getting over ( Archived) (39)

My bf dumped me last Christmas, It was a relationship that started like a fairytale,thinking he is the one but then he changed his mind and ended it.I know deep down i have to get over him. I told myself its a new year, a new life.Everyday I struggle to get him out of my heart and mind but at the end of the day, when i go to bed, I still cry, asking myself what went wrong?Why he just fall out love like that?That he even didnt try to work it out?
I guess i dont really have a question here, just thinking why is it so hard to forget everything and just move on?How i wish that one day i will stop crying over it.I tried to be positive and tried my best to still believe in love but all the time i have been tested.

Is this a 'Sympathy' thread??, is that what you are looking for?, l bet you will get the whole crew weeping for you!.

Face facts..........if it dont work it dont work, at your age you should be big enough to realise this. Something ending up like 'we only stay together for the childrens sake', what a load of 'pony'.

Lastly, absolutely nothing personal or rascist but l had a lady from the Philipines contact me, CONTACT!!!,Bad word, contact!, even after 3 years and her knowing full well l dont want anything with her she still remembers to drop me emails, calls me, normally on Friday night and always makes comments to make me irritated with her. Change you thoughts on dating and relationships, face the truth 'work it out' is another 'Americanism', dont go there!!.

I am not here for sympathy just sharing my hurting heart in the broken hearts thread. As I have mentioned in my post i know i have to move on and iam facing the fact.I think in love there is no age that can make you wiser.any man or woman who falls in love can still get hurt no matter how old or young she is.I already realized my situation thats why i said i want to get over him.the only problem is its too hard for me.I post this forum to share my feelings which in a way made me feel better.

I guess your filipina exgf still contacts you because obviously she still loves you. too sad for her because after three years she still didnt move on.Thanks for telling me your story at least it gave me hope that iam not the worst coz I dont email or call my ex even i missed him so much and its only been less than a year since we broke up.In the day i am ok and only at nights i miss him and when i see couples..so i guess iam doing progress now, slowly but iam on the right track.hopefully it will be totally over.

believe me i want it over now..if there is only a medicine for it.

you need to move on, and find other things or dates to keep your mind off that, some things take a while, eventually as things wear off, and you replace it with something else ,you will be ok

thanks i will.
just that it makes it harder when most of my friends are either attached or married.no one to tag along when i want to hang out..wish i can go to a bar alone..i need all the guts to do it/.

I can understand that part of a troubled single life over there, when you can not go out on your own without being seen with suspicious eyes in your neighbourhood. And god forbid you would then meet a man, while you are out in club all by your self, the neighbours will start talking.

Since Quezon is a big place, why don't you set up a CS event among some fellow single girls there, and go out together?

You need to plant a plant in the forest with the longing you still feel buried with it in the ground. Take a deep breath and start summon your equals around you and make it happen.

Sitting here on CS and watching the world go by will bring no more than just another sulking hour.

That is definitely true..though i must admit iam hook with this forums..its kinda addicting.

Thanks for the suggestion, i was thinking of doing that too...maybe also do speed dating..hehehe.never did that before but maybe it will be fun to meet new people not only for bf but also new people..new single friends again..

never knew people could fall out of love my child hood sweetheart has been gone for 20 yrs an i still love her but you have to move on now i have found some one better i hope it gets better for you some good thing take time you will find someone that you will be well pleased with it is better now than later you have time to start over