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maryrachelle: Because immigration would not allow him to move into my country. We did not know this would happen at first and was jerked around for years. Now keep in mind my experience was years ago so this is not a part of my life today. He was willing to relocate, but the government of Canada was not. No way was I going to relocate to Japan. I can't even learn french so forget about Japanese.
I am sorry that you had such a sad experience...guess you really don't want to hear that old adage that everything that happens, happens for a reason, and sometimes that reason is never revealed 100%. 
But, I can tell you that it is never too late, that we mus take risks, we must open out hearts and minds, because there is so much out there for each of us, sometimes it is just hidden away a bit. 
And believe me, it is scary, on so many levels, but ...hmmmmm....I honestly believe in MHO, it is so worth it.
Have a great day, and keep posting... 
maryrachelle: Because immigration would not allow him to move into my country. We did not know this would happen at first and was jerked around for years. Now keep in mind my experience was years ago so this is not a part of my life today. He was willing to relocate, but the government of Canada was not. No way was I going to relocate to Japan. I can't even learn french so forget about Japanese.
I am sorry this has happened...
but i quess not everything is 100% proof...
Its hard being in a LDR...
It will be hard for me and my child in the States...
Becos alot of things are so different then in Canada...
But as i said i will try it..but if we find things hard or difficult...
he is willing to relocated back to Canada...
All the best
NewtoBrandon: Anyone else in a long distance relationship, I'm in one now, and although it's working great, the distance is getting to me and because of his schedule for the next month I won't be able to see him much, how do you cope?
You have been given lots of advise and opinions. The only ones who will really can make this choice, will be you. I hope you were not given too much to worry and think about.
Life is too short... and not meant to be lived full of what if's. Only you and your young man can decide if it's right or wrong for you both.
You are already asking yourself the right questions. Sit down, get a pen and paper. Put a line down the middle of the paper. Mark one side of the line positive/pro's and on the other side negatives/con's. Make a list. You might find your answer that will help YOU decide.
Even write down everything you are wondering about, whether it's good or bad. You can do it in the style of a journal or diary. It can help you free up some of your fears, but also help you see clearly what choice you might want to make.
Even a perfect relationship has it's rough moments. You have been given negative experiences and positive ones, but just because that is what someone else experienced, it does not always mean it will be that way for you. You can take charge of yourself, and decide what is BEST FOR YOU.
Only word of advise, do what is best for you first in this situation. You can care and love this young man with all your heart, but if you just think about him and give up all of yourself, that is not a positive. Talk with him, let him know how you feel and what your concerns are. If he is the right one, he will be there for you no matter what your decision is. Moving is a big decision and you seem to have thought of all kinds of concerns most people do not before taking on something like this.
Wish you both the best no matter what you choose to do.
KHD100: .........
Life is too short... and not meant to be lived full of what if's. Only you and your young man can decide if it's right or wrong for you both.
Even a perfect relationship has it's rough moments. You have been given negative experiences and positive ones, but just because that is what someone else experienced, it does not always mean it will be that way for you. You can take charge of yourself, and decide what is BEST FOR YOU.
Only word of advise, do what is best for you first in this situation. You can care and love this young man with all your heart, but if you just think about him and give up all of yourself, that is not a positive.........
Life is too short... and not meant to be lived full of what if's. Only you and your young man can decide if it's right or wrong for you both.
Even a perfect relationship has it's rough moments. You have been given negative experiences and positive ones, but just because that is what someone else experienced, it does not always mean it will be that way for you. You can take charge of yourself, and decide what is BEST FOR YOU.
Only word of advise, do what is best for you first in this situation. You can care and love this young man with all your heart, but if you just think about him and give up all of yourself, that is not a positive.........
This is one of the best answer to your question KHD100
Ray33: This is one of the best answer to your question KHD100
This is one of the best answer to your question NEWTOBRANDON
Small mistake...lol
NewtoBrandon: Anyone else in a long distance relationship, I'm in one now, and although it's working great, the distance is getting to me and because of his schedule for the next month I won't be able to see him much, how do you cope?
I don’t bloody care about the distance if she was worth it.
Even if she was at the end of the world I go to her.
That’s what I call it LOVE AND DETERMINATION.
I was in a long distance relationship. The calling, emailing, and visiting electronically were fun. We spent hours of time "together" several times a day on the phone. Getting together physically initially was fabulous and we both travelled far to see each other. When we were apart I looked forward to the emails, cards, flowers and music he would send. It was very romantic.
Then we were able to spend many continuous weeks together. He relaxed from his best behaviour and some traits that were unacceptable came out. Between that and the stress of the distance it ulltimately ended.
I just wish I knew how to tell about the deal breaker behaviours sooner even if they don't want to show that side of themselves. Alcohol turned out to be a huge issue and it literally broke my heart to let the man go but survival first right.
All I can say is find out everything you possibly can early so you don't waist time on someone who is better suited to somebody else. How to do this in a long distance relationship is the big question since people can hide lots about themselves in the miles between visits. I wish you all the best, stay positive and busy between communications and visits.
Good luck in love.
punchingodo
Then we were able to spend many continuous weeks together. He relaxed from his best behaviour and some traits that were unacceptable came out. Between that and the stress of the distance it ulltimately ended.
I just wish I knew how to tell about the deal breaker behaviours sooner even if they don't want to show that side of themselves. Alcohol turned out to be a huge issue and it literally broke my heart to let the man go but survival first right.
All I can say is find out everything you possibly can early so you don't waist time on someone who is better suited to somebody else. How to do this in a long distance relationship is the big question since people can hide lots about themselves in the miles between visits. I wish you all the best, stay positive and busy between communications and visits.
Good luck in love.
punchingodo
NewtoBrandon: Anyone else in a long distance relationship, I'm in one now, and although it's working great, the distance is getting to me and because of his schedule for the next month I won't be able to see him much, how do you cope?
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If you are not willing to relocate....
I am willing and so was he...
but if you are dead set against moving...Usually people go into LDR..and think about the possiblities..
of moving...
If you knew b4 you were not going to move then why be
in this situation...
Because immigration would not allow him to move into my country. We did not know this would happen at first and was jerked around for years. Now keep in mind my experience was years ago so this is not a part of my life today. He was willing to relocate, but the government of Canada was not. No way was I going to relocate to Japan. I can't even learn french so forget about Japanese.