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liketogetoknowyaCork, Ireland1 Threads 2 PostsTrying out this online dating for a second time but starting to think it's like online shopping for a partner. I'm sure their are plenty genuine ppl on here but do ppl have too much choice?
liketogetoknowya: Trying out this online dating for a second time but starting to think it's like online shopping for a partner. I'm sure their are plenty genuine ppl on here but do ppl have too much choice?
Yes, I think people have high expectations , they want to meet the "perfect" match , if one date doesnt workout they can get online immediately & line up another, am beginning to think the old fashioned way of meeting guys/physical attraction etc is the way to go, jmo 
I hear ya :)at least on ebay you have a buy it now option 
Just kinda hard these days to meet ppl out as it's a different ball game to what it used to be.
Just kinda hard these days to meet ppl out as it's a different ball game to what it used to be.liketogetoknowya: I hear ya :)at least on ebay you have a buy it now option Just kinda hard these days to meet ppl out as it's a different ball game to what it used to be.
Jaysis I forgot about ebay, must renew my account 
But you`re right, the pub/club scene is a waste of time these days....
liketogetoknowya: Trying out this online dating for a second time but starting to think it's like online shopping for a partner. I'm sure their are plenty genuine ppl on here but do ppl have too much choice?
I'm not sure if it's too much choice or too high expectations that makes things difficult online. It's hard to get to know someone well through a couple of emails and it's impossible to figure out if you will have the right chemistry with someone when you actually meet. We just have to be willing to take a little risk to find the right person, I suppose.LadyBlackAdder: I'm not sure if it's too much choice or too high expectations that makes things difficult online. It's hard to get to know someone well through a couple of emails and it's impossible to figure out if you will have the right chemistry with someone when you actually meet. We just have to be willing to take a little risk to find the right person, I suppose.
If its chemistry and a little risk your after i have a meth lab
sirLarryIII: If its chemistry and a little risk your after i have a meth lab
No thanks...I think I would need my wits about me around you 
LadyBlackAdder: No thanks...I think I would need my wits about me around you
AWWH..So its pointless now to send them coupla emails to get to know each other better,had the list of all previous convictions an everthing included.
sirLarryIII: AWWH..So its pointless now to send them coupla emails to get to know each other better,had the list of all previous convictions an everthing included.
Depends on who you were going to send them coupla emails to? The previous convictions might interest someone out there!liketogetoknowya: Trying out this online dating for a second time but starting to think it's like online shopping for a partner. I'm sure their are plenty genuine ppl on here but do ppl have too much choice?
No such thing as to much choice, do you want someone to be with you by choice or because they are settling for what is on offer?
LadyBlackAdder: I do believe a number of the gentlemen members are trying to instigate a "Try Before You Buy" scheme though. I have frequently been asked if they can have a test drive before they commit to a sale but it turned out I didn't want what they were offering.
I like the sound of this scheme, try before I buy ummmm perfect, so can I just try anybody???
WittyandWise: I like the sound of this scheme, try before I buy ummmm perfect, so can I just try anybody???
Witty, I'm sure no man on here would object to letting you have a test drive. You can find out how they handle on corners and what sort of speed they do. liketogetoknowya: Trying out this online dating for a second time but starting to think it's like online shopping for a partner. I'm sure their are plenty genuine ppl on here but do ppl have too much choice?
Online dating is like fishing in a bloody big pond?
Once you get past the profile, then emails, then phone calls, then maybe meet up? There is still a fair chance you will meet and think "hummmm - wasn't quite what I expected?
It's pot luck - I have got to the stage if I go to meet someone for the first time, it doesn't matter how well we have 'got on' with phone calls - it is still a 50/50 chance it may or may not work? And I have told guys that.
That way no one is too disappointed, we came, we saw, ..... we went back to the net! No hard feelings.
Meet lots of people is what my oldest son says, a highly attractive 26 year old, and don't linger, keep on the move until you find someone where it does feel 'different'. Then try explore that in more depth, but if it doesn't work out - move on, don't waste time. He says people should stop being scared of rejecting and being rejected, and I do agree with him on that. People can make others feel guilty or awkward, which is not fair. In a more complex world it is a more complex process, having to do with getting to know the self well, and also giving the self and others time to get to know each other. The latter is only worth it though if there is something that feels worth spending that time on. If it does not feel worth the time - set upon meeting the next individual.
