How is the best way to chat a women up that you have never spoke to before when you are shy and terr (89)

Well, it is confusing, isn't it? Also as people of course really do differ

I think for example the word 'confident' is wrong for me. Independent sort of sounds much better. Someone who doesn't make you feel your approval or disapproval makes or break their world. When someone gives me that feeling, it almost terrifies me, as I find that's an insane amount of responsibility. Puts me in an awful position, as I don't like hurting people, and I am certain many out there feel the same way.

I personally like the friends approach the best. You know a line like 'You seem nice and interesting, and I like to have nice and interesting friends, so if you are up for that, I'd like to stay in touch, but I'd also understand if you say you already have lots of friends, all fine'.
That I find pretty cool, leaves openings in all directions, but of course I like it, as to me it is important to first form a friendship. In my view people rush far too much, and desperation isn't the best adviser, I think.

And good in this is also, if someone takes you up on it, even if it doesn't lead to a couple relationship, you may at least really have won a new friend, and that can be just as valuable