Dating rules (76)

Jan 28, 2018 11:07 AM CST Dating rules
Countah
CountahCountahNassau, Bahamas2 Threads 21 Posts
So ladies, I'm a guy and I know that women are offended when they go out on a date with a guy and he doesn't conform the the rules that you think should be adhered to, such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, buying the drinks, or paying for the meal; or is that old school and finished with? Me personally I feel that you fight for equality in everything so what the heck, pay your weight like the rest of the guys that you are fighting to be like banana Lol, just kidding. But seriously, what are the rules and what do you expect should happen on your dates.
Jan 28, 2018 11:15 AM CST Dating rules
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Countah: So ladies, I'm a guy and I know that women are offended when they go out on a date with a guy and he doesn't conform the the rules that you think should be adhered to, such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, buying the drinks, or paying for the meal; or is that old school and finished with? Me personally I feel that you fight for equality in everything so what the heck, pay your weight like the rest of the guys that you are fighting to be like Lol, just kidding. But seriously, what are the rules and what do you expect should happen on your dates.


I hope that my date would be with someone i like..am attracted to...am interested in and that that feeling is mutual.

My last first date i was on...the guy wanted to wine and dine ... we got on like a house on fire..had a great time and a great laugh.....wining and dining didnt happen...much to his annoyance....i said no to that and we ended up in mcdonalds eating a big mac.!! Lol

Im not high maintenance...im as happy going for a walk on the beach...go for a drink n a quiet pub.
Going for a walk etc than to be all fancy schmancy...im not a fancy schmancy person so not going to start now.
Jan 28, 2018 11:25 AM CST Dating rules
Dating rules? In my day I don't think they were labeled that way.A bunch of us went out and had fun together.There were some guys that tried to get into a girls pants but as a whole we had fun.

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Jan 28, 2018 1:06 PM CST Dating rules
Miwagi
MiwagiMiwagiFlyover, Kentucky USA72 Threads 2 Polls 3,170 Posts
Countah: So ladies, I'm a guy and I know that women are offended when they go out on a date with a guy and he doesn't conform the the rules that you think should be adhered to, such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, buying the drinks, or paying for the meal; or is that old school and finished with? Me personally I feel that you fight for equality in everything so what the heck, pay your weight like the rest of the guys that you are fighting to be like Lol, just kidding. But seriously, what are the rules and what do you expect should happen on your dates.


First you have to get a date. Here is some help with that

1. Finding a partner is a project and requires time and energy. If what you want is a long-term relationship, approach it with your goals in mind. The right mindset is key: Start out by knowing that you are in control of the process.

2. If you’re looking online, do your profile with a friend — this will help you lighten up. Don’t boast or be self-deprecating. Be funny, short and concise, and don’t sound too cutesy. A photo that shows you actively pursuing an interest is good because it offers information without being wordy.

3. Scan profiles selectively. Pick out three or four guys and signal your interest. When you contact someone, refer to a remark he/she made in their profile. If someone shows an interest in your profile, remember that you are not obligated to respond unless you want to. You be the judge.

4. With several prospects, start an email exchange. But limit your emails to no more than two or three before suggesting a face-to-face meeting. Anyone who wants to prolong emailing is not interested in a relationship. He/she likes the anonymity of email flirting. Avoid this person — he could be married, in another relationship or just a creep.

4. Arrange a coffee or drink at a convenient location. Talk about things you like to do, your job, college stories or recent experiences. (Be on time — showing up is at least 50% of success!)

5. Pay attention to whether there is a good balance in the conversation. Does he dominate? Do you? Are you finding common interests? Avoid talking about your or his problems. Do not give advice even if he is begging for it; this is a bad way to start. Stay upbeat.

6. On first dates, make sure you have other plans afterward and keep them, regardless of how things are going. If you’re underwhelmed with this person, you will have a good escape route. If you are having a great time and don’t want to leave, stick to your previous plan. If you are interested, say so explicitly upon leaving. (This may sound too forward, but there is nothing wrong about being clear.)

7. Offer to split the check. Nowadays, single, college-educated women under the age of 30 are often making more money than men, so don’t stand on ceremony waiting for him to pay.

8. Wait to see if he initiates an email or text. If he doesn’t, cross him off your list. He’s not interested or available. Start over.

