how can you know if you can trust or believe people on this site? (21)
candaicewabasha, Minnesota USA5 Threads 7 PostsBasicly i've chatted with a few men on here but i'm basicly scared to actually really take them serious,because most will say they lost there wife in a car accident and thats just to many guys using that line,but then what if someone actually has lost his wife? i just dont know how to seriously take anyone serious,and another thing everyone lives so far away and says they have no problem relocating but how is that? especialy when they tell you they got this job or this buisness ,i mean it seems like a red flag to me.and if someone said give me your address i wanna send you a gift what would you say....basicly im not gonna give out my address like that im scared!!!! anyway what you think ladies anyone have these same thoughts? if so what did you do? and basicly some people have success storys do you believe them? im just wondering what are some red flaggs? help?
Go with your instinct, if you have any doubt, id say move on. dont talk to anyone who gives you their email address to talk. you can talk to them on this site, its safer plus you can report them if you need to.
Simpley: Go with your instinct, if you have any doubt, id say move on. dont talk to anyone who gives you their email address to talk. you can talk to them on this site, its safer plus you can report them if you need to.
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The scam is easily recognized before opening the message and most get taken in because didn't read the scam warning tab, profile, forum rule and help tabs on these pages.
*** "In order to understand mankind, we must look at the word itself, "mank" and "ind". What do these words mean? Maybe we'll never know." —Jack Handey
I agree you have to be very careful. people can say and be anything that they want on the internet and it may not be true. I would never give my address to someone I just met on line and i agree to just leave your job would be difficult especially if you've never met the person face to face.Quite a few married men I suspect go on these sites also. Just be careful and if it sounds to good to be true follow your instinct!
Yes it is hard to know who to trust, anyone wanting to go to a messenger site right away or wants personal information are usually scammers, stick to the dating website if you want to get to know someone. Time is the biggest factor and listening to what the other is saying, you can usually tell when someone is bsing you when thier story doesn't match up. I see the scammers are sinking to a all new low using widowed status to scam people, as a widower myself I think these are the worst kind of trash on this earth to be using the widower status. As for moving I would never move I have almost 27 years vested in a good job with a retirement (I hope) on the horizon, I would have to be insane to move :D
mostly by faith you believe people
but yes, the mark of a guy who's NOT a creeper(1) is he'll take it slow, most guys are afraid to admit they like a girl(2), so if he's just skirting around the edges of telling you he is in love with you, then trust him(3), if he busts in like a bull in a china shop(4) and orders to let you meet him, he's not sincere(5)
that's why, fortunately for me I'm a gentleman by second nature(6)
unfortunately for me, I'm also a hopeless romantic(7)
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but yes, the mark of a guy who's NOT a creeper(1) is he'll take it slow, most guys are afraid to admit they like a girl(2), so if he's just skirting around the edges of telling you he is in love with you, then trust him(3), if he busts in like a bull in a china shop(4) and orders to let you meet him, he's not sincere(5)
that's why, fortunately for me I'm a gentleman by second nature(6)
unfortunately for me, I'm also a hopeless romantic(7)
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Trust no one and lock your windows and doors and make me a sandwich
It's hard to trust people. Even face to face. Scammers usually pick on desperate people. Me just having gotten a serious relationship would usually be a hard target. But I posted in my profile that I just want chat/email relationship. Another way to tell if someone is a likely scammer (if your honest with yourself) is, "Is this person too attractive to be talking to me?"... lets face it people are shallow, and looks are what people view first. I'm not very photogenic, but I'm not bad looking and have a rockin personality. So when I'm out meeting people, I have alot better chances. I'm actually going to Minn. over the week of 4th of july and I'm going to mingle. And honestly I think I'll better luck out there than online. But since I live and work in the rural part of ND all I can do is online. So my advice is don't just look online. Go out and mingle with people in your area!
Good luck ya'll!
Good luck ya'll!
candaice: Basicly i've chatted with a few men on here but i'm basicly scared to actually really take them serious,because most will say they lost there wife in a car accident and thats just to many guys using that line,but then what if someone actually has lost his wife? i just dont know how to seriously take anyone serious,and another thing everyone lives so far away and says they have no problem relocating but how is that? especialy when they tell you they got this job or this buisness ,i mean it seems like a red flag to me.and if someone said give me your address i wanna send you a gift what would you say....basicly im not gonna give out my address like that im scared!!!! anyway what you think ladies anyone have these same thoughts? if so what did you do? and basicly some people have success storys do you believe them? im just wondering what are some red flaggs? help?
You don't trust anyone until they can prove that they are trust worthy. It happens to me all the time here. You just keep going til that one person says what he means, but---it's still not a givin thing. Do background check's on these guys. I do it all the time, especially when they say there over seas including military men.
In response to: Basicly i've chatted with a few men on here but i'm basicly scared to actually really take them serious,because most will say they lost there wife in a car accident and thats just to many guys using that line,but then what if someone actually has lost his wife? i just dont know how to seriously take anyone serious,and another thing everyone lives so far away and says they have no problem relocating but how is that? especialy when they tell you they got this job or this buisness ,i mean it seems like a red flag to me.and if someone said give me your address i wanna send you a gift what would you say....basicly im not gonna give out my address like that im scared!!!! anyway what you think ladies anyone have these same thoughts? if so what did you do? and basicly some people have success storys do you believe them? im just wondering what are some red flaggs? help?
