Age, and getting set in our ways (104)
I won't settle for less should not be in the vocabulary of someone looking for love. Relationships are all about compromising. The reason people stay lonely and alone, is they are unwilling to compromise.
The older you get...the more compromising for health and just plain sanity. The moment I read "I'm worth it and I won't settle for less" in a profile...I go to the next one. All of us are worthy of all we can get, but most who want no compromise, want everything their way.
Notice, I didn't say settle for something you don't want...I simply said be willing to compromise. It doesn't make you a Democrat, just a sensible human being
The older you get...the more compromising for health and just plain sanity. The moment I read "I'm worth it and I won't settle for less" in a profile...I go to the next one. All of us are worthy of all we can get, but most who want no compromise, want everything their way.
Notice, I didn't say settle for something you don't want...I simply said be willing to compromise. It doesn't make you a Democrat, just a sensible human being
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Hi Hotrod, I sometimes think we get so mindser on what
we think we are looking for that we just will not take
that first step to talk to someone that maybe does not
fit what we are looking for. That may be the one we
need, if we just take a leap out of our comfort zone.
(JMO)
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sassy49senior: Hi Hotrod, I sometimes think we get so mindser on what
we think we are looking for that we just will not take
that first step to talk to someone that maybe does not
fit what we are looking for. That may be the one we
need, if we just take a leap out of our comfort zone.
(JMO)
we think we are looking for that we just will not take
that first step to talk to someone that maybe does not
fit what we are looking for. That may be the one we
need, if we just take a leap out of our comfort zone.
(JMO)
Ouch!
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pretzelman: I won't settle for less should not be in the vocabulary of someone looking for love. Relationships are all about compromising. The reason people stay lonely and alone, is they are unwilling to compromise.
The older you get...the more compromising for health and just plain sanity. The moment I read "I'm worth it and I won't settle for less" in a profile...I go to the next one. All of us are worthy of all we can get, but most who want no compromise, want everything their way.
Notice, I didn't say settle for something you don't want...I simply said be willing to compromise. It doesn't make you a Democrat, just a sensible human being
The older you get...the more compromising for health and just plain sanity. The moment I read "I'm worth it and I won't settle for less" in a profile...I go to the next one. All of us are worthy of all we can get, but most who want no compromise, want everything their way.
Notice, I didn't say settle for something you don't want...I simply said be willing to compromise. It doesn't make you a Democrat, just a sensible human being
Good Point , Lets just use Smoking as an example, I see many profiles says Non smokers only , and they WONT compromise on that , Are they loosing a chance at the love of a lifetime , because say 1/2 of the population smokes ? Now only having a 50% Chance, Then they wont accept someone with kids , now it 75% ruled out ! Then finding the right one out of the 25% left, Just an example
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HotrodLarrys: As i was younger, and less experienced in life and relationships It was Easier to find a match! Now added age, and wisdom, we dont do the thing we used to fall for, I also see many here that are the same way, Experienced, hurt, lonely and wont settle for less! At what point do we become incompatible, and wont find love because of it. Open for comments, opinions and discussions, And Happy Valentines day to all the Ladies Guys too Maybe this will help us find our Valentine
I think in this day and age expectations have become unrealistic, and all the more exacerbated by this particular medium, with pre-determined requirements whereby anything less AT ALL, just will not do!
Without flexibility, being more accomodating and tolerant, there will not be much hope, I'm afraid! In short, lower your sights....
No, not by some crazy fluke, a sheer stroke of luck or the cards just falling right, will you end up with a stunning cat-walk model or Orlando Bloom..... realise it and realise that an ordinary human being, as in ORDINARY, is what one will get.
"Ordinary" can, and often does, prove to be very special!!
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HotrodLarrys: As i was younger, and less experienced in life and relationships It was Easier to find a match! Now added age, and wisdom, we dont do the thing we used to fall for, I also see many here that are the same way, Experienced, hurt, lonely and wont settle for less! At what point do we become incompatible, and wont find love because of it. Open for comments, opinions and discussions, And Happy Valentines day to all the Ladies Guys too Maybe this will help us find our Valentine
The problem is not only your age, the age is not the problem, and people with every age find someone’s that matches them best.
