windwalker2731: Post your response as to why you would and or wouldnt go out with someone that had kids id like to know your opinions
Depends on the person. I made friends with someone who shares custody of his 4 kids. On weekends, he taxis his kids around to what ever they are doing. He is not looking for a new mother or someone to take care of his kids. Somethings might involve going with him to his kids' events, and you might not get to date as much as some think you should. He is a great man, and did manage to find a lady who had no problems fitting into his life. She also has kids. It takes a lot of work, but for them they find the time to be with each other.
Dating now, involves families and kids. Dating for people my age is not the same as young people. We are not only dealing with our kids, but with our work schedule, ex's, aging parents, extended families and in some cases health issues. If you truly want a relationship, you will both have to deal with and be there for each other for all of the above.
I feel that if the person I am with, will have to deal with my having kids, even if they are grown, (one with a disability) and the foster kids I help look after, then I should also be willing to deal with the other person having kids.
Question ... would you want to be with someone who does not want to accept your kids?
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