Photos on profiles (15)
canairforcetechTrenton, Ontario Canada4 Threads 130 PostsI'm curious and would like to hear folks opinions about this. As visually-oriented as humans are, why do people not put photos on their profiles? I know from talking to lots of people that in MOST cases, there has to be that initial "spark" of visual attraction, then we move along from there. To my way of thinking, you can have an absolutely WONDERFUL personality matchup but if the physical component isn't there, it's not going to be a successful relationship. C'mon folks...let's hear those opinions!
Wow!!! Doesn't anybody have something to say about this? Is it something that's been talked to death before? Is there anybody OUT there? 
too shy or they absolutely have nothing to show for themselves 
jmo
jmo
I can only speak for myself, so here goes. Yes it was my photo that caught Glen's eye and after going back to me several times, he finally contacted me. Yes there was something in his pic that attracted me...it was not posed, it was random and so real. But, what really got my curiosity going was his "name", I mean who the heck calls himself pigpen on a dating site??? Somebody who is casual, quietly confident and funny? Yep...and the so the story goes. But very quickly into it all we connected on far more than a physical level, of course...but the physical attraction is definitely there in real life...so 
I do know this, I chose to stay on site because I enjoy the forums...and I still get mail from men who seen my pic...but they don't read my profile; and if they did, they would not bother contacting
Pictures are nice, but this is the internet - they could end up anywhere. I guess it depends on what you're looking for as to whether how a person looks really matters or not - with regard to attraction. If a person is looking to just make friends and chat then it wouldn't really matter.
There's my 2 cents.
There's my 2 cents.
I've also heard it said that some women don't post photos BECAUSE they're very pretty and that they get e-mails of a type they don't want (ie: requests for intimate encounters) when they have a pic posted. Anyone had that experience? Women OR men?
Some post photos used in magazines or ads... There have been some people that contacted me with different names, countries etc and the photo has been used for other profiles.
Some people do not post photos because they do not want friends etc to see them on a singles site, they are in a relationship and cheating, do not have a way to put a photo on a a public computer, are shy and won't show a photo until they are comfortable with it, and the most important reason... scammers might not use a photo.
Some people do not post photos because they do not want friends etc to see them on a singles site, they are in a relationship and cheating, do not have a way to put a photo on a a public computer, are shy and won't show a photo until they are comfortable with it, and the most important reason... scammers might not use a photo.
KHD100: Some post photos used in magazines or ads... There have been some people that contacted me with different names, countries etc and the photo has been used for other profiles.
Some people do not post photos because they do not want friends etc to see them on a singles site, they are in a relationship and cheating, do not have a way to put a photo on a a public computer, are shy and won't show a photo until they are comfortable with it, and the most important reason... scammers might not use a photo.
Some people do not post photos because they do not want friends etc to see them on a singles site, they are in a relationship and cheating, do not have a way to put a photo on a a public computer, are shy and won't show a photo until they are comfortable with it, and the most important reason... scammers might not use a photo.
Yup. You're absolutely right. There are so many reasons why people might not...but I guess for wingnuts like me, it makes more sense to post one. lol...I may not be pretty, but I'm real.
I actually DO know of a woman in the military who was in an instructor's position and who got into a wee bit of trouble with her chain-of-command for having a profile on a dating site. It seems that some students found it and were somewhat amused by that. To me, that seemed very childish.
i totally agree. there has to be some physical attraction. so ya a picture is helpful.
although
it has to be a REAL picture of yourself. way to many people put pictures of models or photoshop pics etc on sites. of course you can normally tell if its a real pic or not. but not always.
so be real people
although
it has to be a REAL picture of yourself. way to many people put pictures of models or photoshop pics etc on sites. of course you can normally tell if its a real pic or not. but not always.
so be real people
I also like profiles with photos, which is why I made sure put my own photos up for scrutiny. I believe photos do reveal a little about a person. More than one photo is even better.
Even the photos of models that scammers use, can reveal the scammer. (pictures and profile don't match)
Even the photos of models that scammers use, can reveal the scammer. (pictures and profile don't match)
One's job,
too shy,
too pretty,
not so pretty,etc,
who knows...but once you start conversing and have personal mail photo's can and should be exchanged.
However is always nice to have a general idea as to who it is your talking to,even if by chance that person may or may not be who there photo say's them to be ...lol
too shy,
too pretty,
not so pretty,etc,
who knows...but once you start conversing and have personal mail photo's can and should be exchanged.
However is always nice to have a general idea as to who it is your talking to,even if by chance that person may or may not be who there photo say's them to be ...lol
i kind of form a mental image to keep track of who im talking to in my mind so i like a photo to see, as for my own foto it is real handy when im scroling on different threads to see where i left off,also it is real easy to pick out and it does send a message that hey im still working and i got a regular paychek that im not a broke loser
I agree with what you say; people should post their pics. For some people, they don't post their pictures due to their jobs, careers etc. Other reasons could be they don't want their neighbors or friends knowing they are on a dating site. The obvious could be they are still married?
canairforcetech: I'm curious and would like to hear folks opinions about this. As visually-oriented as humans are, why do people not put photos on their profiles? I know from talking to lots of people that in MOST cases, there has to be that initial "spark" of visual attraction, then we move along from there. To my way of thinking, you can have an absolutely WONDERFUL personality matchup but if the physical component isn't there, it's not going to be a successful relationship. C'mon folks...let's hear those opinions!
In response to: I'm curious and would like to hear folks opinions about this. As visually-oriented as humans are, why do people not put photos on their profiles? I know from talking to lots of people that in MOST cases, there has to be that initial "spark" of visual attraction, then we move along from there. To my way of thinking, you can have an absolutely WONDERFUL personality matchup but if the physical component isn't there, it's not going to be a successful relationship. C'mon folks...let's hear those opinions!
Hi, I agree with canair about having photos on their profile. I think that it's not fair - I put myself out there for all to see - I'm honest and I can tell who's not - to me, it's a sign that either you're ashamed of your face, you're wanted, you're married, you're in another relationship.
If you can't be honest about posting a photo, how do you want me to believe the rest of what you might have to say.
Everybody knows somebody, small town or not, people will talk, so what? If you don't make a big deal out of it, they'll get tired & give up. There's nothing shameful in trying to find a partner, be it online, in a bar, etc. At least, some of the work is done online. I, like canair, agree that pics of you doing something that shows your personality or occupation, etc. are the best, but have at least 1 pic of you close-up & in focus, please.
I pass right over profiles with no pics., so there.
i can only speak for myself, but, i am simply not that technical on the computer.
Plus, i absolutely hate having pictures taken of myself. Not extremely photogenic, yet, i don't really consider that i am bad looking either. I actually do own a camera, and have probably only used it twice, and have never developed the pictures.
And i have to be honest, i prefer the fact that other people have pictures, so that you can put a name to a face etc.
Plus, i absolutely hate having pictures taken of myself. Not extremely photogenic, yet, i don't really consider that i am bad looking either. I actually do own a camera, and have probably only used it twice, and have never developed the pictures.
And i have to be honest, i prefer the fact that other people have pictures, so that you can put a name to a face etc.
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