Are our hearts really worth risking?? ( Archived) (59)

Feb 5, 2009 10:37 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
lucky200761
lucky200761lucky200761Blue Springs, Missouri USA38 Threads 5 Polls 569 Posts
I've been told by several people that to find love(or happiness) you have to risk getting hurt by putting it out there; is that really a smart thing to do. The one thing that holds our beliefs, our joys, and who we truly are as person, should be put at risk for finding someone else...

...At what price do we pay for having the one thing that can be truly be called our own, sold and exchanged repeatedly just to find a sense of worth, companionship, and happiness?

By the time we find that one person, how does ones heart look like? is it torn and repeatedly reglued? is it so bruised and beaten that it has lost it's life?

MY point....Can we really give who really are completely, after giving it to many others in trial and error? It is one thing to open your hearts to love one another, but it is something completely different to risk your whole being in attempt to find a mate...

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.(Proverbs 4:23)
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Feb 5, 2009 10:42 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
hopefloats
hopefloatshopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 Posts
VERY good food for thought Lucky! Thank you for this post. And true it is!gift


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Merky
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Feb 5, 2009 10:45 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
lucky200761
lucky200761lucky200761Blue Springs, Missouri USA38 Threads 5 Polls 569 Posts
hopefloats: VERY good food for thought Lucky! Thank you for this post. And true it is!
Merky


hopefloatspointing wave ....thanks!hug
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Feb 5, 2009 10:48 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
I think we always will because being loved is a basic need. Even when it doesn't work we have always gained something from the experience. We have all been hurt and i'm sure at sometime hurt others even if unintentionally. There's another saying, 'Better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all'
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Feb 5, 2009 10:52 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
I know, and I wish I could guard my heart sometimes... but it is hard.
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Feb 5, 2009 10:52 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
lucky200761
lucky200761lucky200761Blue Springs, Missouri USA38 Threads 5 Polls 569 Posts
morgan5: I think we always will because being loved is a basic need. Even when it doesn't work we have always gained something from the experience. We have all been hurt and i'm sure at sometime hurt others even if unintentionally. There's another saying, 'Better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all'


thumbs up true...but when does that become excessive? when does one truly find out that instead of growth they thought they've been experiencing turn into self-mutilation?
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Feb 5, 2009 10:56 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
laura225
laura225laura225Somewhere, New York USA3 Threads 2 Polls 1,792 Posts
You don't sell and don't exchange your heart repeatedly just to find a sense of worth, companionship, and happiness.

You ego - maybe, but not the heart.

I know I do not, so my answer is 'yes' to find something worthy it's so worth it

if you know what integrity is... cheers

lucky200761: I've been told by several people that to find love(or happiness) you have to risk getting hurt by putting it out there; is that really a smart thing to do. The one thing that holds our beliefs, our joys, and who we truly are as person, should be put at risk for finding someone else...

...At what price do we pay for having the one thing that can be truly be called our own, sold and exchanged repeatedly just to find a sense of worth, companionship, and happiness?

By the time we find that one person, how does ones heart look like? is it torn and repeatedly reglued? is it so bruised and beaten that it has lost it's life?

MY point....Can we really give who really are completely, after giving it to many others in trial and error? It is one thing to open your hearts to love one another, but it is something completely different to risk your whole being in attempt to find a mate...

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.(Proverbs 4:23)
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Feb 5, 2009 10:57 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
lucky200761
lucky200761lucky200761Blue Springs, Missouri USA38 Threads 5 Polls 569 Posts
pubwrite08: I know, and I wish I could guard my heart sometimes... but it is hard.

