FUNERALS.... (15)
Individual choice for everyone.Can't see there be any exact right or wrong to this one.People just do what feels right for them when such events arise imho.
i think you would have some really really serious problems going for not showing your face at a funeral.
I think that your friend who said "Funerals are for the living" was right. If you need to make peace, then why not at the funeral? Or go to show support for their loved ones. No need for anyone to know that ye fell out. Their death ended your dispute anyway.
best answer thus far..Orion34: Where's the name and shame thread?
Lol, you want me to name and shame you? Send me a dirty mail and I shall grant you your wish....
henonpause: Lol, you want me to name and shame you? Send me a dirty mail and I shall grant you your wish....
Sure I got one from you:
"Hey lad, I wanna suffocate you with me Boer Growler"
But really... I was looking for it, and it's gone...
Orion34: Sure I got one from you:
"Hey lad, I wanna suffocate you with me Boer Growler"
But really... I was looking for it, and it's gone...
"Hey lad, I wanna suffocate you with me Boer Growler"
But really... I was looking for it, and it's gone...
No doubt it was removed then - but perhaps the person named will think twice next time. Then again, from what I've seen on here at times, perhaps not, lol.
Boer Growler? lol wtf is that, or do I need to ask.
henonpause: Someone once said to me, "Funerals are for the living, they are not for the dead." Deep enough if you want to read into that.
One usually attends a funeral to pay last respects to someone you know.
What if you were estranged for years prior to the death due to some fallout? Are you then attending to appease your conscience? Make some one-sided peace? And would it be wrong NOT to attend the funeral, seeing as there was a breakdown in relations long before?
Opinions would be interesting to see...
One usually attends a funeral to pay last respects to someone you know.
What if you were estranged for years prior to the death due to some fallout? Are you then attending to appease your conscience? Make some one-sided peace? And would it be wrong NOT to attend the funeral, seeing as there was a breakdown in relations long before?
Opinions would be interesting to see...
Well, I agree that Funerals are for the living, I think we all get together and talk about the deceased and have a bit of craic and give them a send off.
If I was estranged from someone, then I suppose there would have been a reason on both sides for that. I think that I would stay away from the funeral and maybe remember the deceased in my own way on the day.
However, if I had only had a bit of a tiff with them I would probably go. My way of looking at it would be..we would have made up if death had not gotten in the way. If I had an argument with a good friend and they died before it was resolved, I would think..well we would have made it up...and I hope if roles were reversed that they would think the same.
You answered my question and dilemma, thank u x
henonpause: Someone once said to me, "Funerals are for the living, they are not for the dead." Deep enough if you want to read into that.
One usually attends a funeral to pay last respects to someone you know.
What if you were estranged for years prior to the death due to some fallout? Are you then attending to appease your conscience? Make some one-sided peace? And would it be wrong NOT to attend the funeral, seeing as there was a breakdown in relations long before?
Opinions would be interesting to see...
I wouldn,t go to the funeral but, I would pop a Mass card in the door of the deceased family.One usually attends a funeral to pay last respects to someone you know.
What if you were estranged for years prior to the death due to some fallout? Are you then attending to appease your conscience? Make some one-sided peace? And would it be wrong NOT to attend the funeral, seeing as there was a breakdown in relations long before?
Opinions would be interesting to see...
jt3jo: I wouldn,t go to the funeral but, I would pop a Mass card in the door of the deceased family.
What if the estranged person is part of your family?
henonpause: What if the estranged person is part of your family?
Then it is a difficult situation but keep in mind that no one even family members have the right to judge your relationship with the deceased. If you had an estrangement then it was between you and that person, maybe it would have been resolved down the line and maybe it wouldn't. Unfortunately death is pretty final and we lose our chance to resolve issues. I think that sometimes we beat ourselves up when someone dies...the person could have lived for another fifty years and our relationship with them would never have been resolved or healed...just.. death makes us think about that and sometimes we blame ourselves and listen to others opinions. I would imagine that if a person had become estranged from someone and that it bothered them, then there must have been a good part to that relationship/friendship once. So I would dwell on the good part rather than the estrangement and aftermath. I would just think about the good memories and that part of the relationship.
henonpause: What if the estranged person is part of your family?
its a tough one, but at the end of the day we attend funerals to show respect and support for the surviving family and friends of the deceased, not the deceased him/her self, so assuming you didn't fall out with the whole family, you kinda have to show your face for their sake and perhaps it may give you closure on what ever the disagreement you and the deceased had 
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One usually attends a funeral to pay last respects to someone you know.
What if you were estranged for years prior to the death due to some fallout? Are you then attending to appease your conscience? Make some one-sided peace? And would it be wrong NOT to attend the funeral, seeing as there was a breakdown in relations long before?
Opinions would be interesting to see...