The problem with you personally is that you are a negative person, and silly. Poor the woman who's going to be with you, you have a narrow view and see things only from your angle not the others view which means that you are a close minded person, who's paranoid and scared from a mouse. Is honest? And next time don't judge people from the first sight. This is because you had insulted me from the other thread. Now get it back.
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In as much as we won't go for some things now, we open up to possibilities of accepting other things that, when we were younger, we were too fussy about. And IMO, the things we like now seem so much better to accept in someone. It just seems to make for selecting more of the "right person". 
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HotrodLarrys: As i was younger, and less experienced in life and relationships It was Easier to find a match! Now added age, and wisdom, we dont do the thing we used to fall for, I also see many here that are the same way, Experienced, hurt, lonely and wont settle for less! At what point do we become incompatible, and wont find love because of it. Open for comments, opinions and discussions, And Happy Valentines day to all the Ladies Guys too Maybe this will help us find our Valentine
I already feel that I'm incompatible sometimes...I'm only 30...
I think the wiser a man gets the more we realize, alot of the women out there, aren't worth giving up our peace of mind for... But there are some
I put that last bit in there so the ladies don't try and kill me now...
so
Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.....
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sassy49senior: Hi Hotrod, I sometimes think we get so mindser on what
we think we are looking for that we just will not take
that first step to talk to someone that maybe does not
fit what we are looking for. That may be the one we
need, if we just take a leap out of our comfort zone.
(JMO)
we think we are looking for that we just will not take
that first step to talk to someone that maybe does not
fit what we are looking for. That may be the one we
need, if we just take a leap out of our comfort zone.
(JMO)
I am not directing all this to me, but the whole population of people on here, and life is a compromise on many things , yes , But just looking at my choices, as to be compatible with.
Maybe i should have said ,look at 10 peopls profiles, and see how many you are compatible with, so you e-mail the best one and it says ,Must live within 300 miles to SORRY
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Mankind_: The problem is not only your age, the age is not the problem, and people with every age find someone’s that matches them best.
The problem with you personally is that you are a negative person, and silly. Poor the woman who's going to be with you, you have a narrow view and see things only from your angle not the others view which means that you are a close minded person, who's paranoid and scared from a mouse. Is honest? And next time don't judge people from the first sight. This is because you had insulted me from the other thread. Now get it back.
The problem with you personally is that you are a negative person, and silly. Poor the woman who's going to be with you, you have a narrow view and see things only from your angle not the others view which means that you are a close minded person, who's paranoid and scared from a mouse. Is honest? And next time don't judge people from the first sight. This is because you had insulted me from the other thread. Now get it back.
This was uncalled for...sorry!
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HotrodLarrys: As i was younger, and less experienced in life and relationships It was Easier to find a match! Now added age, and wisdom, we dont do the thing we used to fall for, I also see many here that are the same way, Experienced, hurt, lonely and wont settle for less! At what point do we become incompatible, and wont find love because of it. Open for comments, opinions and discussions, And Happy Valentines day to all the Ladies Guys too Maybe this will help us find our Valentine
I´m not hurting at the moment, nor lonely, but I do think that as we age, we may build walls around ourselves for many reasons.
Wisdom gained from past experience is one reason, but even that is not only confined to mature people. There are one or two very young members here who display far more widom than many others here old enough to be their parents, or even grandparents!
Another reason for some may be that settling for second best is just not worth it, however needy for a significant other one may be.
I do find that the longer I remain single, the easier and more enjoyable it becomes, that is probably due to the fact that I married very young and stayed married for 25 years, the single life is still a novelty for me, so will not apply to others.
Also, and more importantly, because I have a life and fulfilling work outside CS....that´s the key...in my case anyway.
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Mankind_: The problem is not only your age, the age is not the problem, and people with every age find someone’s that matches them best.
The problem with you personally is that you are a negative person, and silly. Poor the woman who's going to be with you, you have a narrow view and see things only from your angle not the others view which means that you are a close minded person, who's paranoid and scared from a mouse. Is honest? And next time don't judge people from the first sight. This is because you had insulted me from the other thread. Now get it back.
