1. The person never invites you to dinner in their neighborhood. Basically, this person doesn’t want to be seen when out with you.
2. Your date prefers to stay at your apartment giving you lame excuses for why you can’t come over to his or her place.
3. Your new honey pushes you to sleep together very, very quickly. (This might be because his or her paramour is conveniently out of town and this person doesn’t want to waste the free night’s opportunity.)
4. Some of the compliments bestowed on you sound clichéd or memorized. Or this person pulls you close and says, “Why are you standing so far away from me?” If your date walks and talks like a player... indeed be a player!
5. Your sweetie goes on a lot of business trips even on weekends.
6. When away on business, this new love of yours doesn’t provide details & doesn’t share the name and phone number of a hotel, either.
7. You start to notice that your new honey prefers to email you rather than call you.
8. Often when this person calls you, the calls are kept short, end abruptly &/or conducted in a barely audible voice.
9. When you first meet this love interest, you’re only given a work number & getting a cell-phone number is very slow-going.
10. Your new love is rarely available on weekends, national holidays, claiming business needs or that family crisis.
11. Your sweetie is always at work late… hmm.
12. This person is very vague with past relationships.
13. Your new honey repeats the same stories because he or she has forgotten who’s been told what.
14. When spending time with you, this person has frequent excuses to go for little walks with cell phone in hand. Or your new love seems to go to the restroom far too frequently & for far too long.
15. When with you, he or she doesn’t want to pick up certain calls in your presence.
16. This person is constantly online, even when with you, checking emails. If you come close when they're online, poof, the window is closed.
17. Your date never ever leaves the cell phone or BlackBerry out where you might see it.
18. Your date’s co-workers or friends seem a bit uncomfortable in your company.
19. You find out this person has friends who are players. (Often a group of immoral friends can work as a support system for each other’s immoral activities.)
20. You find out that your honey bunny cheated in past relationships. Statistically speaking, cheaters are suspect for cheating again.
***But please know that just because you feel your paramour is cheating, it doesn’t mean he or she definitely is. ***
If your suspicions, open up a direct dialogue. Don’t vaguely accuse. Be prepared to share as many concrete reasons as you can for doubting honesty.
Speak from the heart calmly & see what response you get. For instance...This is really hard to talk about but I feel it’s very important for both your happiness & mine to be honest however difficult. I am getting the vibe that you may be seeing someone else. I really care about you & if you are seeing someone else... of course it will hurt to hear but I truly want to understand what’s going on.
***If this person denies any two-timing & you continue to date, do not keep accusing or you could create a self-fulfilling cheating prophecy.***
However, if you get a denial but still feel suspicious, by all means, keep your eyes open.
But before you approach your date again about this topic, collect your evidence & be prepared to say good-bye!
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2. Your date prefers to stay at your apartment giving you lame excuses for why you can’t come over to his or her place.
3. Your new honey pushes you to sleep together very, very quickly. (This might be because his or her paramour is conveniently out of town and this person doesn’t want to waste the free night’s opportunity.)
4. Some of the compliments bestowed on you sound clichéd or memorized. Or this person pulls you close and says, “Why are you standing so far away from me?” If your date walks and talks like a player... indeed be a player!
5. Your sweetie goes on a lot of business trips even on weekends.
6. When away on business, this new love of yours doesn’t provide details & doesn’t share the name and phone number of a hotel, either.
7. You start to notice that your new honey prefers to email you rather than call you.
8. Often when this person calls you, the calls are kept short, end abruptly &/or conducted in a barely audible voice.
9. When you first meet this love interest, you’re only given a work number & getting a cell-phone number is very slow-going.
10. Your new love is rarely available on weekends, national holidays, claiming business needs or that family crisis.
11. Your sweetie is always at work late… hmm.
12. This person is very vague with past relationships.
13. Your new honey repeats the same stories because he or she has forgotten who’s been told what.
14. When spending time with you, this person has frequent excuses to go for little walks with cell phone in hand. Or your new love seems to go to the restroom far too frequently & for far too long.
15. When with you, he or she doesn’t want to pick up certain calls in your presence.
16. This person is constantly online, even when with you, checking emails. If you come close when they're online, poof, the window is closed.
17. Your date never ever leaves the cell phone or BlackBerry out where you might see it.
18. Your date’s co-workers or friends seem a bit uncomfortable in your company.
19. You find out this person has friends who are players. (Often a group of immoral friends can work as a support system for each other’s immoral activities.)
20. You find out that your honey bunny cheated in past relationships. Statistically speaking, cheaters are suspect for cheating again.
***But please know that just because you feel your paramour is cheating, it doesn’t mean he or she definitely is. ***
If your suspicions, open up a direct dialogue. Don’t vaguely accuse. Be prepared to share as many concrete reasons as you can for doubting honesty.
Speak from the heart calmly & see what response you get. For instance...This is really hard to talk about but I feel it’s very important for both your happiness & mine to be honest however difficult. I am getting the vibe that you may be seeing someone else. I really care about you & if you are seeing someone else... of course it will hurt to hear but I truly want to understand what’s going on.
***If this person denies any two-timing & you continue to date, do not keep accusing or you could create a self-fulfilling cheating prophecy.***
However, if you get a denial but still feel suspicious, by all means, keep your eyes open.
But before you approach your date again about this topic, collect your evidence & be prepared to say good-bye!