Are the men/women who are online dating, really into finding someone? ( Archived) (33)

Frankly, I am not sure. But I have found that the games to be played by some of the members to be a bit irksome. "Who calls who first," and projection of their baggage and insecurities from previous relationships are two of my biggest problems.

Ladies, when you use the word "men" in a critical sentence, it usually a big warning light to us guys that you are overly burdened with excessive baggage. And yes, I would say that the same holds true for men that do the same thing!

Yet, still I search for "her..."

Absolutely! Just often the people I'm interested in meeting havn't been on in a year or more. But I have met three people through here, still searching for that one that can hook me though!

Hi I have only been on this for a few weeks but I have gotten very little responses...I am looking for someone who can be honest...trusting...and just want to share some time...has anyone found someone worth talking about or sharing your experience...

Most people on these sites do not even check out the profile once a picture is posted. They don't want to even get to know more about you. Some want you to instant message them on yahoo. I find people are in a big hurry to march down the aisle. The only worthwhile and lasting relationship is when two people get to know one another. No one knows where it leads.

Honesty and trust are the basis for a relationship.

What do you think...have you experienced the same!

Carmel

Wow I have got some messages. But not found anyone to meet yet.

diast]I've been wondering about that myself, when I reply back if I don't use the email given I hear nothing from them. I was ask why not a photo....I feel why? Is it all about what you look like? What is real?

I know what you mean, but I didn't answer the poll because I was wondering if the question was directed toward what my goal was or directed toward what I thought other people were doing on these dating sites? I'll answer it directly. I am looking for someone seriously while having very realistic expectations. I could be way off base and I only have 6 months experience with online dating, but I believe the problem lies with the fact women receive a ton of emails, winks, etc. vs. what men see. I know I have sent well over 200-300+ emails on various sites. Each email addressed things mentioned in their profile. These were not "canned" emails. I can count on my hands how many responses I have received. I think of myself as having a good foundation: an attractive guy, stable, good career, and house to myself. I think when one receives a lot of attention, the natural thing that happens is that it creates "value" and the bar of expectations is raised higher. The same as "offline" but much more exaggerated. It takes no confidence to approach a women "online" where it does "offline". Therefore someone who is average who receives a lot of attention may be setting that bar a little too high.
I have met one person online where we went out quite a few times over the course of a month. She approached me and I really wasn't interested but thought I would give it a shot anyway. We enjoyed the nights out but I knew it wasn't ever going to be a serious relationship and I let her know that and we still both enjoyed each others company.
Wow, that was much longer than I anticipated. Anyway, best of luck to all!!

drewmx5

I also have not met anyone who actually tells the truth about themself. Have not met any decent guys as well. I think all of the good ones are married and their wives are the lucky ones. We only get the rejects, none are really serious in wanting a real relationship. Dating sucks nowdays....no one is honest anymore..

I'm new to online dating, and have ran into a few skilled scammers. I've ran into some other sites (pay sites) and I haven't gotten anything real... I guess with the pay sites, if you don't pay, you get the fake profiles. Nice way for new online daters to find people.

I left for awhile, but figured I'd give it another shot.

I find most men are not serious about this process. I mean a written profile is like giving a guy an instruction manual of what a woman is about and what piques her interest. It is a statement of what is important to her and an honest declaration of what she is seeking.
I find that my profile is rarely read and it is so obvious that is it laughable. No men so far have actually commented on ANYTHING I wrote in my profile. When are guys going to get it through their heads that you need to say specifics about what a woman said that you relate to so she knows when she reads your intro email that you actually bothered to read what she wrote?
I tire of the men who immediately want to make excuses for why you need to contact them at their personal email address. I am in no hurry so if they are they can just speed on by. So I would have to say I don't think the large majority are serious.

I know I have sent well over 200-300+ emails on various sites. Each email addressed things mentioned in their profile. These were not "canned" emails. I can count on my hands how many responses I have received.

I can certainly relate to the portion quoted above

Maybe you were not what they were looking for

Some people have their mind set on 'ideals'
and until they find them
they just use people in between.

I am seriously hoping to find someone. I work 80-100 hours a week so its kinda hard to look around. This is the easiest way to me. I don't do the bar scene so that's out of the question.