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In response to: Have any of you ever noticed that its only after a relationship ends that people will say the negatives about them?
I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
you heard this from mates or so called mates ? dont believe all your hear is my advice I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
you heard this from mates or so called mates ? dont believe all your hear is my advice thumbs up ireland
PRETTYPOLLY1: Have any of you ever noticed that its only after a relationship ends that people will say the negatives about them?
I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
How many people do want to hear something negative about their partner?
A girl was going out with a friend of mine for years. I know him well enough to know he didn't have any interest in settling down and starting a family (something she absolutely wants).
She didn't ask me for my opinion and I wouldn't comment if someone doesn't ask for it. I did try to tell her once that she just should talk to him.
I would say something BEFORE they get it together. Once they are an item, it would fall on deaf ears and you're the bad guy.
mjpd67: you heard this from mates or so called mates ? dont believe all your hear is my advice thumbs up ireland
Didnt say i believed it or didnt believe it..thats not the point im making.
The point im making is that these people didnt think it was important to tell me during the relationship but couldnt wait to tell me after relationship ended..Just wondering have other people experienced this or would they tell their friend if they knew something that they thought their friend should be aware of..
PRETTYPOLLY1: Didnt say i believed it or didnt believe it..thats not the point im making.
The point im making is that these people didnt think it was important to tell me during the relationship but couldnt wait to tell me after relationship ended..Just wondering have other people experienced this or would they tell their friend if they knew something that they thought their friend should be aware of..
and im only saying from my own outlook and experiences dont believe all you hear,, jesus dont shoot me The point im making is that these people didnt think it was important to tell me during the relationship but couldnt wait to tell me after relationship ended..Just wondering have other people experienced this or would they tell their friend if they knew something that they thought their friend should be aware of..
KNenagh: How many people do want to hear something negative about their partner?
A girl was going out with a friend of mine for years. I know him well enough to know he didn't have any interest in settling down and starting a family (something she absolutely wants).
She didn't ask me for my opinion and I wouldn't comment if someone doesn't ask for it. I did try to tell her once that she just should talk to him.
I would say something BEFORE they get it together. Once they are an item, it would fall on deaf ears and you're the bad guy.
A girl was going out with a friend of mine for years. I know him well enough to know he didn't have any interest in settling down and starting a family (something she absolutely wants).
She didn't ask me for my opinion and I wouldn't comment if someone doesn't ask for it. I did try to tell her once that she just should talk to him.
I would say something BEFORE they get it together. Once they are an item, it would fall on deaf ears and you're the bad guy.
I dont think its a nice thing to do after the relationship ends either..mjpd67: and im only saying from my own outlook and experiences dont believe all you hear,, jesus dont shoot me
bang,bang..PRETTYPOLLY1: bang,bang..
but after hearing all this would you consider going back to this fella if the chance arose or would you believe your mates first ?????
ive a bullet proof vest on your grand PRETTYPOLLY1: I dont think its a nice thing to do after the relationship ends either..
I didn't, she figured it out herself, no point in adding to her misery.
mjpd67: but after hearing all this would you consider going back to this fella if the chance arose or would you believe your mates first ????? ive a bullet proof vest on your grand
Ex's are ex's for a reason..
What i heard or was told would definetly sway me not to go back even if that was an option..
PRETTYPOLLY1: Ex's are ex's for a reason..
What i heard or was told would definetly sway me not to go back even if that was an option..
What i heard or was told would definetly sway me not to go back even if that was an option..
I bet you still miss him or you wouldnt of written this thread
PRETTYPOLLY1: Have any of you ever noticed that its only after a relationship ends that people will say the negatives about them?
I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
My friends tend to tell me what they think anyway. They have my best interests at heart. So, I hear their opinions before, during, and after.
They knkn I will make up my own mind regardless anyway.
PRETTYPOLLY1: Have any of you ever noticed that its only after a relationship ends that people will say the negatives about them?
I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
...I suppose the thing is that if you are madly in love with the person what anybody else would think would not change that as you only see their good points.....all sorts of excuses are made to defend them....any advice given by others would fall on deaf ears....then when there is a breakup friends think they are helping to ease the pain by saying things about him and that you were too good for him etc....in actual fact it only makes you feel worse as you probably knew these things deep down all along yourself but your pride and love would not let you admit them.....I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?
mjpd67: I bet you still miss him or you wouldnt of written this thread
Actually no i dont miss him..i finished it for a reason and what i was told just reassured me my reasoning was right..I heard more today,stuff that was hard to believe but i actually dont care if its true or not but it just got me thinking..THATS why i started the thread
mollybaby: My friends tend to tell me what they think anyway. They have my best interests at heart. So, I hear their opinions before, during, and after.
They knkn I will make up my own mind regardless anyway.
most relationships can go through a rocky patch from time to time but would you give a fella a 2nd chance Molly no matter what your friends said about him if you had any little feelings for him or is your p45 final ?They knkn I will make up my own mind regardless anyway.
mollybaby: My friends tend to tell me what they think anyway. They have my best interests at heart. So, I hear their opinions before, during, and after.
They knkn I will make up my own mind regardless anyway.
They knkn I will make up my own mind regardless anyway.
I myself would tend to be like your friends..
OgGoDeo: ...I suppose the thing is that if you are madly in love with the person what anybody else would think would not change that as you only see their good points.....all sorts of excuses are made to defend them....any advice given by others would fall on deaf ears....then when there is a breakup friends think they are helping to ease the pain by saying things about him and that you were too good for him etc....in actual fact it only makes you feel worse as you probably knew these things deep down all along yourself but your pride and love would not let you admit them.....
I agree with you in what you say to a certain degree...at my age though i try not to let the heart rule the head
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I split up from a relationship a few months ago and within a week it was "oh he's this and he's that...and i always thought you were too good for him bla,bla,bla..."
And of course the untold stories come pouring out about him..
Where was all these stories before and why not tell them when the relationship was ongoing
Question here is would you make a person aware of the traits in their partner if you thought it would be in their best interest?