Would you trust her on here (15)

My ex wife cheated on me with someone she found online, so did my girlfriend when I caught her. Canyou trust a woman who comes to these sites? Next relationship I will not allow her to come to these kind of sites. Would you let your girlfriend or wife come on this site?

It is late. I need to sleep. I will try not to go all "Dr. Phil" on you here, but then again, you raise some points with but a few words,..

YES, I would.

Relationship breakdown and cheating existed LONG before the advent of the internet! If you worry about her here, what about at work? Wjat about when she goes out for a "girls night out"? What about those times when she is god knows where doing god knows what? As long as men and women have existed and entered into relationships, trust is an issue,...if you let it become one.

You say you WON'T ALLOW her to be on these sites? That may work, but does it solve the problem? That you do not trust her? Remember, a true leader just moves forward,, and by his or her actions, respect is gained, and people will naturally follow. That is leadership. To "control" via iron-fist,...yes,...they will follow,...hog-tied and being dragged and will try to escape at the first chance! Look, if she is gonna cheat, she is gonna cheat! What you need to understand is why she would be tempted to. Communication is vital.

Strive to be the best you can be. Support her to be the best she can be! Realize that people need "space" to be themselves, to grow, to breathe! Do not need her to "complete you". Want her on every level! Seek to buld a relationship wherein you compliment each other!

Hey, we all have faults. So does this planet. Focus on the faults and erosion and quakes occur. Focus on the strengths and storms can be weathered.

Yes, temptation can be found online,...as it can be found in ANY socially interactive venue. What can I say? Cheating is nothing more than "erosion" of a relationship. Seek to build individual strength within yourself, promote her growth and work on building a happy and healthy relationship,....for the stronger the foundation that you build, the more difficult it is to erode and the easier it is to repair - unless a god dang asteroid comes hrtling in at 36,000 miles per hour!

Yes, I would, to answer your question, but I would try my best to create a life where she simply wuld be too busy enjoying life to even boot up the computer!

Good luck bro!

I suppose for myself it would depend on what was mutually agreed upon between my partner and myself. I would respect their choice for in the end any relationship would be more important to me than being on a website.

One has to realize that temptation comes to us each and every day ..... so if the relationship is strong and vibrant I think someone's desire to look elsewhere is strongly diminished. So put the focus where its important - your partner ....... not in the sense that their every move is scrutinized for in that type of approach you are smothering another ..... give someone freedom ... they make their own choice to be with you or not.

Are you two some kind of shrinks? It is easy to say what to do, but unless you have been cheated on theyre just words

definitely not a shrink, but perhaps just not hurting ......

You wont "allow" her??? ahahahahhahha good luck with that

Nope, not a shrink WC. Just speaking from the heart and the head and experiences I have gained while attending the "School of Hard Knocks!"

I am thinking the day of clubbing a woman and dragging her home thankfully are long over... Women in general are very happy to be in a committed relationship. They search for contentment, security , happiness and usually long term longevity. Sooo,... I find it hard to believe all women are like this, I have a beautiful wife that I fully trust and would have no issues with her online anywheres including adult content websites.

Sometimes the change that is required comes from within.