I wonder why every body scared to give someone's address or emails. Specially people who life's safe country's.i don't thinks its big deal given your email with someone even if he or she is screamer. If I give my addres with some one or my phone or my email do you guys think bad think will happen to me or I will be killed pls explane for me
candaice: Basicly i've chatted with a few men on here but i'm basicly scared to actually really take them serious,because most will say they lost there wife in a car accident and thats just to many guys using that line,but then what if someone actually has lost his wife? i just dont know how to seriously take anyone serious,and another thing everyone lives so far away and says they have no problem relocating but how is that? especialy when they tell you they got this job or this buisness ,i mean it seems like a red flag to me.and if someone said give me your address i wanna send you a gift what would you say....basicly im not gonna give out my address like that im scared!!!! anyway what you think ladies anyone have these same thoughts? if so what did you do? and basicly some people have success storys do you believe them? im just wondering what are some red flaggs? help?
Enter there names on White Pages.com; if they r Military; check with their CO's (Company Officer's ). Keep digging there is something out there to give them away. Yes I take my own advice. I trust to a certain point, but use ur head. If it sounds to good to be true, then dump him.
Hi Dear Candaice: You Are Right To See The Red Flags...My Name Is Dawn & I Am A Woman Here On CS/JoyfulNewDay!... And Ive been internet Dating For Over A Year And A half Now~* & Have been A Victim Of Everything You Could Think Of; I Think I've Been Through It! On Here My Name Is JoyfulNewDay!& I'm New To This Site & Learned The Ropes You Could Say!...Please Look At This Sites "Scam Warning" button At The Top & Click On It Above Pls. I Think That you May Have Overlooked Something Above~* You Will See & Hear Of the Latest Scams & That Has Been pretty Much my Experience...& Yes There Sure Is Allot Of Men~*Widows with children & Yes Car Accidents too! Or Cancer! But Allot Of Car Accidents! True...lolololol Best Is if they Send you A Video Cam Of Themselves As An e-mail Attachment & If you Have A Cell phone? Maybe? If You think You can Trust Them Try And Hear There Voice & Recognize Accents If You Heard One African Nigerian Then If They Say That There from Say; France Or England...Go On Wikipedia & Listen To Foreign Accents! I Think Best to Stick To The USA Also If They Won't Send You A video & Be Accountable? Forget Them...Also Later on~* Ask To Speak To Their Family members... & See if they Are Willing To Speak To Yours? but You must ask For The videos With Sound & movement; Not One Or The Other; But All Together! Do not Give Out Your Address & They Want The E-mail Address To Collect E-mail Lists & They Want More Pictures Too...Don't Give Them Out...Say that You will upload Some At The Site! So Do not Ever Give Out Your Mailing Address...Always meet Them In Your Home Town Where you Are Familiar With The Streets...so Know One Follows you Home After The Date! Do Everything Out in public & Tell Loved one Where You Are At! & Where You Are Going next! So Don't trust Anybody Unless They Will Be Visible, Transparent & Even Accountable on This internet facing You Are only Seeing A very Small window here!!! You Are Only Seeing The 10% Tips Of The Ice Burgs...The other 90% Is hidden Under the Surface Of The Waters...So be Wise & Be Careful...from One girlfriend To Another! Also Yes It Is possible To Meet A nice person And Set up Accountability Over The internet I Also Have Experienced That too! that Person Was A rarity! I Talked With His friends & His pastor...over phone & I Saw his church & pastor Over video Files Sent To me! & I Talked With Him For two Mths...until he flew me out...to Meet Him & his people in MO & I Live In Minnesota~ He Was A Christian too! Matured Spiritual Christian! Complete Shalom & & In God's~*Peace Dawn!:-)I Hope This helps~* I Bless You & The Lord God Protect You & his Holy Angels Surround You & Hide You Under His Wing! Amen.
Candice, make sure you aren't giving out anything that may put you in danger, and meet them in person when your ready.. If the guy pushes, move on... If you know that you have these fears don't let that stop you from chatting with them but if it isn't 100% sure then you block him... You just watch what they say to you and if it starts to seem odd to you then you listen to that and move on and let the next guy have a chance till it's right... Good luck!!!
Totally agree with you on that.. I have made mistakes and learned from them... Wish everyone luck in finding the right one...
Love this post thanks JoyfulNewDay!!!!
One more thing it takes learning the words and what to look for in the conversations and do not slip in on their scams if it is one.. Be sure to chat long enough to see what is right or wrong and if you aren't sure then, ask someone to help you a friend or someone here if need be...Good luck again and I am glad I looked at this post it has reminded me of my experiences and I have learned some that I can be safe with on here....
I must add that of late 8 in 10 of the men sending me notes or flowers are widowed. I don't buy it. Add distance, age 10 years or more younger, wants to use hacker's haven yahoo to chat. They want your IP address. With it they can send damaging junk to your computer, find where you live and lead there scammers to you fast and furiously. There's also a goodly amount of messages from men with PhDs but the writing suggest English as a second language or a 3rd grade education. Notice the lack of capital letter, a space after period or commas or worse run on sentences without any punctuation of a Caps. Last, look for studio / professional portraits some will be familiar famous people. The latest is of a roger Ebert, the film critic who has been dead more than a year.
This has all become so frustrating that I hate to open the new mail.
Be safe out here in the Wild West of the current era.
This has all become so frustrating that I hate to open the new mail.
Be safe out here in the Wild West of the current era.
candaice: Basicly i've chatted with a few men on here but i'm basicly scared to actually really take them serious,because most will say they lost there wife in a car accident and thats just to many guys using that line,but then what if someone actually has lost his wife? i just dont know how to seriously take anyone serious,and another thing everyone lives so far away and says they have no problem relocating but how is that? especialy when they tell you they got this job or this buisness ,i mean it seems like a red flag to me.and if someone said give me your address i wanna send you a gift what would you say....basicly im not gonna give out my address like that im scared!!!! anyway what you think ladies anyone have these same thoughts? if so what did you do? and basicly some people have success storys do you believe them? im just wondering what are some red flaggs? help?
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