How soon do you hold hands when you start going out with someone? (43)
In response to: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
I dont think you can put a time on it.After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
Honestly with me personally I am very gun shy. I usually take the stand off approach, keep my personal space so to speak.
But when you meet someone that you know is just right, its just there. It will come naturally.
I think thats the key, when it comes natural its real.
If you need to think about it, dodge it, not look forward to it. Then there is a problem.
i agree with sxc theres no time limit on it, some people are touchy feely others arent ,down to individual
I agree with the above opinons...
Most people know when the timing is right for them...
Most people know when the timing is right for them...
When it feels right too! Hi Kezza
revealer24: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
about half an hour.Then it's off to bed we go.After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
awesome71: about half an hour.Then it's off to bed we go.
so you don't like to rush things then 
sxc666: so you don't like to rush things then
Yer I figure the women like the romantic approach.
I think 6 months is bit too long? 
awesome71: about half an hour.Then it's off to bed we go.
Jeez, some people love to rush .. Hi Ho Hi Ho and off to
Merriweather: Jeez, some people love to rush .. Hi Ho Hi Ho and off to bed wed we go...
That's taking my time.If I was in a rush we would skip all that holding hands and kissing stuff.In response to: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
I don't think I have ever really held hands with anybody.
I much prefer my personal space than having someone hanging onto me. I am not really a touchy feely person at all, even when people touch me when they are speaking I feel a bit 'invaded'. My mum is always telling people about my 'ring of confidence, I think she means my 'personal space' 
but some people get really offended that I seem standoffish and probably sometimes look confused when they come in to give me a peck on the cheek. 
You probably should make an attempt at holding their hand after you have slipped a bit of tongue in.
Of course, the main reason (and probably why hand holding evolved) is that if you have control of their hand they won't be able to slap, stab or strangle you.
Of course, the main reason (and probably why hand holding evolved) is that if you have control of their hand they won't be able to slap, stab or strangle you.
perhaps a good arm wrestle is the way to break down those touchy feely barriers.
Im not into hand holding myself.
If Im with someone Im really into Im generally walking shoulder to shoulder with them or I tend to put my hand on their arm
Im not into hand holding myself.
If Im with someone Im really into Im generally walking shoulder to shoulder with them or I tend to put my hand on their arm
I like to hold hands , if all is comfortable on the first date its nice to hold hands plus I get to feel if his feelings are the same ,he / she will balk at holding your hand if their is no attraction Alot can be asertained by the touch of a hand .
kizzy27: I like to hold hands , if all is comfortable on the first date its nice to hold hands plus I get to feel if his feelings are the same ,he / she will balk at holding your hand if their is no attraction Alot can be asertained by the touch of a hand .
I wish I could but I find it really uncomfortable (not only personally but physically) holding hands, and walking arm in arm. I feel uncoordinated or like I am being held down. And another thing I dislike is sitting on someone's lap??
I know...i am messed up! 
revealer24: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
On the first date after the garlic prawns and VB's, you place your hand on hers, swing her around while throwing your other hand behind her to give a big embrace and then plant a big smoochie tongue kiss on her. After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
akaRALF: I wish I could but I find it really uncomfortable (not only personally but physically) holding hands, and walking arm in arm. I feel uncoordinated or like I am being held down. And another thing I dislike is sitting on someone's lap?? I know...i am messed up!
It's a generational thingakaRALF: I wish I could but I find it really uncomfortable (not only personally but physically) holding hands, and walking arm in arm. I feel uncoordinated or like I am being held down. And another thing I dislike is sitting on someone's lap?? I know...i am messed up!
I don't think you are messed up Ralph. I think we all have little things that we feel invade our personal space. Mine is people that get right up in your face when they talk. I can't stand it.I personally love sitting on someones lap. But as I said we all have a little erks and perks.
sxc666: I don't think you are messed up Ralph. I think we all have little things that we feel invade our personal space. Mine is people that get right up in your face when they talk. I can't stand it.
I personally love sitting on someones lap. But as I said we all have a little erks and perks.
I don't like new dates sitting on my lap, it confuses my head and messes with my emotions.I personally love sitting on someones lap. But as I said we all have a little erks and perks.
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After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?