223 Posts
Tater: I resent that... You just be jealous cuz I be talkin out ya league..

Red flags to me are well hell there never ending....

I look over every aspect of their profile, and see if I can find things that don't match up with their picture. for example that me42u guy, his profile said he was 6'0 but you could tell by the pics. that he wasn't any taller than 5'7 his backround walls were white and the wall had a sword or something on it. that told me it wasn't his house most likely an office or state building somewhere. Though he tried to talk gangsta I could tell by his capitalization and punctuation that it was a phoney act. He was also on the computer alot and at night, which that is when real gangsters make their money, then he was also up pretty early, most gangsters sleep til about noon..that is an example on one person I checked out recently, I analyze everyone...

I pay attention to the backround of people pics.

I pay attention to their threads and posts. are they attention hungry, are they high strung, do they stay mad and pick out certian posts of people who have argued with just to restart another when it is obviously uncalled for..

I could go on for hours.. I consider myself "fair minded" but am probably more aware then most.. I judge people VERY quickly, and my judgements are usually spot on

Have you ever thought about being a detective

laugh
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Feb 2, 2009 5:38 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
Charli15695
Charli15695Charli15695Dallas, Texas USA22 Threads 1,223 Posts
Looooooong profiles with "grocery list" of what they want and don't want. If I want to apply for a job...maybe...but heck, nobody's perfect! JMO.......rolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 2, 2009 5:52 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
Arlene101
Arlene101Arlene101Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada9 Threads 3,320 Posts
Hugz_n_Kissez: The phone number and e-mail address in the first e-mail is the biggest red flag for me...fo shizzle....

Excactly!! and especially when they say "I love you" and I will make you happy.doh Heck, I am happpy living alone. I was more lonley when I was married. Sone DEMAND a respsonse and when that happens they get a good one from me, like, "you don't anything from me" and have a good life and then I block them.wave hug Hi Hugzy.
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Feb 2, 2009 5:54 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
Tater
TaterTaterspringfield, Illinois USA45 Threads 3 Polls 3,326 Posts
lanabyte: Have you ever thought about being a


NO not hardlylaugh Them crooked SOB's is why I'm as aware as I am..laugh
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Feb 2, 2009 5:54 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
Scubadiva
ScubadivaScubadivaNew Jersey, USA106 Threads 11 Polls 2,689 Posts
1. When they claim to have x,y,z degree or job, you ask them some probing questions and their English suddenly becomes really, really bad.

2. They claim one thing in the mail and the profile says something else.

3. When they get all lovey dovey and use terms like "babe, dear, sweetie, etc." ... good grief...
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Feb 2, 2009 5:57 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada59 Threads 2 Polls 25,438 Posts
Arlene101: Excactly!! and especially when they say "I love you" and I will make you happy. Heck, I am happpy living alone. I was more lonley when I was married. Sone DEMAND a respsonse and when that happens they get a good one from me, like, "you don't anything from me" and have a good life and then I block them. Hi Hugzy.



I just don't answer them...I don't feel I have to explain myself to someone I don't know and have never even talked to before...and yep...I'm with you g/f...I'd rather be alone until the day I die if means living through another horrid relationship....wave wink hug kiss hug heart beating
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Feb 2, 2009 6:13 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
I am an actual victim of a scammer....uh oh

After contacting each other through e-mails and IM, there comes a time when you should exchange phone numbers.

If someone refuses to give you their phone number even though you have established you like each other and want to date, then that is a huge red flag.

If they insist on only calling you, then that is a red flag.

If they give you a phone number but never answer their phone and you get voice mail everytime, red flags are flying.

If you mail them cards for holidays or those "I miss you" cards and receive nothing back in the mail, red flag warning.

I have experienced all of the above...thumbs down
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Feb 2, 2009 6:15 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
dillydally
dillydallydillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK57 Threads 2,697 Posts
mbcasey: I am an actual victim of a scammer....

After contacting each other through e-mails and IM, there comes a time when you should exchange phone numbers.

If someone refuses to give you their phone number even though you have established you like each other and want to date, then that is a huge red flag.

If they insist on only calling you, then that is a red flag.

If they give you a phone number but never answer their phone and you get voice mail everytime, red flags are flying.

If you mail them cards for holidays or those "I miss you" cards and receive nothing back in the mail, red flag warning.

I have experienced all of the above...




Love hug lips comfort
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Feb 2, 2009 6:16 PM CST A Constructive post, I hope
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
dillydally: Love


Hi Farley...wave hug
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