The problem with you personally is that you are a negative person, and silly. Poor the woman who's going to be with you, you have a narrow view and see things only from your angle not the others view which means that you are a close minded person, who's paranoid and scared from a mouse. Is honest? And next time don't judge people from the first sight. This is because you had insulted me from the other thread. Now get it back.
No i dont think you are compatible with me, sorry way too wise for your type
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HotrodLarrys: I am not directing all this to me, but the whole population of people on here, and life is a compromise on many things , yes , But just looking at my choices, as to be compatible with.
Maybe i should have said ,look at 10 peopls profiles, and see how many you are compatible with, so you e-mail the best one and it says ,Must live within 300 miles to SORRY
Maybe i should have said ,look at 10 peopls profiles, and see how many you are compatible with, so you e-mail the best one and it says ,Must live within 300 miles to SORRY
I am also sorry I did not make myself more clear. I also
was generalizing with my answer. Yet I was looking at
myself as one who is sometimes afraid to step away from
where I feel comfortable. Because of my fear so to
speak I lost someone I am very fond of. As for myself
I will take those wee baby steps into something I may
feel is not quite what I want.
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Well, I also hoped for things being a bit easier on here as i found that dating is a pain in the neck if you work hard, don't hang out in bars every night, the DT hotspots ect.
Lets face it, when you're a certain age you have expectations that we gathered throughout our lifes. If you honest, do the best you can every day and keep an open mind you will find someone that you're compatible with AGAIN. Good luck to all of us and happy Valentines Day to all.
Amanda
Lets face it, when you're a certain age you have expectations that we gathered throughout our lifes. If you honest, do the best you can every day and keep an open mind you will find someone that you're compatible with AGAIN. Good luck to all of us and happy Valentines Day to all.
Amanda
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HotrodLarrys: As i was younger, and less experienced in life and relationships It was Easier to find a match! Now added age, and wisdom, we dont do the thing we used to fall for, I also see many here that are the same way, Experienced, hurt, lonely and wont settle for less! At what point do we become incompatible, and wont find love because of it. Open for comments, opinions and discussions, And Happy Valentines day to all the Ladies Guys too Maybe this will help us find our Valentine
"Only fools rush in." We are no longer foolish. Well some of us anyway.
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Jan1305: I´m not hurting at the moment, nor lonely, but I do think that as we age, we may build walls around ourselves for many reasons.
Wisdom gained from past experience is one reason, but even that is not only confined to mature people. There are one or two very young members here who display far more widom than many others here old enough to be their parents, or even grandparents!
Another reason for some may be that settling for second best is just not worth it, however needy for a significant other one may be.
I do find that the longer I remain single, the easier and more enjoyable it becomes, that is probably due to the fact that I married very young and stayed married for 25 years, the single life is still a novelty for me, so will not apply to others.
Also, and more importantly, because I have a life and fulfilling work outside CS....that´s the key...in my case anyway.
Wisdom gained from past experience is one reason, but even that is not only confined to mature people. There are one or two very young members here who display far more widom than many others here old enough to be their parents, or even grandparents!
Another reason for some may be that settling for second best is just not worth it, however needy for a significant other one may be.
I do find that the longer I remain single, the easier and more enjoyable it becomes, that is probably due to the fact that I married very young and stayed married for 25 years, the single life is still a novelty for me, so will not apply to others.
Also, and more importantly, because I have a life and fulfilling work outside CS....that´s the key...in my case anyway.
Thank for your comments , and agree wisdom can come in all ages,
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Ok, it would be nice to have someone special in my life, but not at the cost of making life less enjoyable. What I look for in a potential partner is someone who will enhance my life rather than detract from it... I don´t think that´s asking a lot.
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jbibiza: Ok, it would be nice to have someone special in my life, but not at the cost of making life less enjoyable. What I look for in a potential partner is someone who will enhance my life rather than detract from it... I don´t think that´s asking a lot.
Oooh I think it is jbibiza.
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