Life is not just about surviving physically anymore/to reproduce with whatever highest ranking mate we can secure. Instead we also seek to fulfill now emotional and intellectual needs. Our ancestors for most parts didn't have time to develop and dwell on such things, and it is logical that this impacts our relationships. It is up to us to adapt to the new challenges and to smartly use every means provided to find the he or she who will be compatible. Having 'standards' is good, males and females alike, means we are aware of our needs, and others should not be upset if they don't fit a standard, but be glad they are dealing with someone guided by enough wisdom to not enter a relationship where important personal bases are not covered.
To build a house on solid foundations appears logical to all of us, and so should one check whether a relationship provides solid grounds before attempting to build a life of love and care on it. That's at least what I have learned for sure.
Life is not just about surviving physically anymore/to reproduce with whatever highest ranking mate we can secure. Instead we also seek to fulfill now emotional and intellectual needs. Our ancestors for most parts didn't have time to develop and dwell on such things, and it is logical that this impacts our relationships. It is up to us to adapt to the new challenges and to smartly use every means provided to find the he or she who will be compatible. Having 'standards' is good, males and females alike, means we are aware of our needs, and others should not be upset if they don't fit a standard, but be glad they are dealing with someone guided by enough wisdom to not enter a relationship where important personal bases are not covered.
To build a house on solid foundations appears logical to all of us, and so should one check whether a relationship provides solid grounds before attempting to build a life of love and care on it. That's at least what I have learned for sure.
tinyfangs: Meet lots of people is what my oldest son says, a highly attractive 26 year old, and don't linger, keep on the move until you find someone where it does feel 'different'. Then try explore that in more depth, but if it doesn't work out - move on, don't waste time. He says people should stop being scared of rejecting and being rejected, and I do agree with him on that. People can make others feel guilty or awkward, which is not fair. In a more complex world it is a more complex process, having to do with getting to know the self well, and also giving the self and others time to get to know each other. The latter is only worth it though if there is something that feels worth spending that time on. If it does not feel worth the time - set upon meeting the next individual.
Life is not just about surviving physically anymore/to reproduce with whatever highest ranking mate we can secure. Instead we also seek to fulfill now emotional and intellectual needs. Our ancestors for most parts didn't have time to develop and dwell on such things, and it is logical that this impacts our relationships. It is up to us to adapt to the new challenges and to smartly use every means provided to find the he or she who will be compatible. Having 'standards' is good, males and females alike, means we are aware of our needs, and others should not be upset if they don't fit a standard, but be glad they are dealing with someone guided by enough wisdom to not enter a relationship where important personal bases are not covered.
To build a house on solid foundations appears logical to all of us, and so should one check whether a relationship provides solid grounds before attempting to build a life of love and care on it. That's at least what I have learned for sure.
I think this very true but it is something that proves difficult for a lot of people to come to terms with. Personally, I have no problems with being rejected. If I really liked the guy, I have a little period of mourning and then get over it. However, I find it very hard to reject someone, especially if I can see he's a nice, decent man but he doesn't float my boat. I have difficulty in hurting someone's feelings but it's always better to be honest as soon as possible.Life is not just about surviving physically anymore/to reproduce with whatever highest ranking mate we can secure. Instead we also seek to fulfill now emotional and intellectual needs. Our ancestors for most parts didn't have time to develop and dwell on such things, and it is logical that this impacts our relationships. It is up to us to adapt to the new challenges and to smartly use every means provided to find the he or she who will be compatible. Having 'standards' is good, males and females alike, means we are aware of our needs, and others should not be upset if they don't fit a standard, but be glad they are dealing with someone guided by enough wisdom to not enter a relationship where important personal bases are not covered.
To build a house on solid foundations appears logical to all of us, and so should one check whether a relationship provides solid grounds before attempting to build a life of love and care on it. That's at least what I have learned for sure.
I like this post "tinyfangs" its so true.. we should hold out for the one who ticks all our boxes.. you could meet a gorgeous guy but what good is it if he plays mind games .... we should hold out and be patient for the one who truly makes us feel good all of the time... for if someone isn't treating you with respect ? there's no love there. in learning to love yourself first you're in a better place to attract the one for you ... what you seek is seeking you .. in the mean while we all wait :) ? I think just be happy :)
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sirLarryIII: Its a pity Willy Wonka is not a real person
a lot of them make believe he is 
WESTERNSTAR1: a lot of them make believe he is
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