I knowhandshake ....I think it depends on each person and how much they value themselves and their belief systems...wave
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Feb 5, 2009 10:57 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
Polarbutterfly
PolarbutterflyPolarbutterflyunknown, Northwest Territories Canada115 Threads 9,486 Posts
"I've had my heart broken and,it hurt like hell...still does.
But,with time and a strong will,I've become a stronger and a more confident woman because of the heartache.So,I shall put
my worries and woes behind me and,live for the moment."



teddybear
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Feb 5, 2009 10:57 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
lucky200761: true...but when does that become excessive? when does one truly find out that instead of growth they thought they've been experiencing turn into self-mutilation?
Don't think there is an easy answer, i have had some disasterous relationships and thought i would never get over the pain i felt, but with time i did and was able to reflect and draw on the positives the relationship had given me. Affairs of the heart are never easy hug
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Feb 5, 2009 10:58 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
curvychick
curvychickcurvychickToronto, Ontario Canada14 Threads 1 Polls 253 Posts
lucky200761: true...but when does that become excessive? when does one truly find out that instead of growth they thought they've been experiencing turn into self-mutilation?


you must be the ONE the know when enough is enough.....I think that many are AFRAID to let know, with the knowing that they may, once again, be alone...
but I must agreee with one of the posts here...

better to have loved and lost rather then never love before...

[i]I have no regrets about the persons that I have loved....I just see it as a stepping stone to finding the ONE TRUE LOVE that will have my love unconditionally, as he will to me...

Don't despair.....LOVE WILL FIND IT'S WAY....

cheers to you!

Curvy cheering
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Feb 5, 2009 11:00 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
that scripture is very limited taken out of context

its referring to whats in a mans heart manifests in everything he does
so if your nature is foul it will be seen

if you are properly and lovingly and service focused-as charged by god-
(since you brought god into it) then our life will be a reflection of that

what you get out is relative to what you put in

you reap what you sow

guard your mind (the helmet), guard your mouth etc.


hi lucky-saw you gone i was bummed


yaaaaaaaay your here!!wave
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Feb 5, 2009 11:02 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
lucky200761
lucky200761lucky200761Blue Springs, Missouri USA38 Threads 5 Polls 569 Posts
laura225: You don't sell and don't exchange your heart repeatedly just to find a sense of worth, companionship, and happiness.

You ego - maybe, but not the heart.

I know I do not, so my answer is 'yes' to find something worthy it's so worth it

if you know what integrity is...


Your ego stems from your brain, but your heart is what makes the decisions for that brain...understand?
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Feb 5, 2009 11:02 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
oh also i want to say

its not about risk

if we are chaste we are slow to get too close
we have a connection that guides us (holy spirit) and when we are disciplined in maintaining that relationship and spending time in our prayer closet (metaphor/scriptural)

if we are seeking gods will we must only trust

if we do our part and listen we must only trust-there is minimal risk
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Feb 5, 2009 11:03 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
a feeling of risk is a feeling of fear
fear is not of god

if youre fearful dont move forward
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Feb 5, 2009 11:05 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
lucky200761: Your ego stems from your brain, but your heart is what makes the decisions for that brain...understand?


youre leaving out the renewing of your mind ...

and your head needs to have dominion over your heart
emotions can be a snare and lead us astray from what is right sometimes

the hart is not qualified to rule until one has been tested molded fired
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Feb 5, 2009 11:07 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
human emotions make alot of decisions based on the wrong factors

what will 'they' say?
what will 'they' think?

what will happen if i do?
what will happen if i dont?

that kind of stuff is fearful and motivating

its not a trusting state of mind
and if the mind is anxious the heart is blocked

we know what is right
but we often become more concerned about what people think than what we know is right
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Feb 5, 2009 11:09 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
laura225
laura225laura225Somewhere, New York USA3 Threads 2 Polls 1,792 Posts
lucky200761: Your ego stems from your brain, but your heart is what makes the decisions for that brain...understand?


nope, I do not... sad

...my heart does not make this "decisions for that brain" repeatedly

confused

Are you saying every time your ego is hurt, it brakes your heart? If that's the case - definitely not worth it.



teddybear
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Feb 5, 2009 11:10 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
lucky200761: Your ego stems from your brain, but your heart is what makes the decisions for that brain...understand?


ego stems from fear and pride
many would say they are of the heart since they are emotional

feelings arent facts

both in right proportion, after some firing make a good source to draw from-one cannot serve dual purpose
we must be single minded

ok im done
signing out

sorry to bombard if i did

glad to see you guyhandshake
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Feb 5, 2009 11:15 AM CST Are our hearts really worth risking??
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
you gamble with your life everyday....giving you heart is just another variation on a theme
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