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What I am looking for is perspective on what constitute "baggage" from a previous relationship.
I was married for 18 years, 21 years together. Got separated last Sep. I would say that I am over that relationship. There are good memories, but since the separation, there are a LOT of tension and alienation between my ex and me over spousal support, net family property value, anything that impact on my lifestyle - and a SEVERE impact at that. We both have filed for divorce this summer.
The question is: Does the legal proceedings - division of property value, divorce constitute "BAGGAGE"?
If it is, in your opinion, is it/would it be a deciding factor into whether you chose to enter into a relationship with someone in these conditions?
Is it better to look for a relationship AFTER the dust has settled?
Thanks for your inputs/opinions
From sunny and balmy North Bay - funny how quickly things change over a weekend in this town
Sylvain sends