Are religious/spiritual people happier? (46)

Hi Obs... I have been down the black hole of hell meds helped a lot but went through hell again coming off the damn things.
There is now a new generation of antidepressants out there now that dont have those problems anymore.

I have to agree with the others about religion I am agnostic and I believe so many turn to it because of the fear of death and or utter loneliness.

There are so many options out there, for instance if you love dogs get a Border Collie pup and join a Border Collie Club' this breed are so damn smart and they love competing' it seems a really social thing and every one involved seems to have a ball...also more ladies go than men....just a thought.

At my lowest point I felt I still had so much love to give'I took a critical look at myself in the mirror (hmmm not to bad) and thought RIGHT gotta get out there and find someone to love so I checked out heaps of dating sites and found three that suited me best and joined up'about 2 years and about 50 or so dates a few short/longer term relationships at last I found the one.

If in case you dont succeed GET BACK OUT THERE and never be afraid to make first contact at worst they can only ignore you or say no it happens to everyone at best you have a date.

I will tell you now' I think a lot of ladies will say yes to you so get going.

Depression Well it is not good had episode in early twenties
motionless could not trust talk at all to any family.
Been active challenging yourself eating well.lay off the pollutants.Faith,personal beliefs are definate benficial to your wellbeing.KEEP GOOD COMPANY.

No I wouldn’t say they are happier but you will find some religious beliefs or customs have proven to be a healthier choice than what most would do in normal life,

I always mark myself down as a Jedi, a running joke at most work places I have worked at,

As for depression, I have always said no matter how bad your situation there is always someone out there that is feeling worse,

You have to think off the things in your life that are positive and what never could be replaced, I always think off the kid, the rest off my stuff is just stuff,

as i was diagnosed with depression/anxiety i have read lots of books on this topic....it seems to me that depression/anxiety is caused by trying to live up to other ppls expectations......once i let that go and try to live up to my own expectations those feelings left me.......my picture of god is probably not like a lot of others but i do know that joining a church/group of people that have your interests at heart can only be a good thing.....most christians are quite caring people and will take you under their wing and help you if you let them.......also getting off the grog was a huge help for me.....wakeing up with a hangover is very depressing in itself, wether you suffer depression or not

i was bought up in many different churches but it wasnt until i went to a spiritualist group that i found my truth........one of the seven principals of spiritualism is.......it is up to the individual what spiritualism means for them......this is something i never found in church......most religions seem to tell you that you will GO TO HELL if you dont follow their prescribed program....i think that is crap.....it is up to you what works for you.....good luck in your search!

Thanks guys for your informative suggestions. I'm feeling a lot better at the moment as I'm changing medications so I'm pretty optimistic.
Obviously I was never serious about taking up a religion or faith or spirituality or however one wants to differentiate it. I was brought up in a strict religion so I guess that left a mark on me.
The weekend riots show clearly what harm religion can do - plenty of other religions have had their dark chapters too.

One of my mates was going through a bad time. We had lived across the road from each other, our kids went to school together and we were part of a close neighbourhood group. We both were tossed out of our homes a week apart. Ended up we would catch up each week for a drink and a chat. He always said "Wash, you have plans. You talk about travelling to Scotland and Austria. Yuo do your trips away when you can. I can't plan these things because I don't know what is going to happen."

My reply was "these are plans. Things I want to do. But maybe I will never get to Scotland and Austria. But it is a plan. Something to aim for."

Few weeks later, he told me that he had decided to finally get his teeth fixed. Gawd awful mess they were. And after it was done, he was a changed man. Went on to get a great job with lots of overseas travel (and I got sick of hearing how he went here there and everwhere) and met the "girl of my dreams."





So I moved interstate and never did hear how things turned out.


So Obs, make a plan how you aim to help yourself. And you may get distracted along the way.

Although, I did get a bit distracted on this post when thinking about the mention of the sunbaking in the backyard mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Defintely a distracting thought.