when you date someone, is it true (14)

..that you are dating them AND their families??

this subject came up in one of the conversations with me and my pals....a "newbie" to our circle of friends said this:

when you date/marry someone, you aren't just with them, but their whole family!!!!

this was cause for much discussion....cause I truly do NOT agree that someone's sibling OR family memebers chosen path should affect the person that you are interested with!

There were sooooo many biased opinions to this....bowever, I tend to differ with that statement in the sense that if you are with someone, of course you bave to accept their family, may it be "the cleavers" or "the addams family" but that should NOT be the final decision of "if" you should stay with that person

I don't believe that the person being persued should suffer the consequences that others have inflicted upon themselves....

anywho, just wondering how you guys feel about that

would someone's family be the "yay or nay" as to dating someone??? and if so, why???


curvy

I think it depends on the family situation. If the other person has kids, that are living with them. Yes, you are marrying a family. If you and your partner are going to live in the same house, farm yard, or the house next door as your partners parents. It may seem like you are marrying the family. Why? because they are there to watch every move and criticize everything. I have seen marriages desintigrate because of this. Yet I have seen parents welcome the new inlaw with a posittive attitude, and even though the young family lives close by, they mind their own business and keep their criticism to themselves. In that case, no you did not marry the family. But married into the family.

i agree with loner but if u marry them you also get their family, their friends and pets. If there negtives in there you get the negtives if its postive kewl
Cass

having my heart on my sleeve I believe that if love both ways is involved then whatever or whoever comes with your partner means nothing to you both. if you love each other truly then you have to be able to forget all and be able to be just happy together no matter what anyone else thinks or says. No one can get in the way. Period.

Yes it's true. Especially if one of both of the people have children.

My fiancee and I spend time with both our families, and because our parents are older and need us to help them, some of the time my fiancee and I spend together is when we are with his or my parents.

My mother is battling a serious illness at the moment, and my fiancee and I have been over there a lot.

My sons live with me, so he does have to interact with them.

I am not sure if it's true for younger people with no kids and parents that are not seniors, and/or dealing with illness's.

In my case, both of us, I feel were dating each others families as well.

FYI: NO kids are involved...they are both single persons....

I was talking of their EXTENDED families, being brothers, sisters, cousins, parents ...etc....

its funny but i was rased to beleave you merry the famly when you merry the bride/groom


but i dont think my ex famly beleaved in that be case if i coold be dropt in a pit and soned me thay wold have as i beleave thay had some thing to doo with the deteriealisashon of the merrig as well as my ex and i have to also point the finger of blaime back at my self as well


but i was rased you mery the bride and the famly is part of that as well

my opinyin

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