9. If he emails or texts (or makes the extra effort to make a phone call!), respond, but move along and suggest meeting again. This should be a real date with a fixed time and place. If he wants to keep it spontaneous, with something like “Let’s try for Tuesday,” don’t bother putting it on your calendar. It’s just not likely to happen.

10. After you’ve met, beware of texts that arrive at odd times and are friendly but unaccompanied by a suggestion of a date. These are false positives because they suggest more intimacy than is real. Don’t be taken in. Most likely, he’s bored and is just playing with his phone. Respond only if you have seen him in person within the last week.
Jan 28, 2018 1:28 PM CST Dating rules
Countah: So ladies, I'm a guy and I know that women are offended when they go out on a date with a guy and he doesn't conform the the rules that you think should be adhered to, such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, buying the drinks, or paying for the meal; or is that old school and finished with? Me personally I feel that you fight for equality in everything so what the heck, pay your weight like the rest of the guys that you are fighting to be like Lol, just kidding. But seriously, what are the rules and what do you expect should happen on your dates.


Warning: Contradictory message coming up:

If it were a casual coffee date, I would be as likely to pay as him. I have paid more often than not.

If I felt I knew him well enough to go out to dinner with him on a first date, when it came to the bill, I would offer to split it, and be willing to.
But, and here the contradiction comes in (shoot me), if he accepted the split, I would pay my share but we would never be going on a date again.
If I didn't fancy him, I would absolutely insist on paying my share, as that would be a clean break.

I still feel it is a good sign if the man pays the bill on the first date. If we liked each other and we're then going out for drinks afterwards, I would pay for those, and I would also insist on paying for the meal on the 2nd date. After that, it just evens out organically.

It may sound weird, but that is what I do.
Jan 28, 2018 1:43 PM CST Dating rules
mollybaby: Warning: Contradictory message coming up:

If it were a casual coffee date, I would be as likely to pay as him. I have paid more often than not.

If I felt I knew him well enough to go out to dinner with him on a first date, when it came to the bill, I would offer to split it, and be willing to.
But, and here the contradiction comes in (shoot me), if he accepted the split, I would pay my share but we would never be going on a date again.
If I didn't fancy him, I would absolutely insist on paying my share, as that would be a clean break.

I still feel it is a good sign if the man pays the bill on the first date. If we liked each other and we're then going out for drinks afterwards, I would pay for those, and I would also insist on paying for the meal on the 2nd date. After that, it just evens out organically.

It may sound weird, but that is what I do.


confused confused why complicate anything anymore. Why should anyone pay for something someone else eats or drinks on a date.

I’m assuming here ‘dating’ is a word meaning doing something (chat over meal) to learn whether you want to know more about the other person and see if anything else can develop further.

Yeah I can see buying for someone else if it’s a special celebratory thing or post funeral etc. going on. I would feel used buying anyone’s meal otherwise and any woman worth the time I’ve dated has gone out of their way to avoid my feeling that way today. And these successful women don’t want a man thinking he’s owed anything if the man pays for anything.

If you can’t afford a meal get a J O B... laugh


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Jan 28, 2018 1:49 PM CST Dating rules
Why do some people complicate things when they aren't complicated to begin with.

Just go dutch usually solves most things.giggle
Jan 28, 2018 1:53 PM CST Dating rules
Countah: So ladies, I'm a guy and I know that women are offended when they go out on a date with a guy and he doesn't conform the the rules that you think should be adhered to, such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, buying the drinks, or paying for the meal; or is that old school and finished with? Me personally I feel that you fight for equality in everything so what the heck, pay your weight like the rest of the guys that you are fighting to be like Lol, just kidding. But seriously, what are the rules and what do you expect should happen on your dates.


These are all good questions people avoid answering. Maybe you could define what you mean by a ‘dare’ and whether you are talking about a first date or whatever? Are you there?
Halo statue ..... conversing I don’t th k he’s going to respond.



wave
Jan 28, 2018 1:54 PM CST Dating rules
Bearwoman: Why do some people complicate things when they aren't complicated to begin with.

Just go dutch usually solves most things.
thumbs up yeah get your own transportation too. Meet me at McDonalds. laugh
Jan 28, 2018 1:54 PM CST Dating rules
mollybaby: Warning: Contradictory message coming up:

If it were a casual coffee date, I would be as likely to pay as him. I have paid more often than not.

If I felt I knew him well enough to go out to dinner with him on a first date, when it came to the bill, I would offer to split it, and be willing to.
But, and here the contradiction comes in (shoot me), if he accepted the split, I would pay my share but we would never be going on a date again.
If I didn't fancy him, I would absolutely insist on paying my share, as that would be a clean break.

I still feel it is a good sign if the man pays the bill on the first date. If we liked each other and we're then going out for drinks afterwards, I would pay for those, and I would also insist on paying for the meal on the 2nd date. After that, it just evens out organically.

It may sound weird, but that is what I do.

So, if I'm not assertive enough, if I don't pull you across the table and shout down your ear to put your fekking wallet back in your handbag there's no second date.
If I do pull you across the table, all's fine by you and we can have another dinner one day.
I was under the impression you're a straight talker
dunno confused
Jan 28, 2018 1:55 PM CST Dating rules
galrads: These are all good questions people avoid answering. Maybe you could define what you mean by a ‘dare’ and whether you are talking about a first date or whatever? Are you there?
Halo statue ..... I don’t th k he’s going to respond.



‘Date’ not ‘dare’


frustrated
Jan 28, 2018 1:55 PM CST Dating rules
galrads: yeah get your own transportation too. Meet me at McDonalds.


Dealrolling on the floor laughing thumbs up
Jan 28, 2018 2:16 PM CST Dating rules
Cachuchi
CachuchiCachuchiunknown, Navarra Spain15 Threads 2 Polls 1,123 Posts
Sorry I can´t process rules, any sort of rules dunno
Jan 28, 2018 2:37 PM CST Dating rules
MetaMaus: So, if I'm not assertive enough, if I don't pull you across the table and shout down your ear to put your fekking wallet back in your handbag there's no second date.
If I do pull you across the table, all's fine by you and we can have another dinner one day.
I was under the impression you're a straight talker


I thought I was being straight confused

I said I would offer to pay half, but my preference is for him to pay on the first date.

Violence is not required cool
Jan 28, 2018 2:40 PM CST Dating rules
Cachuchi: Sorry I can´t process rules, any sort of rules



Wow, what about the tickle rule? I don’t remember whether it’s coochie coochie coo, Cachuchi, or ‘goochie goochie goo, Cachuchi’? But the rule says we giggle when tickled laugh



wave
Jan 28, 2018 3:03 PM CST Dating rules
Lilith10
Lilith10Lilith10unknown, Alberta Canada33 Threads 2,912 Posts
Countah: So ladies, I'm a guy and I know that women are offended when they go out on a date with a guy and he doesn't conform the the rules that you think should be adhered to, such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, buying the drinks, or paying for the meal; or is that old school and finished with? Me personally I feel that you fight for equality in everything so what the heck, pay your weight like the rest of the guys that you are fighting to be like Lol, just kidding. But seriously, what are the rules and what do you expect should happen on your dates.



I didn't know there were ruleswow

Has it been that long..uh oh
Jan 28, 2018 3:16 PM CST Dating rules
Cachuchi
CachuchiCachuchiunknown, Navarra Spain15 Threads 2 Polls 1,123 Posts
galrads: Wow, what about the tickle rule? I don’t remember whether it’s coochie coochie coo, Cachuchi, or ‘goochie goochie goo, Cachuchi’? But the rule says we giggle when tickled


I could say so many things here Gal devil ... I do not have tickles blues
(it´s cuchi cuchi, and my nick name comes from there...I don´t have tickles but the one who owns Cachuchi name in my house has)
Jan 28, 2018 5:55 PM CST Dating rules
Cachuchi: I could say so many things here Gal ... I do not have tickles
(it´s cuchi cuchi, and my nick name comes from there...I don´t have tickles but the one who owns Cachuchi name in my house has)


I was thinking something like that since it all has a familiar ring to it all. Like symmetry in tickle.
Jan 28, 2018 6:37 PM CST Dating rules
Cachuchi
CachuchiCachuchiunknown, Navarra Spain15 Threads 2 Polls 1,123 Posts
galrads: I was thinking something like that since it all has a familiar ring to it all. Like symmetry in tickle.


applause applause applause I´ll listen Janis/ Summertime today on your behalf ....I liked your comment ;) wave
Jan 28, 2018 7:54 PM CST Dating rules
Cachuchi: I´ll listen Janis/ Summertime today on your behalf ....I liked your comment ;)


Oh yes thanks I recall the post.... Janis’ version of Summertime smitten is extra dreamy super nice not unlike her favorite liqueur SC which she often had with her on stage during her performances. wave
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